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The Difference Between Pressure and Support...

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Monday, January 06, 2014

First off, I wanted to start with a emoticon The goodies and the comments have been overwhelming (in the best possible way), and I am so grateful to all of you! I can not believe it is to a point where it'd be pretty impossible to get back to all of you individually, but I appreciate it so much and wanted you to know that! emoticon

So yesterday, I was thinking about how blessed I am to have the most amazing Spark Friends ever... but then I started to have a mini panic attack.



I am one of those people that kind of keeps to themselves and I just do my own thing. In fact, the only reason the people at my work know how much weight I've lost is because they asked me, and asked me, and asked me until I finally cracked and told them. It is just something that I wasn't that comfortable talking about unless it was here on Spark. (I am more comfortable talking about it now). I feel like Spark is a safe place to share everything that is weight loss related, and by sharing you are able to receive amazing support.

But my mini panic attack started because I had soooooo many amazing comments the last couple of days, it suddenly occurred to me that it meant 200+ people were "watching my weight loss journey". *SHRIEKS IN HORROR* emoticon All of a sudden, a million thoughts ran through my head:

"What if I fail, what if I gain it all back? What will they think of me then?"

"I will let everyone down if I don't get to my goals, they are counting on me!"

"How embarrassed would you be if you had to admit to these wonderful people that you can't do it after all?"

I started to think there was so much pressure to get to where I want to get, and it freaked me out. I don't do well with pressure when it comes to weight loss. I have had people pressure me to lose weight in the past, and it never ended well. They meant well, don't get me wrong, but they made me feel like I had to do it and I had to do it right that minute, and it was too much for me to handle. Some people thrive under pressure, I am not one of those people. emoticon

But after I took a minute to step back and think about it, I realized that the pressure was all in my head! No one is pressuring me to get to my goals... there was no pressure at all, just support!



This site is filled with tons of Spark Cheerleaders! emoticon We are all here, with a common goal to get healthier or stay healthy, and we are one huge team! We share our ups and our downs, we give out support and hugs on a daily basis, and we are always there to congratulate a emoticon moment! That is what makes this site so special! So if you are ever wondering:

"What will my Spark friends think if I tell them I gained all my weight back?"

"What will my Spark friends say if I come back after being MIA for 6 months?"

"What will they think of me if I tell them I've been off track over a month?"

This is what they are going to tell you:


So never be afraid to share with your Spark friends! If you need support, let them know! We are all one big team, working hard to achieve our goals! emoticon emoticon
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    JJUUST LOVE THE CATS THAT IS SO SWEET
    2702 days ago
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  • TREE57
    Support, encouragement and nudges=the best Spark Friends!


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  • LYNNWANNABE
    I can so relate as about a week ago I saw a SP message at the bottom of my blog that said, over 10,000 people had viewed it and they warned me to be sure not to post anything I could or would regret.. I about had a heart attack... emoticon

    I wonder how many have viewed yours.. tee-hee-hee! emoticon

    Yes, I'm ornery aren't I? emoticon

    (Seriously though, I really DO enjoy reading what you have to say and rather your up or down.. you are on a journey we all can relate too.. been there done that and fighting to get back.. frankly, for me, it's all part of the bigger journey: LIFE! ..and you make me laugh and enjoy the process!) emoticon


    2712 days ago
  • JESSICA_STULTZ
    I agree. With so many watching your journey it is easy to feel pressure. One thing I've found with Sparkpeople though, is that most people are there to support you whether you are having a good day or a bad dayl I love watching your journey and seeing you succeed and when you are having a hard time, I like to be there to support you! Either way, I am here to back you up! I know I've kinda been out of commission these last couple months but I always seem to find my way back here!
    2713 days ago
  • FITFRIT
    So here's a bit of a thought you may want to consider, we're here, to cheer, to encourage, to be inspired, but we're also here if you aren't making progress too. A lot of us don't make progress (arrow pointing at self) all the time and I'm not going anywhere. We ALL struggle or we wouldn't be here. Don't feel pressured, feel inspired that this many people are saying that what you have to say is worth reading. If you take a step back, it's okay, we've ALL done it, but with this many people cheering you on, you are bound to find one with sage advice and a shoulder when necessary. I hope you have someone who really holds you up in this journey, it's not easy not having that ...i know my biggest supporter turned out to be an enabler.
    2713 days ago
  • SPARTAN40
    Awesome blog. Tangies rock. We're here to support you!
    2715 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13150933
    Can I join the cute little "Spark Cheerleaders"? They are so precious!!! The puppies are right when they put their paws around each other and say "It's gonna be okay". emoticon
    2715 days ago
  • SIMONEKP
    glad you pulled out of the panic emoticon
    2715 days ago
  • EILEEN828
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  • TEXASFILLY
    That's right~ it's gonna be okay. *hugs* Take the wisdom in the words of this fine woman & set yourself free of what others think~ Keep focused on your success~ BB~ emoticon emoticon *hugs*

    “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
    ¯ Eleanor Roosevelt
    2715 days ago
  • FLMOMX2
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  • CHANTENAY
    Do what you need to do and don't even think about us! Each one should do their own thing. Like you said, praise can be pressure. It is even for little kids. Parents today are encouraged not to praise every little thing their kids do for this very reason. I wish they said that when my kids were young. It really is more peaceful not to feel like every little thing one does is a big deal, when you think about it. But we are so happy that things are working out for you. You deserve credit for it, you made it happen.

