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Why do I break promises to myself?

Wednesday, August 06, 2014

Today my assignment is to see if I can figure out why I constantly break the promises I make to myself. I bend over backwards to keep promises I make to other people. Why don't I extend the same courtesy to me? Good question!

Again I have to answer some personal questions here. Yay.....not. This isn't fun. But I can see the value. (And these questions are from www.chrispowell.com .)

LAST YEAR'S NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS? OTHER PROMISES RECENTLY MADE TO MYSELF?
1. Lose 50 pounds 2. Get blood sugar under control 3. Walk 5 days a week, minimum 4. Do some sort of photo training every week. 5. Read the Bible for 5 minutes a day, minimum. 6. Take at least 1 quality photo every week. 7. Keep hair colored. 8. Take more pride in personal hygiene. 9. Wear makeup at least 1 day a week. 10. Contact kids once a week. 11. Contact grandkids once a month. 12. Do a random act of kindness every day. 13. Save $10 a month minimum.

DID I KEEP ANY OF THEM? WHY OR WHY NOT?
Mostly, no. Some of them, yes. I think there were too many of them. There are just so many areas of my life that need attention, and I don't think i've set any priorities there. It's pretty overwhelming.

DID I MAKE ANY PROGRESS ON THEM? WHY OR WHY NOT?
Yes. I've gotten pretty regular with the insulin shots, so my blood sugar is MUCH better...not perfect, but better. Contacting the kids I did. The rest, no real progress. Again there are too many of them. I have a tendency to get overwhelmed by the "Big Picture" and throw up my hands and say it's impossible because it's too big.

DID I ABANDON THEM? WHY OR WHY NOT?
For the most part, I abandoned them. See previous answer.

WHEN I MAKE A PROMISE TO MYSELF, DO I KEEP IT?
Not really, because I expect too much and don't set priorities.

WHEN I MAKE A PROMISE, DO I WRITE IT DOWN? POST REMINDERS EVERYWHERE?
Not previously. :) That's getting ready to change, I believe.

DO I SHARE MY PROMISES WITH ANYONE ELSE? ARE THEY SUPPORTIVE?
Mostly I'm pretty open about most personal promises....I have a tendency to be an open book. That being said, there are certain parts of me that I have never shared with another living soul, and probably won't. Some of the people in my life are supportive, and others are not so much.

WHAT'S THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE TO KEEPING MY PROMISES TO MYSELF?
Money is a big one. Lack of energy, lack of motivation, lack of organization and planning, laziness. My husband. Me not appearing on any priority list.

HOW CAN I PLAN AHEAD AND WORK AROUND THESE OBSTACLES?
I guess the most obvious answer here is actually make a plan. I'm great with a calendar, so putting some things in there as in an appointment for myself that is unbreakable is a good possibility. I could get around some money issues by planning more tightly, because there are plenty of free/cheap ideas out there. Starting slow would be good so I don't freak out....I think I do better looking at small goals vs the big picture. Frankly, losing right at 300 pounds makes me choke if I think about it too long!! The bottom line, however, is this affects every area of my life. My husband.....well, I really need to stop waiting for him to get on board with my weight loss efforts, my church efforts, my goals for my life. I understand he is probably subconsciously afraid that if I'm successful with my efforts, i will leave. But waiting for him is affecting my health and my frame of mind, so I just need to get on with it and do it on my own.

WHAT WILL IT TAKE TO MAKE MY PROMISES TO MYSELF THE NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN MY LIFE?
I have got to understand that I have to take care of me and my little corner of life, before I can really have anything to give to all the people I love. Unless I make myself the number one priority, I can't be successful in anything I try.

Wow. I have a lot to consider, don't I? Wish me luck!

Charlene
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  • DCTHOM03
    Thanks! I was just reading the Spark article today about rewards...definitely something I'm going to do! I actually made a list like she had in the article. I will definitely get on that!

    And I'm slowly working on more details, but trying not to overwhelm myself! emoticon

    Thanks for your good wishes! We can definitely do this together! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2475 days ago
  • LALATIDAH
    If I may add my 2ยข.... some of them are too vague. Take those vague ones and break them down into smaller more specific goals. Give them a deadline, if it is one that is time related.
    Being organized is a plus (calendar), but you have to use it for it to work.
    Assign a "reward" to accomplishments so you have something to work toward and keep you motivated to finish.
    I wish you much luck on our mutual journey to good health! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2475 days ago
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