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Monday, February 24, 2014

emoticon Disclaimer: This blog is going to contain a no nonsense approach. This blog is NOT for the sensitive or the faint of heart! I am going to tell it like it is, and how I feel about things. This is not a sweet uplifting blog, this is a "wake up and smell the coffee" kind of blog. I will also say that this may not pertain to many of you, and for that I am thankful. emoticon

I am going to start by saying that we all struggle, we all have our ups and downs and that is a part of life. I am not talking about the little slip ups, or the brief week or month where we fall down and wait a little longer to pick ourselves back up. I am talking about the people that are consistently on Spark, not doing the work, and then playing the victim. You have to emoticon!

I say that not to be an epic pain in the rear, but because I want you to reach your goals. I used to be one of those people, in fact, I used to blame my family for my weight problem. "Well if they didn't always pick up fast food for or always take me out dinner, I wouldn't be so fat!" In fact, I was convinced that as soon as I moved out, the weight would just start melting off of me because I was away from "the problem". Boy was that wrong! I gained even more weight and even though I lived alone I brought unhealthy foods in the house, and I continued the fast food habit daily. It was a huge reality check for me, I am in charge of my choices, and I can't blame anyone else for my problems.

Seriously, no one can do it for you! I read a blog recently, and they asked a very innocent and interesting question. It was something about "what is wrong with those of us that CAN'T lose the weight?" That really made me think about things. When I came back and committed to Spark in 2012, I found these "Spark Superstars" that I really looked up to. At the time, they had lost a ton of weight and were doing amazing (and still are). Not to put them on the spot, but two of my weight loss heroes back then and still to this day are CHICAT63 and TRACY31502. I have found so many amazing role models since then, too many to list them all but ADARKARA and BESSHAILE come to mind... But the first two I had connected with "way back then", and inspired me to get started (for the 183902 time!). I thought to myself that there must be something different about them. I mean they must have some super power or super secret to have lost that much weight, right? Well it took me quite a bit, and then I realized that I was wrong. I will not speak for them, their stories speak for themselves, but what I learned about most of my "weight loss heroes" was actually quite amazing.

I learned that:
They had "failed" at weight loss in the past.
Many of them had tried different approaches, and things that didn't work.
None of them lost their weight in one straight shot, where they consistently lost weight each week.
Many of them had gained back at least a small amount of weight at some point.
They had fallen down and felt defeated some time during their weight loss journey.

I found out that they weren't perfect! They were human, just like me. They had a weight problem for a long time, just like me. They had failed in the past, just like me. But the thing that was different about them, is that they were not giving up and they were doing the work! They were consistently doing what worked for them, and that is why the weight was coming off. They had the right attitude, they had the right plan (that was specific to them) and more days than not they were successful. When they fell down they got back up and kept moving forward. To the rest of us watching it might have looked like they dropped 50 or 100+ pounds almost effortlessly... but if you talk to them you will see it took a lot of time and hard work.

We can't wish for this to happen. If wishing made us skinny, I'd be a size 2. emoticon I will also say as fabulous as Spark is, just logging in and spinning the wheel isn't going to get the pounds off of you. emoticon Spark is a great place and it is a huge part of my "success" this far, and I couldn't do without it, but sitting around talking to you fabulous people all day (as fun as it is), isn't taking the weight off me. It's what I do with this site and how I use the tools that does it. It is planning and tracking all of my food. It is getting off my tushy and getting in a walk with my Sparky. emoticon It is eating my planned food and not eating a double cheeseburger when I'd really prefer the double cheeseburger. You have to do the work!

Now do you see why I have my disclaimer? I am feisty today, RAWR! emoticon And the reason I am in such a feisty mood is because I am sick and tired of reading the same thing from Sparkers for YEARS that have yet to make any progress. Now that sounds mean, but I don't mean it in a bad way. It upsets me because I am emotionally invested in so many of you, and I want nothing more than to see you ALL succeed and reach your goals. On top of that, if I am emotionally invested in you, that means that I see your strength and I know that you have it in you to get this done. It kills me when I feel like you deserve to lose this weight and I know you can do it, and yet you can't see it for yourselves. Again, this does not apply to the majority of you, and many of you are doing fabulously day in and day out. Whether you have been struggling, doing well, gaining weight or losing weight, I am proud of all of you for being here. emoticon But I just want everyone to believe in themselves and know that there is nothing different about the people that are "successful" at weight loss and the ones that can't seem to get it right. You just have to do the work, stay consistent as much as you can, and get right back up when you fall down.

