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To give away or not to give away???

Saturday, December 07, 2013

I am going to see my SIL today who went thru weight loss surgery and has lost 60 lbs so far. She is looking great and has about 60 to go. As I lay awake this morning waiting for the house to warm out before I ventured out of my nice warm bed, I was contemplating whether I should ask her if she wants my old jeans and dress pants and a couple pair of workout pants that are several sizes too big for me.

You would think the answer would be easy, of course I should. But somehow, I think of these things as a reminder of the weight I lost and the weight that I never want to regain. So it would make sense to get rid of them right??? I think that I will have to force myself to do so since they are taking up space, but it made me nervous.
I had to tell myself, Holly, what would make you change what you are doing right now, why would you gain the weight back? Why would you change your tracking and exercise habits?
The answer is, I won't and I don't plan too but somehow those clothes are like a security blanket to remind me.
Do others feel this way? Did you get rid of your clothes anyway?
I think the problem is that I have lost weight in the past and bought new clothes, which I am wearing some of now days, but went back to eating out and more than I should and not exercising. But that was pre SP and since I have learned so much here and know this isn't just for a year or so, this is for life.
So after blogging about it, I can now say that I will give those clothes away and feel good about it. Thanks for the support of all the wonderful people here that have helped me become who I am today. And that person is someone that eats healthy and eats to live, vs someone who just lives to eat!
Have a great weekend!
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  • AUNTB63
    Let me start with.....GREAT pic...YOU still are looking AMAZING! Now about the clothes give away and the insecurities that go along with this act of kindness. I dealt with fear of giving away my "big" clothes....what if I needed them again. Well I started cleaning the closet....one bag at a time. With every bag I felt more liberated and just knew (in my heart) that all I have learned on this journey is not going to allow me to need those clothes ever again. I still have another bag to fill, but this last one is going to be the easiest to give away.....paying it forward to someone else who could use these perfect condition clothes also makes me feel better.
    Sorry this comment is weeks after you posted the blog, but at least I'm leaving my two cents worth now....LOL ((HUGS))
    2683 days ago
  • _BABE_
    There is no reason to keep them unless you plan on failing....and we know that is not true. emoticon
    2690 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3468195
    I think that is great to give away some clothes that no longer fit. I have given away some but still have a few more boxes. I will have to do this too. emoticon
    2690 days ago
  • no profile photo CD9234910
    I am so glad you decided to give them away... I am convinced you'll maintain your weight loss, you are such an inspiration for me... I can't wait for the day when I'll be giving clothes too. At the moment, my weight loss hasn't been enough for me to need to do this. Some clothes are slightly big, but I can still wear them.
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    2690 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8158758
    I give mine away too. You look great Holly! Now you have lots of room in the closet for some nice new clothes!!
    2690 days ago
  • SWAN47
    I think by getting rid of them it's being confident you won't gain the weight back. It solidifies it. I'm one that likes to hold onto everything!
    2690 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    I did give away 3 big bags of clothes and it felt so good! If they don't fit my SIL, I asked her to give them to others that she knew. It felt great! emoticon emoticon
    2690 days ago
    awesome picture of an awesome you
    2690 days ago
    Holly, good for you for deciding to give them away! I face this too...and I am also wearing "old" clothes that are like new from the times that I lost before. I too feel like I should keep the old "fat" clothes. I have packed them away and am donating some slowly but surely. Eventually they will all be gone.
    2690 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Holly you have come a long way since starting sparks---wonderful progress and you should be pleased. As for the clothes, I have not lost that much yet to be in your situation ( wish I were) but here is what I plan on doing when the time comes.
    1.--Check the clothes over to see if there is a way for me to remodel them to be able to fit. Then follow through if some are worthy of doing so.
    2--Keep a few pieces just for those times I feel I;m not making more progress, so I can put them on and realise how far I have gotten on my journey
    3--With the rest give them to some one or some place that where they will be available for someone who can wear them.
    2690 days ago
  • JANET552
    Congratulations on your success!! I'm glad you made a decision about the clothes and that the decision makes you happy!!
    2691 days ago
    I still have some of the really nice things--things that would cost $$ to replace. But yes--it is hard to get rid of them because "what if??" Good for you to pass them on!!
    2691 days ago
    Every step of the way I have given away the stuff that was too big. I NEVER intend to need them again and there is a lot of room for a lot smaller clothes, now! emoticon
    2691 days ago
    I am so proud of you Holly getting rid of your big clothes! Congratulations! I know that it is a huge step! Just look forward do not look back!
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    2691 days ago
  • EMILY0724
    Hmmm. I don't know. I have kept some of my old big clothes. I never really thought of them as a security blanket, but you're right about that. Every time I think about getting rid of them, I think that if something should happen and I gain weight again, I won't have to spend money on clothes. So I keep some of them. It's really brave of you to get rid of them all!
    2691 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13099273
    Good Morning Holly , Congrats to SIL - woo hoo good for her ! I most certainly do go through that entire situation that you mention . The security blanket of a closet full of good clothes that are too big for us ! Then I change my thought to this - No - I am letting go of the old thought process and bringing in the new ! Like yourself ! I love the Picture you look incredible - good enough to eat ! Hugs Karen emoticon emoticon
    2691 days ago
  • _VALEO_
    Give away these clothes! You don't need this extra burden hidden in your closet. You're DONE with this past, and can move along. Enjoy your lighter You, Holly!

    2691 days ago
    First of all Holly .......... emoticon on the awesome job you have done and look fantastic !! .......... Here is what I did .............. I had a bunch of clothes too that I swam in ................ I know how you feel so what I did was save out ONE SKIRT and one PAIR PANTS and 1 top ............. and on days that I feel discouraged and think I am stuck, I go ahead and put one of those outfits on .............. and then I keep on going cause I smile and know I can do it! ................ so that is my take .......... you certainly only give when it is something you really WANT to do ............... Just a thought ...
    ALSO thanks so much for the kind warm words you wrote on my blog Friday! Hope it helped .............. (re your clothes) emoticon
    2691 days ago
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