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Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Weight loss is about much more than shedding pounds. It's about emotions and going through roller coasters. Some people share more than others and that's fine. Some people share because it helps them. I have always been there for people who had depression and anxiety badly. I remember this one member (she has changed her Spark name a few times now. She hit all time lows with her depression and I was always there trying to give an encouraging word. When I felt bad, her comments were nowhere to be found on my blogs. I am not trying to single out one person, but when you write about more than just gaining weight, shedding pounds and cool recipes, people don't want to be supportive or they try and they just give up because you aren't feeling better in the amount of time they think you should. As I stated, weight loss is so much more. I try to be there for others but I haven't felt well enough lately. It is nice when I see people feeling better but when it seems like their anxiety fades away, they stay away. People think stress is contagious and that's not how it works. People who don't feel well don't want to bring you down. They want to feel better.

Even when it comes to weight, there are some people who say really stupid things. "Medicine can't make you gain weight, only calories can." Actually, medication can make you gain or lose weight. "Life isn't fair." Are those comments suppose to help people? Why say anything if you are going to say something discouraging? I will ask people why they bothered. I never get a answer but I sure hope it makes them think. Why did they bother? If they take a blog as complaining, they can leave and comment on a variety of other blogs.

That's just been on my mind lately. Another thing too. This is for women. Just because you find some guy doesn't mean you should ditch your friends. If you get dumped and attempt to call your friends make and they hang up on you, you truly deserve that. It's one thing to be lovestruck but another to ditch someone you have know for 10+ years for some guy you barely know, and then announce your marriage without eve introducing the guy to someone who is suppose to be your best friend or at least, a very good friend

Just having one of those days....I guess.

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    I think I understand your feelings. I found what I thought was a forever friend on Spark, a sister who seemed to be very similar to me with similar issues and interests. After years of being real with each other, sharing all our ups and downs, she decided that I had too many downs and she began to tell me things I couldn't write to her about. I tried to comply, but evidently I didn't satisfy her, because she began to take extended breaks from our emailing, with the date of the beginning and end of the break being her choice, regardless of what was going on with me and my needs. Finally, with breaking heart, I told her goodbye. It was harder on me to have on-and-off connection than to have no connection at all. We weren't just Spark buddies, we were supposed to be best friends, and in my world that means accepting someone the way they are, not trying to change them and giving them a whole system of rules of what they can communicate about!
    2532 days ago
    Sounds like you could use a hug. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2551 days ago
    Hang in there! Hugs.
    2551 days ago
  • MZLADY77
    Thanks for sharing! There is nothing wrong to let it out...People comes and go in life.Only your hope and trust is in the Lord. We can always go to Him for comfort. God will never leave us or forsake us. We are humans that has different issues in life and sometimes people do not want to share with others. Be encourage and take one day at a time.
    2551 days ago
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    I do understand where your coming from you have hit a cord in my life several ways. I am different even in church i don't fit in . There seems to be a click and no matter what i do i don't fit in. I have always wanted just one friend that cares and wants to share with me things like recipes girl talk ect but i don't have that and never did. I am married no children and my whole life is mostly doing housework cooking ect. I go to church 2 times a week and to wal-mart. Had 3 brothers 2 are deceased but they always stuck together and left me out. But i do have the Lord in my life and he will never leave or forsake me and a very supportive husband that tries very hard to make me happy . He is a workaholic and i am alone most of the time. Want to thank you for being on the team GOD ANSWERS PRAYER and you being my friend on spark . GOD BLESS YOU ON THIS JOURNEY !
    2551 days ago
    Sorry you're struggling with "people issues" (as I like to refer to them) - aren't we humans "amazing" creatures? Sigh........

    If you're not feeling well enough to reach out, there's absolutely *no* shame in "dialing down" your activities in that regard, IMHO - you do what you need to do for *you*, and perhaps in time you'll feel good enough to resume.......

    I wish you all the best!
    2551 days ago
    It is important to release these emotions and feelings. It is part of the process as well.
    2552 days ago
    I, too, often feel that others can be a bit self-centered. Although it is normal to concentrate on a person's own problems, I believe that I can learn from others' concerns, struggles, mistakes, adventures. I try to be supportive to others. But I wonder how supportive I really am - especially on those extra busy days. How much do I really pay attention to others? Am I there to help or do I come across as busy or aloof? Your blog got me thinking and reminded me to make an effort to really listen and support.
    2552 days ago
    I hope there are people who you can vent to. We all need to do that once in awhile. Air hug to ya.
    2552 days ago
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