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The Carrot

Monday, June 08, 2015

Gosh...haven't written in about a month...in 'diet years' that's a long time! I think it was 'sparked' (forgive the pun) by something I read in someone else's blog.

Reaching for the carrot. You know...the donkey or horse,,,and you hang a carrot on a stick out in front of them...to make them move....Im pretty sure a carrot wouldn't do that for me, personally,,,but a horse or donkey...a carrot is good stuff, right? ...of course you get the point.....so...

Why...when we hit a goal...does it seem like the carrot moves out...just a bit further...? Is it a bad thing? Not necessarily...but dangling the carrot (motivation) shouldn't be all there is, should it? ..I mean,,,does the horse get to eat the carrot??

I think lifelong/lifetime 'dieters' have really been 'bruised' by the mentality of reaching for goals,,,and then it just isn't enough. Why is that? Tons of reasons, I think. For me,,,in my zeal over the years of 'starting over' with renewed whatever to lose weight...I immerse myself in information. Boy, is there plenty of that!! If I did what all the 'info' says out there, well..I'd never get my dishes done! Diet...exercise...this oil not that oil...burn more calories...count that micro chip of butter...(not) count your fat,,,measure your body whatevers...get in shape for a marathon...(for real...?) ...Its information overload...and so much of it does NOT get to the heart of the matter ....the way we think.

If we already think we're fat...and then build this little thought process around that...so every day that you eat 'to much'..or 'eat wrong'...it just builds on the negatives that are already driving us. ....how do we climb out of that unending hole? I know one of the reasons I didn't succeed was because of my thinking.

As I have begun to pursue the 'carrot'...I'm learning to change my thinking along the way...and then when I reach the carrot...how I think in the moment, is changing also.

Go for the carrot...because you want to. That in itself,,,could take some time to decide. Many pursue the carrot (weight loss...or whatever..?) because of outside pressure.

While going after the carrot..Im paying attention to the 'bumps in the road'. ..compared to my usual habits...Im watching and listening to what I say to myself when I stumble. ...man...we are SO HARD ON OURSELVES!!!......not anymore.....

I absolutely am changing how I view food, exercise,,..but more than that...how I view me. I'll never be the one who stands in front of the mirror and says I love u I love u.....but I am turning into one who says...hey...you're good. I am correcting the thinking that has kept me from my goals...and not just weight loss goals.

Not eating 'right' one day is not a standard to live my life by. My word...where did that even come from??? So many of us are so mean to ourselves,,,it's a wonder we can accomplish anything....

I began to stop listening to all the crap out there. I told a story to others recently about feeling compelled to buy coconut oil...lol....who knows why....

It's not about the oil...and have fun, if you use it....Im just talking about listening to what we tell ourselves....and is it the truth or is it just piles of stuff that society or literature or upbringing or whatever has told us.

If my mind constantly beats me up for every move I make (meaning, I reach the carrot, and then it moves)...no one can succeed with that mind set.

I will be nice to myself. I will change the way I 'say' things. Im not talking about denial. If I eat enough calories to equal weight gain,,,which science says 'move' and it wont stick to my body...well...that's a good starting point. I just started there...Take what's true and stick to it. The rest is fodder lol there's a funny word.

Eating to many calories today...and not moving quite enough to keep them off my body....is not failure. It's just what it is. The solution is right there....I don't need to clutter my mind with to much info. I do need to protect myself from negative thinking.

I am really changing my thinking. One day at a time. I will lose weight. ...because Im now telling myself I can. Not easy to do...but it really is that simple.
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    Boy did you hit the nail on the head. As a lifelong dieter, I am so hard on myself that one slip and I am a goner. With the help of Sparkpeople and friends, I have gotten back into the game.

    Great blog!
    2237 days ago
    The next "thing"...the ad people know how much we struggle and how difficult it is to make better food choices and they offer us a "quick fix" and being human, we buy into it. A year ago, when I thought I was going to have to use a cane to walk, that was my bottom. I started making better, healthier food choices and with the help of Spark, no cane today. Annual doctor's appointment last week and he's pleased. Weight is down, blood pressure is down, and a couple of meds went bye-bye. Daily exercise is now a part of my life. About the only advise I read now is on Spark. I do believe it has saved my life.

    Thanks for reminding me how I got to this better place. It's wonderful to have someone like you for company as I make the journey to better health.

    Thanks so very much!! emoticon emoticon
    2238 days ago
    Good blog. I agree that we get overwhelmed with all the different information and theories. You are so right, it does not have to be so complicated.
    2238 days ago
    Your points resonated with me.
    Funny thing...I've been trying to reach into that bag of baby carrots more often, so the title is what drew me to read your blog in the first place. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2238 days ago
    Marie, fantastic! I am right there with you. I've kept a journal for the last 3+ years during the WL journey. Had so much success at the beginning and then started gaining lots back over the last couple of years. I decided to look back and read what I'd written when things were going well. Exactly what I thought...eating "right" and moving more, tracking my food, being kinder to myself, and NOT jumping on every bandwagon that came along. When I started faltering (usually due to night time eating and too much eating out), I started looking for solutions and started dabbling with South Beach, Mediterranean, and a few other things, and then I was sunk. I wasn't on a "diet" when I was successful, I was just making better choices and staying within my calorie range most days. I didn't buy products or anything else. So, guess where I am today...forgiving myself for being such a goof ball and sticking with what I know works. I still read and look at some of those things, but I'm not buying into it...I don't need to. So happy tor read your story here! Wishing you all the very best!! Hugs, Jeannie emoticon emoticon
    2238 days ago
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    Great blog!
    2238 days ago
    Boy do I agree. I hope there comes a day when eating right is just natural to me and I don't have to think about it anymore. I really can see that happening. I love the food I'm eating and love feeling healthier.
    The mind is the first thing to go, they say. I think it's true with weight. Your mind has to get things straight first. For the first time I'm working on my mind. That is a deep thought. Well, not the first time. I must say that off and on through the last 20 years I've worked on my mind. It still gets to doing things I don't understand but I do my best to try to understand the things I do. I wonder if it's an on going thing. If it is, I don't mind.

    I liked your blog and it made me think. Thank you. Sorry for the silly crap. emoticon
    2238 days ago
    Sounds like u have figured out your negative thinking brought on by articles and comments. Sometimes we need to remember the positive.
    2238 days ago
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