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Asking for Help

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

I find that this is the hardest thing to do - asking for help. I tend to keep things very personal. I am not a fan of Facebook (who needs to know what I did today). I don't blog since I don't like the idea of people reading my inner thoughts (you can tell by how few my entries are). I don't even ask my family for help. I am the one that others go to for help; I am the one usually in control of things. But I know for me to progress on my journey to a healthier me, I need to have support.

So tonight, I am writing publicly to say that I am struggling. That I have my ups and downs and that I can't do things alone all the time. That finding the right person or people to walk this journey together can be a benefit. That just knowing someone out there might read this and say, "I know exactly how you feel. I thought that I was the only one." To find out that I am not alone. I think that is the help that I need. To know that I am not alone.
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    Just yesterday I posted a quote by Hemingway how some struggle silently. Perhaps they don’t have the energy to ask for help. I’m glad you found this team and I found it, too. Everything is going to be the way we want it to be. The team support is active and strong. It helps immensely. I am grateful to be here.
    314 days ago
    I have struggles too. That is why we need each other.
    We can do this together girl. I am here for you.
    You can mail me anytime you need to talk. Holly emoticon
    418 days ago
  • LADYBUG166
    I have struggles also. I had a head injury and am partly paralyzed But we all get along better with a little help from our friends
    564 days ago
  • JANET552
    You are not alone. I also totally understand not wanting to ask for help. It's hard to give up that control. But, I think it is one of life's lessons to learn to ask. I am working hard on that for myself but it is hard.

    I find on Spark that putting it "out there" on a team when I am struggling has really helped me gain control of my health behaviors. I get support, often I also get great advice and, I think, it helps me focus on what I can do to help myself get back on track. We weren't meant to struggle through things alone. Let others help you as you want to help others.
    1526 days ago
    emoticon it's okay to ask for help. emoticon
    1527 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/23/2017 4:16:15 PM
    Hi. Thank you sharing your feelings and reaching out although you found that hard. And you are not alone. There are so many who have failed to reach out and have missed the support that is available here on SparkPeople. I do believe you will find friends on your Biggest Loser team for Summer Challenge. That is the reason I remain on my team. Even when I reach a plateau and my weight doesn't move down, my teammates support me. I find that with that support I don't regain any weight during these times. I will be the one assigning you to a team, so if you have any questions or need help, be sure to ask for me.

    Hugs, Linn
    1545 days ago
    Thank you for the positive comments!
    2289 days ago
    Awesome! Thanks for helping me Angwhit! Here I have been for three years thinking that I was the only one here that needs help but afraid to ask. I am always the go to guy myself. Always trying to help others but not asking for help. Well I didn't ask for your help but I sure appreciate that someone else is out there just like me. Heck--we are not alone. At least we now have each other. I hope to see more blogs from you. I normally just post cute pictures with thoughtful sayings. I also try to stay away from having friends. Perhaps I can think about changing that now. Again thanks Angwhit and I wish you much success on your Life Journey. Just take it slow and step by step you will reach your destination. With that said, let's just keep on keeping on. The Kneemaker
    2289 days ago
    I felt lonely on the site for a while. I had joined several teams as in I clicked join this team. Nothing more. There was a chat group that I liked, but felt ignored. What helped me was I joined a new and small team where I did not get lost in hundreds of members and I joined the biggest loser challenge and was placed on a team of 20 to 30 others.
    The smaller groups helped me get to know them and they me.
    I also have gym friends that are supportive when we are working out..
    Maybe if you can find teams or become active on the teams or a team you have joined that would help. Best of luck emoticon emoticon
    2289 days ago
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