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Chances VS Choices - Feeding Emotional Stress

Sunday, January 05, 2014

After reading Sparkfriend Sharon10002 couple of blogs on Loving Yourself, Healing Yourself -

I got to thinking about what sort of chances am I able to take in order to heal from feeding emotional stress. A huge chance for me would be to actually voice my feelings instead of holding them inside. Why is this a chance and not a choice? Well, I would be taking the chance that I might really make people angry, disappointed, irritated.... you know all those kind of feelings that people pleasers don't feel comfortable with. I would be taking the chance that some of these people may not want to continue to be in my life. And perhaps that would be a healthy chance for me to take.

Another chance that I am willing to take is to go to bed feeling hungry. Again, why is this a chance and not a choice? Well I always feel that I won't be able to fall asleep and then I might not be able to stay asleep if I am feeling hungry. So the chance is that maybe I won't get a good night's sleep. And perhaps I would sleep even better? (Sleeping is often a stressful time for me because my brain starts to worry - and going to bed with a full tummy seems to help soothe that emotional beast)

I am pretty sure that I have some fears around physical chances - also. I don't like to go walking by myself. I will do it if I have to, but I find that kind of stressful. I once belonged to a gym and went by myself, but I didn't really enjoy it much. So that would be a huge chance for me to take. Again, why is this a chance? It all revolves around not feeling like I would fit in. I wouldn't know how to use the equipment. I wouldn't be able to do the exercises. Oh my gosh - I guess I might not be perfect. Of course I wouldn't be, this is silly, but you see, this is how the mind goes in circles and all this could end up at a Dairy Queen stuffing the emotions with a Blizzard to soothe the soul.

So to sum it up I could actually work on:
1. Giving up being a people pleaser
2. Allow myself to feel some physical discomfort instead of stuffing feelings with food
3. Feeling uncomfortable until I feel like I fit in - in new situations whether by myself or in the company of other people.

I am certain there are many more chances that will pop into my head once I post this blog. I would love to hear what chances other people are willing to take (or that they took) in order to heal emotional eating.
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  • _BABE_
    I think re-examining what you are doing is always a good thing. We tend to keep it for January 01 but it's a valuable tool all year round. emoticon
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    emoticon don't you think it eye-opening/epiphany when we realize deep down inside how many ways and whys we eat to self-soothe.... and how many ways & whys we don't risk hurt? I am not sure of your definition, but I have found it a conscious choice to take a chance to risk hurt when I work on people pleasing issues; and indeed, some have chosen not to continue. The ones who cared and who mattered got over it, worked through it, and I think we emerged stronger and closer... or learned that it was better just to stay superficial, then I realized I couldn't count on either... It takes 2 to Tango... and if we are kind and need to express a sincere, meaningful emotion/boundary, then it is 1/2 their part to show up to the dance... I didn't start the Tango until the last 10 yrs or so, and it is an uncomfortable/fearsome choice to take those chances and make those changes... but worthwhile... to teach others we are not doormats...
    2490 days ago
    Wishing you luck as you deal with the emotional stress. HUGS
    2490 days ago
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