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This Was Not Suppose To Happen At This Stage Of My Life!

Monday, November 04, 2013

Was going title this Lady & The Tramp but decided against it emoticon

I've known for a while Charlie & myself have been spending way to much time together. We are so opposite with our lives no 2 people could be so opposite. Yes I've heard all my life "OPPOSITES" do attract.

I have been questioned about our relationship he now has been questioned about "US" . That is what lead to last night. 3 hours trying to sort out what is going on . Yeah if you look at our text messages and that he comes into where I work to see when I'm done with work and I always say "see you later?"

He has even started leaving stuff in the car so I have to take it to him. I ask if he wants a dinner plate? I picked up some clothes from the Salvation army for him as his jeans were stolen etc

Last night the food plate that I bring him is just his way of getting to see me and that he thinks of me all the time that's why he texts me. I look forward to our texts

The first part of October we hit a rough spot someone was trying to get him & I not to hang out we got that fixed and since then constantly together.

I only see Charlie as a person many bring to my attention that he is homeless He has a home that happens to be in the woods I have been there visiting. Me I live in my brother & mom home

As he told me last night he doesn't know if he deserves to have a good woman in his life and he has nothing of real to offer that I deserve better. Well this wasn't suppose to happen. We both agree its all James fault if it wasn't for James we would never have started this relationship.

Charlie wants me to tell him what I expect and want. He doesn't really want a short term but doesn't know if he has a long term relationship in him at this point of time.

Still as it sounds at my age (I'm older then he is) what I want and need is really just the companionship it can get real lonely not having that someone to go to when things get rough or I'm upset I just want some one to cuddle with. Not interested if its only going to be short term in that case no sense in putting me out there to be hurt. If we go any further there are things I will not except will not stay if disrespected will not deal with a cheater or anyone who would hit & beat on me. I do want him to try get his act together.

Last night was the 1st time he hugged back really hugged back in an embrace for a very long time at least 30 minutes we would not let one another go. We spoke about our religious . He beliefs. He also said people will try to break us up again we will have our rough patch with people causing trouble .

My family is so pissed right now that I spend so much time with Charlie my mother always tries to ruin every relationship I have been in

Now I'm waiting to be able to speak with him again see if we can get this to work out I'm willing to give it a try and see what happens.

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    I hope you and Charlie are still friends. Companionship is something I would prefer now more then anything. Good luck.
    2712 days ago
    Just in the very you write about your mother, and how she tries to ruin every relationship of yours. How much permission one has from his/her parents (virtually and in spoken words) to choose his/her partner is a great deal.

    Reading your blog, this book came to my mind, I liked it a lot. It's not an easy read, I've read it more chapter by chapter. It's by a well trusted and good family counselor. If you happen to read it, I'm interested in how you liked it.

    The Fragile Bond: In Search of an Equal, Intimate and Enduring Marriage

    2716 days ago
    You have such a big heart and can see the best in others. To really love people like you do is a true gift, but just please be careful. I am sure that Charlie is wonderful, but he has hit a very low point in his journey being w/o a roof over his head.

    I do pick up strays myself, but no longer the human variety. I have three cats and two dogs because they were abandoned and I could not turn my eyes away from their plight.

    I am a poor, but I still share, but I do not let others into my personal refuge that is home. This is the place that I can escape the world's woes.

    I go and get shoes, clothes and food and some pocket money for people who are desperate, but I no longer listen to their stories unless they are really special to me.

    Please take care. Have you thought about volunteering your time and love where others like you will give you love and support back? You just have so much love to give.

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    2734 days ago
    If all you want is companionship and he is willing to give it then you can at least be friends. As for the 'opposites attract' theory, while that is true, keep in mind it can also be a reason for a relationship to not last. Attract is one thing, last is another.

    Still, it sounds like a great platonic relationship with a confidant.
    2734 days ago
  • POPSY190
    Take care, Linda. Thinking of you.
    2738 days ago
    Linda, oddly enough, I can kind of relate. My significant other was homeless for about a year in the recent past (although he was not when we met.) I'm not sure about Charlie's specific situation but I don't doubt that he's a great guy with a lot to offer you, even as is. It's incredible to see the range of people who wind up displaced and the deep feelings all of it brings.

    Congrats on maintaining such an open mind and not just writing off Charlie because of this stage of his life!
    2738 days ago
    Thoughts are with you that things work out the way they are meant to for the best.
    2739 days ago
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    I hope it works out for you both!

    2739 days ago
    Linda, I would say be earnest to your heart and decide what you are going to do. I would not worry about your Mom or brother. But it sounds like will be a bit tough relationship, if you choose this one. I just don't want you to get heart. You've been already having rough time with James missing in the past and about him being drunk etc... I had a relationship with alcoholic man before and it was not good relation ship and I had suffer so much. I hope yours will not be like my past relation ship. Sending positive energy and prayer for you and Charlie.
    Good luck and Best wishes Linda.
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    2739 days ago
  • FUNGIRL81005
    I have a brother that has been homeless at times for his drug use and mental issues. i love him and want the very best for him. Sometimes we would not have contact with him for 6 months and not know if he was ok or if he was dead.... BUT I do know that his mental issues are scary and can totally make him change into someone else. I prayed for people like you to look at a man that is homeless and know that there is a Mom or a Sister...or family that worries for that homeless man......Thank You for caring....
    Please be careful. Do some investigating into his past and his criminal records. Then make a decision. Praying for your heart and for safety.....
    2739 days ago
    The title of your post just happened to catch my eye, so I am unfamiliar w/your backstory? Who is James, why is Charlie homeless, etc???

    Like Trixie, I worry about your involvement if Charlie's "main squeeze" is drugs or alcohol? Otherwise, love is love & I hope this turns out well for you...
    2739 days ago
    Best of luck to you.
    2739 days ago
    I wish you nothing but the best. I do think before you enter into a relationship with Charlie, he needs to address whatever issues in his life led to him...shall we say, living in a non-traditional home? I do admire that you are able to look past his humble circumstances to see the person he is.
    2739 days ago
    good luck
    2739 days ago
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