That is the end of my rant, and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programming (blogs) shortly. If you made it this far, thank you, and I hope I have not upset anyone with my passionate words. I wouldn't be so passionate about it if I didn't truly care for all of you and want to see you succeed! emoticon
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  • no profile photo GRAMPIAN
    Wise words. emoticon
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    WOW! You rock! Thank you for the 'kick' I needed. emoticon
    2665 days ago
    I'm not sure I've encountered these Sparkpeople complainers. Most of the people I've met here, whether they're losing a little, a lot, or none at all, they all understand the need for change. But the impetus for change is different for all of us. And sometimes, it takes multiple aha moments for some of us to make permanent changes for a healthier lifestyle.

    Like you, I wish the best for everyone and hope those aha moments are right around the corner!
    2666 days ago
    Right on!
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    Good job! I agree!
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  • GORDON66
    I'm thinking the subtitle of this blog post is "Tough Love".
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    So true!
    2670 days ago
    Great post
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  • no profile photo CD13564730
    Well said! Soooooo true! It reminds me of the saying.....In order to have what you don't have....You've got to do what you don't do!! I often think of this saying when I feel like sitting on the couch instead of......walking, swimming, etc!!
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  • no profile photo CD11945874
    Sparks itself can become quite addictive and one can get obsessive about those spark points and forget the whole reason FOR sparks! ............... I tell myself "Do your workout FIRST, THEN play on sparks! ............. it will always be there but if the sun goes down on your day and you did not get that work out in ..................... It will be lost ........... emoticon blog!
    2671 days ago
    Thank you for the dose of reality. Needed by many - shared by few! I am going to pass this along to several friends that are looking for someone to "change" their lives.

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    Great Blog
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    My wake up call - thanks emoticon
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  • KMAD26
    To some the truth hurts....but weight loss is all on YOU....it is a tough mental game and you have to finally have your AHA moment or hit rock bottom to be done with being fat and decide to succeed. emoticon
    2671 days ago
    Absolutely GREAT advice!

    We Gotta BE the SPARK We Want to See In Our World!

    2671 days ago
    I understand your rant and I also give you the right to say what you feel. It doesnt matter if i agree or disagree with you it was however a little shocking to read. I cant say that I expected it all. I will leave it at that .
    2671 days ago
    I am often saddened by writers who are frustrated because they haven't lost anything but they are doing the same thing they have been doing for 3 months. Yes, track the food and yes, get the exercise, but change things up, people!! And I know that's a lesson you have learned and shout about, Steph, so thanks for making the statements and making a difference!
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  • no profile photo CD13006077
    Actually, I can't believe your posts because I am right beside you. I haven't lost a pound this week, despite many victories over sweets and food. SO, you are right when you say sometimes our body just needs to readjust to the new meal plan! I feel so much better without all those desserts and sugars. When I wanted ice cream this past week, I purchased frozen yogurt and still have more than 1/2 the container of it left! (even with the help of my husband!) When I saw a friend on Monday and had lunch with her, she came out with delicious cake. I took it home to my husband and didn't have a bite. Better yet, I didn't even pay attention to it. And that IS big!!

    Guess what I am trying to say is, even though I haven't lost a lot of weight on this 14 day challenge, I am definitely doing much better because of it. So thanks, Steph, because I know it will soon pay off!!! emoticon
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  • KIM22211
    really good to know about the ones you mentioned. They too have had the same challenges and still were able to overcome it! I am hanging on and hanging in! even if it is baby steps, that is better than back to the way I used to be!
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  • SBFT84
    Thanks for the rant. Words I needed to.hear. I had just read a blog where they committed to OLNY eating what was in their lunchbox and logging food EVERY DAY. Yep. That was the secret of my successful weight loss, and not doing so led to my weight gain. You are so right. I have the power if only I would choose to use it.

