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Leaving a friend behind.....

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

I don't want to say it - but right now I HATE the scale. I've been whining about Mr Scale because he isn't confirming my efforts. Today I put Mr Scale in the basement. Really. The basement. Out of site. I will have monthly visitation with him on the first of the month, but that is it! Mr Scale WAS my friend. Now he is holding me back. It's time to move on.

He is really getting to me and the numbers he is showing me gets that chorus stirred up - you know the one - the one that says "You will never get there" "All that work and nothing, why bother" "Go ahead, eat the pizza, you will feel better" "And this is the first month of serious commitment, the weight should be coming off easier - what are you going to do when it gets harder?" "Yep, you will never get there" "Hang it up".

Mr Scale not only hasn't moved in the right direction - he moved in the wrong direction! Yep, I hate him!

I am telling myself maybe it could be water retention - I have been drinking tons of water and I don't think I am putting out near what I am taking in (but then again, I am sweating some out). Maybe I am building muscle - lifting all that snow! Maybe I just need to go to the bathroom! Maybe it's.....

OK - so stop.

I have listened to that chorus of negativity my whole life. No more. Not today. I am not wasting my time or efforts on that, I have better things to do.

It is what it is. So what. Just keep doing those right things Barb. Good things will happen. It won't always be like this. Someday the scale will catch up. Someday your clothes will be too big. Someday you will rock a smaller size. Someday you will feel healthier. Someday it won't be such an effort to bend over and tie your shoes, or climb those flights of stairs. That day is NOT today. But that day will NEVER come if you quit. Screw the pizza. Eat your healthy lunch girl.

Go to the Y tonight. I bet when you get there you will be inspired by someone. I bet there will be someone you will try to keep up with as best you can. I bet there will be someone there who will be trying to keep up with you! I bet you will be inspiring someone else! Then reward yourself with some time in the whirlpool. You won't regret it, I promise! It will certainly feel better than watching tv on the couch.

You are making progress. You are able to lift heavier weights than when you started. You are able to walk further and at a quicker pace than when you started. You are drinking more water than soda! WooHoo!

Stop, turn around and look at where you were when you started. You are not there today. You my dear are awesome and doing just fine. In fact, you rock girl! Focus on your goal and NOT a number. Come on, get up, one foot in front of the other, we have places to go and we are not going to get there sitting along side the road whining about the loss of our friend Mr Scale. Someday he will come to his senses and catch up with us. Let's get moving! I have faith in you.

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    Boy, I really don't do this enough - give myself a pep talk. This is genius. Congrats to you on embracing your non scale victories. And congrats on kicking Mr. Scale to the curb and working your program. You've got the hardest part under control - getting your mind right.
    2701 days ago
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    And THAT is how we do this!!! We keep what works and leave the rest, right?!?!
    EVERYTHING which stands in our way can ALWAYS be moved out of sight, because the VIEW begins and ends in our HEADS!!
    Healthy lunch works! Pizza does not!
    Larger weights work! The scale does not!
    Reminding yourself that this is a LIFELONG journey WORKS!!!
    Defeatist self-talk DOES NOT!
    Go on witchya BAAAAAAD self, Girl!!!
    I will not allow a DIRTY, WHITE box that sits beneath a TOILET tell me who I AM!!! :-) NONE of us should!

    love you so, Mama!
    stephi :-)
    2702 days ago
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    This was wonderful. I am also stuck on a number lately. and when you think about it, it's so foolish! If I got on the scale today and it read 125, would I think I had arrived? Of course not! I still have fat to lose.
    It's a slippery slope, that scale. So much fun while it is going down in number, but a major stumbling block when it stays the same, or rises a bit.
    I get on every single morning. I need to reconsider this.

    thank you!
    2702 days ago
  • LE7_1234
    Great idea!

    At one point, I was weighing pretty obsessively--but I made myself really view it as data points, not value judgements. And I really did start to see patterns--like always gaining 2-4 pounds around ovulation…. If I didn't freak out about it and just kept doing the right things, it disappeared as quickly as it came.

    And that's in addition to the other things you mentioned, like building muscle, or water retention due to workouts.

    2702 days ago
    Barb... I embrace every word of your blog... I know that feeling and So PROUD OF HOW STRONG YOU ARE.. it is what it is !!!! YOU NAILED IT !!

    Enjoy the Y tonight.. YOU GOT THIS GIRL... One healthy choice and then the next one.. I LOVE YOU !!

    always your cheerleader ,
    2702 days ago
  • MEME102
    I so enjoyed your blog!!!You have put the scale in the right place...for now. Sometimes we just need to ignore Mr. Scale and put him in his place. Focusing on what you are doing.....and doing well!!! You have noticed those NSVs (like lifting heavier weights etc) If you keep that focus you WILL succeed. In our hot tub thread today someone asked if there was such a thing as 'food addiction' --and she told what she's doing to keep away from her sugar addiction -- if you have one of those to share, come share with us!! Keep up the good work...you will get there.
    2703 days ago
    Oh, my friend, do I ever understand! I am very happy for-and proud of- you for giving yourself the pep-talk you needed and deserved.

    Keep doing what you're doing and the results will come. My husband keeps reminding me that muscle weighs more than fat, and my amazing MIL (who is a retired nurse) keeps reminding me that recovering muscles retain extra fluid while they heal (that's why it's suggested to workout every other day-especially after a break) .

    As long as I don't use that as an excuse, I'm good. I think you were wise to banish the scale to the basement.

    And you are right about going and being inspired by others and being an inspiration TO others. We are all in this together-
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    2703 days ago
    emoticon I have been waiting forever to use this emoticon, so thanks for the opportunity!

    Mr. Scale is not my friend, either. Ms. Tape Measure and I are best buddies. We have meet-ups twice a month, despite SP's schedule of once per month. She wants me to remind people that sore muscles are also swollen muscles, so take that into account.

    You're doing great! Keep up the changes in your lifestyle and you will meet all your goals for clothes, feeling (and being) healthier, bending and stretching, and climbing stairs - and many more goals that you will think of as you progress!
    2703 days ago
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