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  • HEATHERFREE
    SO true, I see why you had a mini freak out but you came to the 100% correct conclusion!
    2715 days ago
  • SYELLICO
    This is so true! emoticon
    2715 days ago
  • LYNMEINDERS
    Awesome blog....we are all here for each other and to cheer each otehr on...woohoo...go you...you can so do this
    2715 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13564730
    Great blog! Love the cheerleaders!
    2715 days ago
  • KIM22211
    I reckon I am thankful that the attention is on you and not me! lol!! I too just scoot along and do my thing with weight loss. But I am sure it is wonderful to have all that support too.
    2715 days ago
  • WEBEZE
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  • no profile photo CD12998504
    and on the BTS, you aren't made to feel like it's all about the weight loss - it's about your whole journey to a better "YOU". I saw that you've joined and I want to welcome you and wish you a wonderful journey!
    2716 days ago
  • MONTHONY
    Great post! I am one of those people who have always been private, and SparkPeople is the first place where I have been open. I was thin most of my life, and I just wasn't used to talking about weight. I don't know many people on here, but I feel they are very supportive.
    So I will cheer you on, too.

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    2716 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Absolutely right! It'll be ok! It'll be all right! We're here thru thick and thin. You're stuck with us! And we'll stick with you!
    2716 days ago
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    emoticon emoticon on your Success !
    2716 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Love those Spark cheerleaders!
    2716 days ago
  • KOHINOOR2
    emoticon emoticon You're doing great and will continue doing great not because of any pressure but because you really want do. You have all the tools and knowledge to be successful and the full support of all the spark community. Together we can accomplish all our goals. emoticon emoticon emoticon

    2716 days ago
  • TOKIEMOON
    What an excellent share. I can imagine how you felt when you had that crazy thought. I hope you were able to lay it to rest. I doubt if there is anyone out here who lost weight and never gained it back (or at least a good portion of it.)

    You've been taking your weight off for some time, instead of 'crash dieting'. That said, you stand a much better chance of not letting yourself backslide for too long.

    Keep staying with Spark People. We're the best! emoticon emoticon
    2716 days ago
  • ELIZABETH5268
    This is so true. This community is so amazing and full of so much positive support. It has made all the difference for so many people including myself.
    2716 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12521998
    Hey sweetness! I totally understand how you were feeling. I felt like I was letting everyone down when I got off track. But I think the reason I keep coming back even after a setback, is that it really is support - everyone is along for the ride! Love you guys!!
    2716 days ago
  • UWPALUM
    I have definitely let the pressure get to me, and I went back to some bad habits, still am living with those bad habits. I was getting within 10 pounds of 100 pounds lost, and I just kept thinking about how big that was and everyone else knew how big that was too. So I find myself a month later having gained back about 13 pounds and trying to talk myself into getting back on track. Suggestions?
    2716 days ago
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  • no profile photo CD13462556
    We are all here wanting you to succeed but we don't depend on your or want to pressure you! Just like you said, we are all in this together and we are all going to make it to the other side! The healthy side!
    2716 days ago
  • WHOVIANGIRL23
    Very true.. You know how I've gained 18 lbs over the holidays but when I came back, I still got nothing but support. SP rocks, and so do you my dear friend.
    2716 days ago
  • AMARILYNH
    One more thing - don't ever feel you need to respond to each of us personally! We comment because you TOUCH us with your blogs - instead of responding personally just write another blog when you feel one!! NO PRESSURE here on SP!
    2716 days ago
  • AMARILYNH
    See, here's the thing. Your SparkFriends KNOW what a battle losing weight and keeping it off is! Most of us have experienced losing weight only to regain it (and often, like me, to regain MORE than I'd lost.)

    So do you really think we'd love you less if any of that stuff happened? Heck no - you aren't at your goal right now and we love you, right? You are NOT your weight - you are a sweet, caring person!! So NO PRESSURE!! If that happened we'd feel bad because YOU'D feel bad, but we would understand and still love you!! Hugs, Marilyn
    2716 days ago
  • ZMICHE
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    Life is filled with all sorts of temptations to focus on the body being the goal. Make the reason connecting to others and you will prevail.
    2716 days ago
  • ASRMOM
    Great blog and so true! Thank you for sharing!
    2716 days ago
  • DIANNEMT
    Very great reminder to us all!
    2716 days ago
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  • CHUBRUB3
    Yeah Stephanie!!
    You are so right!
    It IS gonna be okay!
    Hugs!
    Angela
    2716 days ago
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  • TANYA602
    I get these same mini panic attacks - it's so good to know that I am not alone. I think this is why I had actually disappeared for a few months. But, as you said so well, it's about the support we receive here -not the pressure. Have a beautiful day and rest assured that we are here for one another. I sure wish I was as cute as your cheerleading cats, though!
    2716 days ago
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  • TIGER_LILY_613
    "there was no pressure at all, just support!" : took the words right outta my mouth :)
    Great blog!
    2716 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8126238
    You have made my day, thank you for your blog and I love those pictures. I feel the same as you do too and I love the SUPPORT, where has it been all my life, but I found it here on Sparkpeople, I love it!
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  • 123ELAINE456
    Well Said!!! You Can Do It!!! As You Said We are here for each other. You are doing great. Keep Pushing Forward!!! Keep Sparling!!! This Is The WTG!!!
    2716 days ago
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