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Will you stand strong?

Sunday, March 29, 2015

We are starting our day here in MN with a little rain over night and still lingering cool temps. I am more than ready for Spring.
This picture struck a chord with me this morning.
I have read blogs about people that feel like they are talked about, whispered about, pointed at and called fat. It happens, people are cruel.
Children learn from a young age that fat people are not ok, that somehow it is ok to mock those that are different than us.
I was having a birthday party for one of my girls years ago, and a very young child that is the child of a very good friend of mine was at the party and we were all in the living room, and this child looked at me and asked me why I was so fat.
This took me by surprise, I was overweight, no doubt about it, but that a child would ask me that, wow, it really made me think. She was too young to be mean about it, she just had a question and she asked it. Her parents were horrified as you can imagine and the rest of my family just kind of laughed and I just responded, "that is how God made me."
But that isn't true, that is how I chose to be at that time.
Sometimes we need a good wake up call, and that was one of mine, I believe I started losing weight again but I gained it all back after I stopped exercising. I had not found SP yet at that point.
So, the point of this blog is, people will talk, they will call you names, they will make fun of you. What are you going to do about it?
Continue to eat yourself into an early grave or stand up and say enough is enough. I will stand strong and I will do something about this because only you can make the decision that you have had enough and you are going to take back your life.
So let's stand strong together and walk this journey one day at a time.
All the best to all of my awesome spark friends! Together we can stand strong! emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • no profile photo CD14903239
    Great blog!! I have been there! Not until SP did I feel strong enough to get out there, no matter what size I was and not care what they all thought. But, of course for health reasons I needed to lose the weight and am still doing so!! With inspiring blogs like yours and others, it sure keeps me going!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2226 days ago
    awesome blog on a hard subject. I can never understand how people can be cruel .
    2232 days ago
    Yes, we need to stand strong against all kinds of nasty comments.

    I just read a blog post by Gaby1948 who was being put down BECAUSE of her weight loss with comments like:
    DON'T lose ANYMORE....you are TOO SKINNY, your face doesn't NEED TO LOSE ANYMORE!!!!!

    And she is approaching her goal weight which is right in the MIDDLE of the recommended BMI range.

    There are 2 ways to feel good about yourself. Sadly one of them is by tearing other people down.

    2236 days ago
    I choose to stand strong! Great blog.

    2236 days ago
  • EILEEN828
    Your quote is very accurate, and I know so because I have lived long enough to figure that out. But that doesn't mean I'm not still learning about me, work in progress right? Mistakes are really never mistakes, they're simply the learning curve. My Dad who was getting older then, blurbed out one visit, "How'd you get to be so fat"? I almost answered him, " Probably the same way you got to be so rude, it just happened." But I managed to restrain myself and took the question at face value, and gave him the best explanation of how I think it happened, which had a lot to do with leaky gut syndrome and food allergies and probably drinking, plus stress. There was a lot packed into that one word, like unfaithful husband, overwhelming work with a boss who despised me, taking care of my family( one who was disabled) with no real help from my husband, and no real emotional or physical help from anyone, save my in laws who babysat when the kids weren't in school til I came home from work. There was very little joy to compensate for a hard life. I didn't give him every detail about all that, kept the unflattering to myself in fact, but I think he took that as a longer, more believable explanation than he expected, and he didn't say any more about it. I think he was a bit abashed, which is really something when you consider that he was a hopelessly narcissistic man that was starting to show the signs of dementia. I really think it was asked with all the disingenuousness that a child would use, which I realized in a flash and so didn't hold it against him. But it was the most directly blunt anyone had ever been to my face and so it still kind of astounds me as you can probably tell. And by the way, I have survived and I'm still an optimistic person that knows how strong I am. That probably wouldn't have been found out any other way.
    2237 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15169916
    Great blog post Molly! I haven't ever had someone say something to me, but trust me, I am sure they are thinking about it! It takes a strong person not to feel inferior when comments like that are said, and you are a strong and graceful person, who responded appropriately. I wish our society wasn't so focused on peoples looks but it is what it is.
    When I think about weight, I try to think about it as HEALTH. I need to become HEALTHY and if the side affect is I lose weight while obtaining better health, so be it!

    Thanks for coming over and visiting my blog. You are a tremendous support and have been such an awesome Sparkfriend! I feel like my canoe started going upstream, but the good news is, I think I found my paddles!

    Warmly, Nancy
    2237 days ago
    2238 days ago
    Holly this is a good blog and certainly gives a person pause for thought!

    We should all stand strong! :)
    2238 days ago
    I could tell many stories now. I don't listen to people if they aren't supportive.
    2238 days ago
    emoticon I was obese as a child, I know what that is. I now choose not to be not obese but unhealthy.
    2239 days ago
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    2239 days ago
    Love, love love this. I had a similar experience years ago. It was humiliating but motivation by humiliation did not last long, alas. I too will stand strong. Thanks for sharing your story.
    2239 days ago
  • ANGGEL40
    Yes there are some cruel people in the world and for that young child to ask you that, I am sure her parents had to be talking about you being fat..I am just saying, but never the least it gave you that push you needed to make your outside just as beautiful as your inside...it gave you that journey to a healthier better You! Now my highest weight was right at 200...I was weighing a size 16 but do you know that not once did I hear the word fat...chubby was what they would say...but I knew I was fat, I guess they didn't want to hurt my feelings...any way I can go on and on but I won't... Enjoy your day Holly..thanks for sharing! emoticon
    2239 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/29/2015 11:58:39 AM
    Great blog! When I was overweight, I did not want to go out anymore. I still had to go shopping and a women pushed passed me and made a rude comment, first I was upset, than I got mad!! Re started spark.
    Her and other reasons helped me to move forward to STAND STRONG and to never show disrespect to people.
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    2239 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/29/2015 12:00:03 PM
    Great blog. Let's stand strong and be healthy. I had a child ask me if I was pregnant..when I was not. It will happen. It certainly helps to stand strong together here on Spark!
    2239 days ago
    What an Awesome Blog Holly! I love your quote you posted today! I am with you... Let's all stand strong together and walk this journey one day at a time! Wishing you a Wonderful Day!
    Hugs and Love to You My Special Sparks Friend,
    2239 days ago
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