Chances VS Choices - Feeding Emotional Stress
Sunday, January 05, 2014
After reading Sparkfriend Sharon10002 couple of blogs on Loving Yourself, Healing Yourself -
I got to thinking about what sort of chances am I able to take in order to heal from feeding emotional stress. A huge chance for me would be to actually voice my feelings instead of holding them inside. Why is this a chance and not a choice? Well, I would be taking the chance that I might really make people angry, disappointed, irritated.... you know all those kind of feelings that people pleasers don't feel comfortable with. I would be taking the chance that some of these people may not want to continue to be in my life. And perhaps that would be a healthy chance for me to take.
Another chance that I am willing to take is to go to bed feeling hungry. Again, why is this a chance and not a choice? Well I always feel that I won't be able to fall asleep and then I might not be able to stay asleep if I am feeling hungry. So the chance is that maybe I won't get a good night's sleep. And perhaps I would sleep even better? (Sleeping is often a stressful time for me because my brain starts to worry - and going to bed with a full tummy seems to help soothe that emotional beast)
I am pretty sure that I have some fears around physical chances - also. I don't like to go walking by myself. I will do it if I have to, but I find that kind of stressful. I once belonged to a gym and went by myself, but I didn't really enjoy it much. So that would be a huge chance for me to take. Again, why is this a chance? It all revolves around not feeling like I would fit in. I wouldn't know how to use the equipment. I wouldn't be able to do the exercises. Oh my gosh - I guess I might not be perfect. Of course I wouldn't be, this is silly, but you see, this is how the mind goes in circles and all this could end up at a Dairy Queen stuffing the emotions with a Blizzard to soothe the soul.
So to sum it up I could actually work on:
1. Giving up being a people pleaser
2. Allow myself to feel some physical discomfort instead of stuffing feelings with food
3. Feeling uncomfortable until I feel like I fit in - in new situations whether by myself or in the company of other people.
I am certain there are many more chances that will pop into my head once I post this blog. I would love to hear what chances other people are willing to take (or that they took) in order to heal emotional eating.