Mother-Daughter Bliss ;-)
Monday, August 18, 2014
I've been spending all of my free time with HER, my little girl. These last two weeks have been an unexpected gift of hours and hours of mother/daughter time. We've played tennis, we've been cooking, we've been reading books, we've been giggling, re-telling old family stories, sharing new ones, and yes, we've even worked out!
As a mother of two daughters, I've tended to tread carefully during the teenage and early adulthood years. My girls haven't always been in the mood to talk or get too close, too often. They've worried that I might come to expect answers to questions they don't want to answer. Where are you going? What time are you coming back? Who're you going with? Do I know her or him? Even if I never open my mouth, they've seen the questions looming in my worried eyes.
So I've had to learn to zip my lips and let them be. Not easy. Pretty hard, actually. But I love them more than I love my pride and ego. And I've told myself, they'll come back to me again.
Then I got so used to giving them all this space, that it almost felt like I was mothering strangers, who occasionally only call on me when they need something. I forgot about the promise that they'd return to the fold of my heart again, even if they come slowly ...... one by one.
And there's no memo or notice saying, on such and such a date, your children will become yours all over again, in a new and improved way. Oh! What joy! This summer my youngest came home, opened her heart, and let me completely in. Life is truly good right now.