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Another Month, and Another Friend Gone...

Friday, February 28, 2014

Well I just wanted to take a moment to remember a very dear friend of mine and my family's!

My friend Phyllis sadly passed away yesterday. Phyllis was 83, but you would of never know that by looking at her and all she did!

I first met Phyllis when I joined the MOMS Ministry at my parish. She was one of the sweetest ladies you'll ever meet! I knew that in 5 minutes of talking to her! She's the one who believed in me and knew I was going to be someone. She suggested me to join the Steering Committee for the Ministry and the rest is history... going on 6 years now.

We had become friends. She was like family to me and my family. My oldest cub mowed her lawn, my younger cub helped with summer jobs, my husband helped her husband with selling items on Craig's List. I sat many summer days with her talking while my boys mowed her lawn. I learned more about her and her life... I really enjoyed it!

She was 83, but lively! She went to mass everyday, was very involved with our parish... Women's Guild & the MOMS Ministry. She attended everything that happened with both ministries. I just saw her last Thursday at our Monthly meeting. I was lucky to sit with her and share & talk to her. She definitely warmed a room when she entered!

People say I pray a lot for others... you should of saw her! I know she went straight to Heaven! She was an Angel here on Earth!

She loved her family, friends... I'm so blessed to be able to call myself her friend... and even people she didn't know! She played Bridge, loved Italian food and cooking whenever we all got together at her house! She raised 3 girls and a son. Loved visits with her grandchildren, and even my children! She always knew what to say... wish she was here now to help me.

She ended up being the care giver for her Mom, her MIL and her sister. All different times in her life and for many years each of them. Out of her 4 children, 2 girls have been very sick with very painful diseases.... still to this day. She has always been there for them, and when medicine wouldn't work, praying is what she did.

I guess yesterday her Bridge friends came to the door to pick her up. No one answered as they knocked and called the phone. Phyllis' husband had a few strokes a while back... another person she was taking care of... so he slept in most days. He never heard the phone or knocking on the door. The ladies continued to call. Finally he woke up. As heading down the stairs, he saw his beautiful wife who had fallen. He rushed to open the door and the ladies called 911. She had fallen down the stairs and broke her neck. We do not know how long she was there. This was 9am'ish. She was rushed to the hospital and later passed around 3:30pm. We all just hoped she was in no pain.

So yesterday I lost another wonderful, amazing, loving friend! My heart just breaks for her family. I send them lots of prayers during this hard time. I'm sure it is hard, but hope they remember how she was and that she was always preparing herself for this day. I know God opened his gates with welcoming arms! As I said, she was an angel here on Earth!

Phyllis, I hope you know how much I loved you... and my family. I looked to you for so much guidance and you were always there for me! Thank-you! Thank-you for those days on your porch, in your living room, your kitchen, and the days we had our meetings. You have to know you touched SO MANY of our lives and I can't say it enough... I loved you!

God bless my dear friend! Go home and rest with your Father... we'll take it from here, you taught us well! Love you Phyllis!

This is Phyllis and her family on her 82nd birthday. She's the one in the middle in white.

This was in 2011. Phyllis drove us (my cubs and I) up to her daughter's house for a day in her pool. It was a wonderful day!

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    Missy, you haven't lost Phyllis. She is't lost at all. She's waiting for you, and the two of you will be reunited one day. She just went on ahead of you. What loving memories you and your family will always have of her. And in the pix you shared, thanks for telling me which one is Phyllis because I didn't see any 80 year olds in either photo!
    2495 days ago
    I am so, so sorry for your loss and your family's loss. Sorry. It just seems so wrong that such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful soul would die from a broken neck! She deserved to die in her sleep. It pains me to think of her lying there feeling helpless. I hope she had no consciousness of this side of life during that time. These things are why I struggle so. Peace to you, your family and Phyllis's family, especially her husband who probably feels so guilty. So, so sad! My heart aches for all involved!
    2632 days ago
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    2634 days ago
    So sorry about your friend, but I'd sure like to be remembered as you remember her.
    2634 days ago
    emoticon So sorry for your loss
    2634 days ago
  • 68ANNE
    That is a wonderful testament
    2634 days ago
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    She sounds like a wonderful person. So sorry for you and her family.
    2634 days ago
    She is beautiful..so sorry.. emoticon
    2635 days ago
    Thank-you everyone... and GEMINICHIK! I tried to look you up to say a thank-you, but couldn't find a Spark Page.
    2635 days ago
    So sad - she sounds like a wonderful person and a wonderful friend.
    2635 days ago
  • DANLIN60
    Our Father bless Phyllis soul and raise her to be with you and now be a holy Angel watching over us May be Bless her family during this difficult time.

    Our deepest sympathies to you and your family Missy.

    God Bless


    2635 days ago
    O Lord, we beg of You, through Your loving kindness, have mercy on the soul of Your servant Phyllis and now that she is set free from the defilements of this mortal flesh, restore her to her heritage of everlasting salvation. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.
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