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Letting go of jealousy

Friday, March 28, 2014

I have a friend at work who has been doing Bob Harper's Jump Start to Skinney diet/exercise program. She has lost 17 lbs this month. People are complimenting her on her weight loss. She looks great. She has worked hard. She deserves recognition.

Silly me is jealous that people are noticing her weight loss, but no one has noticed mine. Perhaps it is because she lost the weight quickly. Perhaps it is because she needs to lose less weight than me. Perhaps it is the way she carries her weight. I don't know. I'm jealous she was able to lose that much weight in a month. I'm jealous she looks great. Really?

Actually I am happy for her. We talked about our weight struggles frequently. We have dieted together before and been each other's accountability person in the office. We encourage each other to stay out of the kitchen on bagel/cookie day.

Reality? I am not willing to go the extremes she has to lose the weight. I am trying to adapt to a new lifestyle. I am not in a race to see a number on the scale next week. I am trying to find a solution that will work for me for a lifetime. I don't eat only fish, chicken and veggies. I have bread (in limited quantities). I have a cookie once in a while. I am doing just fine right where I am.

My goal was to lose 5 pounds a month, while adapting a healthier lifestyle which includes eating better and exercising daily. I have done that. I have done that and more.

I started this journey at 208.4 lbs and at the end of February was 192.2 lbs for a loss of 16.2 lbs. That is ahead of my goal. I have gained stamina and strength from working out. I don't drink 4-5 sodas a day. I need to quit comparing apples and oranges. Both are awesome when not compared to each other!

So I have to share my woohoo moment. I bought a new pair of capri pants in a size 16. Yep! Out of the plus sizes and into the normal sizes. No more size 20 pants!!! Yippee!!!!! AND I bought a new sports bra that was an xtra large!

Nothing like the feeling of accomplishment! It will be interesting to see what the scale says at the end of March! Hopefully it will be approving of my efforts.

Soooooo, letting go of that jealousy replacing it with contentment. I am just where I am supposed to be.

Have an awesome weekend!
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  • CINDYT63
    This blog was inspiring to me. You are doing GREAT! Slower weight loss does not garner as much attention, but going at it for the long haul is the right way to do it. Something you can sustain. Good work!
    2639 days ago
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    You are doing SO GREAT, and I also understand that little undercurrent of jealousy about your friend. I'm glad that when all is said and done you realize that slow and steady really DOES win the race.

    Love you! Sue
    2641 days ago
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    I think when you lose it fast, you regain it fast. So taking it slower and developing long-term healthy habits will be best. Sounds like you are having success too! It's hard to see it happening faster for someone else - I always feel that way when my husband goes on a diet. He gives up one thing and loses weight, and me . . . well, it's tougher.

    Good luck in working towards your goals in April.
    2641 days ago
    You are on a wonderful journey. emoticon
    2642 days ago
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    Your way of losing along with your mindset, sounds like the most healthy way to go about losing weight and keeping it off. Losing 17 pounds in one month, unless you are morbidly obese, is way too extreme and fast. I always say, fast off, fast on. Congratulations on your continued efforts and successful weight loss. Way to go!
    2644 days ago
    She is following her journey and you are following yours. You are right. Oranges and apples. You aren't jealous so much as wanting to feel the rewards of your hard work.
    Sorry other people are not noticing your results. I lost 50 pounds on my first time with SP before anyone made a comment. I haven't heard a comment this time at nearly 40 pounds lighter this time. I think people are really too busy with their own lives to notice much.
    Hope you feel wonderful with the cheering you get here. We NEED to feel good about our efforts. Celebrate drinking that water, planning your meals, and every effort you make to move more. Be proud of shopping for healthy choices so good food is readily available. Break your journey down to smaller chunks. Blog and post your successes not to brag about your accomplishments but to keep you strong for the journey and to keep strong. Find things to be proud of and focus on those new things. Are you more mobile, stronger, in less pain, healthier, better looking, slimmer, fitter and more able to do things? Can you focus on increasing your fitness minutes, steps, number of days you exercise or try some new exercise or sport or sticking to a 14 day streak? Celebrate those new pants! Reassure yourself that you are doing something right as you continue to make progress. Don't fall into the pit of despair by an unfair comparison. At your slower pace, you will learn what to do and you will find the tools necessary to stay there. That is what matters.
    I'm over 65 and have more than 60 pounds to go. I have health issues that hinder exercise. Now, if your friend wants to pick up my baggage and challenge me to a race, I'd probably win slow as I am. Maybe you are the turtle and she is the hare but I think you will get there. emoticon

    2644 days ago
    Wow that is great about the capri in size 16, the same exact thing happened this week to me!
    I bought a pair of denim capris at Walmart in 16, thinking that by summer I should be able to wear them.
    I was so happy and absolutely astonished to try them on at home later and they fit!!! emoticon emoticon
    Be happy for your co-worker and be ready to be supportive when the inevitable happens and some weight creeps back, lot of her loss will be water. And as the other Sparkers pointed out she can not make that lifestyle and diet change sustainable.
    You are doing so incredibly well. WAY TO GO! Anne
    2644 days ago
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    And at the end of the day, you'll be the one who keeps the weight off. I'm not saying your co-worker will put it back on, but she may struggle with how to adapt her diet to an actual lifestyle while you are already doing it. Kudos to you for doing it the right way. Rock those size 16 capris!
    2644 days ago
    Uh-oh, she lost that much weight in a month? That's not safe, her body thinks it's in starvation mode now. It's not smart or healthy to lose that fast. Don't take it personally that no one seems to notice your weight loss. Yours came off at the right pace, gradually, so it would be harder to notice for people you see every day. What you need to do is run into someone who hasn't seen you in awhile.

    2644 days ago
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    Congratulations on your woohoo moment and living a healthy lifestyle!

    2644 days ago
    Great blog. You have the better chance of keeping it off than she does since losing it fast. Good for you to go with contentment. I feel the same way.
    2644 days ago
    Awesome work!! emoticon emoticon
    2644 days ago
    You are awesome. I'm trying not to be jealous of you! Size 16...WOOHOO!
    I want to be where you are in a few weeks.
    2644 days ago
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