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  • JAMER123
    I did an aha blog a little while ago and from that comment, the mind was set to lose the weight. If I don't lose anything, plateau for a long time, that's okay too as my skin needs to catch up with the loss of padding. I am trying to get to ONE-derland of 100# off but the last 2# are clinging to me , unwanted. And yes, I will continue to flirt with them until the leave and that's when I can set a new goal!! Isn't it wonderful to enjoy your losing title? I keep telling my friends here that I am a loser and proud of it!!
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  • LINDA!
    Wonderful blog....and so true!
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  • TRICIA1957
    Thank you, this blog (rant...lol) was on point and to the point. We all need this if we are going to succeed in our weight loss journeys. This helped me realize that only "I" can put the work in and only "I" can make the changes to lose the weight and get healthy. This sight has allowed me the tools to get on this journey , to continue my journey and to meet wonderful people who inspire me every day. emoticon
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  • JERICHO1991
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    emoticon Very well said.
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    Excellent! emoticon

    the points are a perk but not the main attraction!
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  • no profile photo CD13394281
    who can argue with this? It is all true. And I have been one to not do the work! Funny how you can be doing great,then one little thing gets you off track,and it takes for ever to get back on board! but It is time to just get back to it,no excuses. like you said everyone has problems,that is life! Thanks,I needed to read this today :)
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  • WALNUTT1961
    Great blog! Thanks for sharing!
    2672 days ago
    I needed this kick in the butt!! emoticon
    2672 days ago
    Thank you for this blog, we are all different and have different "aha" moment but one that should be for everyone is your health! You only have one body, one life and man it feels good when it moves! And when you give it the right food!
    I started this journey out of worry about how I looked to be honest, health wise, I wasn't in any immediate danger but I was going on a dangerous slop and I had really serious case of sugar addiction and emotional eating...
    I think we all have to strike the right balance of it is not all of our fault but it is our responsibility to do something about it. Yes the entire food and beverage industry seem to be determined to kill us slowly... BUT one of the few freedom we still have is to decide what we eat. I hear people saying "I can't afford to eat healthy" and "I don't have time to workout", well me neither yet I do both (thought could use some improvement and go all the way organic...). The truth is, most people cannot afford NOT to eat healthy and they do not have the time to NOT workout... The money you don't spend on healthy food you will way more on medication and chronic illness, the time you don't spend exercising will be taken in years that you won't get to live... Since we are not millionaire, we cannot afford to NOT eat healthy and since we are not immortal, we do not have time to NOT workout, that is the bottom line.
    Given how messed up our society is asking us to always work more hours for less money, to pay more for food that could double as medication, and less for food that will send us to the ER... it will take creativity to make it work for your budget and your schedule but it is attainable, it takes planning, and it takes knowledge! Knowledge is power! The difference between this weight loss and the dozens of other times before that...? This time my eyes are wide open, I KNOW STUFF! :) it took reading, watching documentaries, self experimentation, chatting with other people, listening to podcasts, and it wasn't all just about food and exercise, it is wholesome living we are aiming for here... it took work alright... but now when my body craves to go moving instead of watching TV on the couch, craves an antioxidant full smoothy instead of a piece of cake or pie... boy was it worth it! ANYONE can do it. Your body will eventually help you and thank you for it.
    “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food” ― Hippocrates
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  • LOOD1962
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    2672 days ago
    I'm so glad that you shared your thoughts with us. Alot of this stuff needs to be said.

    It is particularly true about a variety of people I happen to know who never work out, and get poorly, but won't do anything... although their health is declining.It's to the ones I mentioned this great website here, but they never bother to check it out, or if they do, don't partisipate.

    But I would guess there would be more, that keep getting tripping over the concepts or putting it into practice, but don't get unstuck. There is nothing to be ashamed of, when one struggles and has to recommit. It's the excuses and blaming it all on circumstances and others. This shows that how we think of it, is the most important thing.

    Yes, it makes me sad or mad, when I know so and so can do it, but they don't or won't. It hurts to watch someone you care about go in a ditch. You offer to reach up your hand, but we can't or shouldn't do it for them.
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  • no profile photo JSEATTLE
    That wasn't so much a rant as a cheer for the rest of us! You know and I know you are so Right!
    2672 days ago
    I loved your rant bc it is so true im great with keeping good with the food but I hate exercise I gotta get motivated I clean a lot but I know I need to do other things I started on feb13 and just learning to eat right you feel better I just wanna look nice I like clothes thanks u motivated me emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2672 days ago
    Good words. It IS up to US and our CHOICES--every hour, EVERY day.
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