Monday, June 08, 2015
Gosh...haven't written in about a month...in 'diet years' that's a long time! I think it was 'sparked' (forgive the pun) by something I read in someone else's blog.
Reaching for the carrot. You know...the donkey or horse,,,and you hang a carrot on a stick out in front of them...to make them move....Im pretty sure a carrot wouldn't do that for me, personally,,,but a horse or donkey...a carrot is good stuff, right? ...of course you get the point.....so...
Why...when we hit a goal...does it seem like the carrot moves out...just a bit further...? Is it a bad thing? Not necessarily...but dangling the carrot (motivation) shouldn't be all there is, should it? ..I mean,,,does the horse get to eat the carrot??
I think lifelong/lifetime 'dieters' have really been 'bruised' by the mentality of reaching for goals,,,and then it just isn't enough. Why is that? Tons of reasons, I think. For me,,,in my zeal over the years of 'starting over' with renewed whatever to lose weight...I immerse myself in information. Boy, is there plenty of that!! If I did what all the 'info' says out there, well..I'd never get my dishes done! Diet...exercise...this oil not that oil...burn more calories...count that micro chip of butter...(not) count your fat,,,measure your body whatevers...get in shape for a marathon...(for real...?) ...Its information overload...and so much of it does NOT get to the heart of the matter ....the way we think.
If we already think we're fat...and then build this little thought process around that...so every day that you eat 'to much'..or 'eat wrong'...it just builds on the negatives that are already driving us. ....how do we climb out of that unending hole? I know one of the reasons I didn't succeed was because of my thinking.
As I have begun to pursue the 'carrot'...I'm learning to change my thinking along the way...and then when I reach the carrot...how I think in the moment, is changing also.
Go for the carrot...because you want to. That in itself,,,could take some time to decide. Many pursue the carrot (weight loss...or whatever..?) because of outside pressure.
While going after the carrot..Im paying attention to the 'bumps in the road'. ..compared to my usual habits...Im watching and listening to what I say to myself when I stumble. ...man...we are SO HARD ON OURSELVES!!!......not anymore.....
I absolutely am changing how I view food, exercise,,..but more than that...how I view me. I'll never be the one who stands in front of the mirror and says I love u I love u.....but I am turning into one who says...hey...you're good. I am correcting the thinking that has kept me from my goals...and not just weight loss goals.
Not eating 'right' one day is not a standard to live my life by. My word...where did that even come from??? So many of us are so mean to ourselves,,,it's a wonder we can accomplish anything....
I began to stop listening to all the crap out there. I told a story to others recently about feeling compelled to buy coconut oil...lol....who knows why....
It's not about the oil...and have fun, if you use it....Im just talking about listening to what we tell ourselves....and is it the truth or is it just piles of stuff that society or literature or upbringing or whatever has told us.
If my mind constantly beats me up for every move I make (meaning, I reach the carrot, and then it moves)...no one can succeed with that mind set.
I will be nice to myself. I will change the way I 'say' things. Im not talking about denial. If I eat enough calories to equal weight gain,,,which science says 'move' and it wont stick to my body...well...that's a good starting point. I just started there...Take what's true and stick to it. The rest is fodder lol there's a funny word.
Eating to many calories today...and not moving quite enough to keep them off my body....is not failure. It's just what it is. The solution is right there....I don't need to clutter my mind with to much info. I do need to protect myself from negative thinking.
I am really changing my thinking. One day at a time. I will lose weight. ...because Im now telling myself I can. Not easy to do...but it really is that simple.