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A new life plan

Friday, January 31, 2014

I'm working on a new life plan that I've put off for... years. It's amazing how many excuses we can make to put something off. Further, our weight can be tied in with life. It gets stuck when we get stuck. When we can clean out the closets, let go of the fear, anger or take a step in faith into the unknown, then we finally release the weight - both physically and mentally - and move forward.

A big issue is my a career transition. I was laid off from what was supposed to have been my "dream job". I knew things were unraveling long before the end, but I didn't know what else I wanted to do. So for a long time I've felt "stuck". I've had several losses in my life as well, so I think I've also been scared to make a move.

So I am writing anything that comes to mind or that I feel about life, work or the way I'd like things to be. For example, I may have been denying that I still want to do some form of my old work as a photojournalist. The thought of it makes me nervous, want to eat, get a stomach ache. It provokes some emotion in me so must be important. But instead of eating, I write. It is hard and I keep thinking of everything else I would rather do than work on it, but I'm doing it...

Have a great weekend all!
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  • KONRAD695
    Just going through my Spark friends that I haven't been in contact with, and you're right near the top of the list. I've seen some of the weight loss updates you've had, but haven't kept tracked the way I should. So here I am trying to catch back up. Wishing the best for you, Konrad
    2558 days ago
  • IRP1114
    Good for you. Letting go of fears can only bring positives into our lives. I know I have many I still need to let go of myself. I wish you luck in finding a way to make your dreams come true ; )!
    2633 days ago
    I think the fact that it provokes such a strong reaction indicates you need to seriously explore it.
    2634 days ago
    Writing is a great way to process. The blog gives people a chance to respond, and encourage you on a good path.
    2634 days ago
    You're life sure is taking twists and turns...but it will take you by beautiful things that will catch your attention.
    2635 days ago
  • SKATER787
    Sorry to hear about your dad. But at least you got a chance to connect.

    40's is prime. You still got a lot of hormones going. It's after 60's that hormone levels fell off the cliff. That's from everything I have read from Thymus gland to Pineal and so on. Without the hormones, we're finished.

    Remember what Alan Greenspan said. You can learn in two years more than you did in ten. With your back against the wall, you can make it happen.

    Good luck.
    2635 days ago
    Writing helps me sort out my issues too. Something about seeing it in black-and-white makes it real.

    Good luck to you!
    2635 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14253479
    I am amazed at your honesty with all of this. You are looking into your Pandora's box at the same time realizing that it is opening wider because of your desire to no longer hold onto the past and want to LIVE your life instead of being stuck in grief. The time has come for you to grow and thrive.

    I am impressed and it is rare for me to feel this way.
    2635 days ago
    Sometimes you have to take life one day, one moment at a time. As you wrote you are yet to be 41, so you do have a lot of life left in you. Writing and expressing how you feel right now is a great way to deal with your life issues. I hope you can figure out what you want to do now. Good fortune and you too enjoy your weekend!
    2635 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3468195
    Good idea, better to do something else than eat. emoticon
    2635 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13099273
    Precisely why I have been blogging more - blog away ! I am sorry that your dream job did not work out as planned . That fear of making a change in the direction that not only is a good decision is the most frightful . I dealt with that situation last year - when I chose to freelance its a very scary move that does trigger bad habits but at least your aware - blog all you want - we'll be here - Thanks for your support - Hugs K
    2635 days ago
    you have a great attitude as you transition to this new chapter of your life, and that will serve you well. visualization may be beneficial for you: try to visualize what you would like or love to do for work, adding details as they arise for you. what are your passions? what would it be great to be PAID for doing? do you like to do what you are good at? how can you incorporate those assets into your vision? embrace the possibilities, ask for support where it would be useful, and keep your heart and mind open. know deeply that you deserve to be valued. i know you will create a beautiful career that nourishes you, and i'm cheering you on!
    2635 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14193183
    Free writing is a great way to unlock the brain. Once you have felt all the emotions. Look down. Read what you wrote. Organize the thoughts and decide which direction would be the right direction for you. emoticon
    2635 days ago
    @Skater787, LOL, I turn 41 in two weeks, but thanks, I feel young... depending on the day you ask, haha. I was actually glad when I got laid off, the job wasn't good, but the big question was what to do next, which I didn't have an answer for at the time and am still trying to figure out. As for the losses, well one was my Dad, but we did got closer and do more together in the few years before while he was fighting his cancer, yes.
    2635 days ago
    I am in such a similar boat and you are so right on about how hard it can be to just get up and do it. My current employer will not pay me what I deserve to be paid. I'm considered an asset, I get rave reviews from members and coworkers and I am the only person who does the position to cover all four of our branches on top of it I've been here 8 years yet I'm under the poverty level. Sadly my passions are completely different than my current field; photography and fitness/nutrition. Job hunting is frustrating especially in this economy when there are 100 or more applicants for each position.

    Enough about me...lol sorry. Your path sounds very exciting, I wish you lots of success as you make your plan. You can do it!
    2635 days ago
  • SKATER787
    You are still young so you may not believe this. But many times, people find out that they best thing that has ever happened to their lives is to lose something of significant to them. Be it the love of their lives, a dream job, you name it. Because they move on to bigger and better things. New door will be opened. Even people who got cancer, I read of many who said that not only they beat cancer but it was the cancer that turned their lives around. You can't see it yet because you don't have the long view and it's impossible to get the long view until you've lived through it. But I have little doubt that you'll find losing your dream job is one of the best things that has ever happened to you.
    2635 days ago
    I've also found that writing things out helps with the stress of life events. Way to start planning and reject opportunities to procrastinate. I hope everything works out for the best for you!
    2635 days ago
  • SASHA-222
    I know how you feel, it is amazing what I end up thinking about instead of getting up and doing what I need to do. Like you I am transitioning my career....working for myself ...lots of fear, but like you said each day I work on it. Best of luck.
    2635 days ago
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