Support isn't support anymore. Not even on SP.
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Weight loss is about much more than shedding pounds. It's about emotions and going through roller coasters. Some people share more than others and that's fine. Some people share because it helps them. I have always been there for people who had depression and anxiety badly. I remember this one member (she has changed her Spark name a few times now. She hit all time lows with her depression and I was always there trying to give an encouraging word. When I felt bad, her comments were nowhere to be found on my blogs. I am not trying to single out one person, but when you write about more than just gaining weight, shedding pounds and cool recipes, people don't want to be supportive or they try and they just give up because you aren't feeling better in the amount of time they think you should. As I stated, weight loss is so much more. I try to be there for others but I haven't felt well enough lately. It is nice when I see people feeling better but when it seems like their anxiety fades away, they stay away. People think stress is contagious and that's not how it works. People who don't feel well don't want to bring you down. They want to feel better.
Even when it comes to weight, there are some people who say really stupid things. "Medicine can't make you gain weight, only calories can." Actually, medication can make you gain or lose weight. "Life isn't fair." Are those comments suppose to help people? Why say anything if you are going to say something discouraging? I will ask people why they bothered. I never get a answer but I sure hope it makes them think. Why did they bother? If they take a blog as complaining, they can leave and comment on a variety of other blogs.
That's just been on my mind lately. Another thing too. This is for women. Just because you find some guy doesn't mean you should ditch your friends. If you get dumped and attempt to call your friends make and they hang up on you, you truly deserve that. It's one thing to be lovestruck but another to ditch someone you have know for 10+ years for some guy you barely know, and then announce your marriage without eve introducing the guy to someone who is suppose to be your best friend or at least, a very good friend
Just having one of those days....I guess.