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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

See that pretty little girl clutching her favorite book? It was an Uncle Wiggily Golden Book. I well remember the day. She needed to hold her book and no amount of pleading from the adults could get her to pose without the book. They took the book away and she flung herself down on the floor weeping inconsolably. Her attachment was strong and eventually the wisdom of holding the book prevailed. The adults gave up and the photo session was completed.
She was just on the brink of her second birthday.

Here she is, age 3, sitting bravely in the arms of a rather degenerate and clearly intoxicated Santa. We were all disturbed by the guy and we were forced to smile in order to get away.

She died 38 years ago today.
She was sitting at the kitchen table, all alone in the house. The last sad meal she had was a partial bowl of Spaghetti-O's and a glass of Pepsi-Cola. She was reading a newspaper article about the capture of Patti Hearst.

My little sister.

Life was different then. We all started baby-sitting when we were about 11. The youngest children of the baby-boom needed baby-sitters. One night she was baby-sitting for a toddler. His father was a professor and his mother was vastly pregnant with a second child. The professor drove my sister home. She was 13. But he stopped by a park. He had one of those old VW buses.

It was blue.

He told her that because his wife was pregnant, he really needed her so do something for him. She knew nothing about life. We had always been told to obey adults without question. Obedience was the highest virtue.

She came home with very bloody undergarments. My parents were furious. My father beat her for trying to ruin a good man's marriage. My mother mocked her.

She was 13. Didn't I say she was 13? The professor? He was old enough to be her father. And yet she was the EVIL one.

She killed herself. And he? He went on to become a respected Professor Emeritus famous in his field.

He is credited with pioneering Feminist interpretations of Art History.

How many people betrayed her? How many people blamed her? She broke up his marriage! And she was 13.

It's the 38th anniversary of her suicide.

I've never had the money to try to persecute him. And she was 13. You can read all about his pioneering achievements in Art History on the Internet. And see an impressive array of books at amazon.com that he wrote. I've called the police. It's too late. I've called and written to his universities. No response.
She gave her life because he could not contain his lust.

And she was 13.
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    Natalie, thank you for telling your sister's story and trying to make right out of a horrible wrong. Wrong? No it's evil, pure evil from the man, from your parents, on and on.

    You are your sister's voice. Do not stop speaking the truth.

    It wasn't that long ago that adults were thought to know better... there are times when it continues.

    I pray for comfort and peace for you.
    2823 days ago
    This truly has to be one of the saddest stories ever.
    Prayers for you to find peace in your life. God will be sure that man gets what he should.
    2823 days ago
    The only emotion I can feel after reading this is ANGER! I can only imagine what you are feeling. I want to kill the SOB! Have you ever considered seeking the help of a women's support agency to fight for justice in your sister's memory? I can only imagine the anger this would spark in the right people and the action they might take.... Hugs!!
    2823 days ago
    He is a paedophile and a rapist. And ultimately a murderer. And the universities ignore this? And that he dares to claim any understanding relating to feminism! This man who raped a 13 year old girl...
    The ongoing desolate pain of suicide for all of those who loved someone is something I know well as my brother committed suicide 15 years ago...
    2826 days ago
    He is a paedophile and a rapist. And ultimately a murderer. And the universities ignore this? And that he dares to claim any understanding relating to feminism! This man who raped a 13 year old girl...
    The ongoing desolate pain of suicide for all of those who loved someone is something I know well as my brother committed suicide 15 years ago...

    2826 days ago
  • TREV1964
    I am usually very talkative with always a lot to say but after reading that I have been stunned into silence.

    It is such a shame she isn't still here as if she was there would be a slight chance that justice could prevail no matter how overdue it is.

    I really feel for you and although I cannot imagine how I could be helpful here if you ever want to talk you know where I am.


    2826 days ago
    So sad. emoticon emoticon
    2826 days ago
    Oh Natalie. I cry for your little sister. She is a part of all of us. I cry for you. Beautifully written, as always, yet driving home the point of vulnerability and denial. I once read a story by a famous female physicist that she summed up "Life Is Messy" describing the pain and mental anguish in her family. How true. *hugs* Thanks for sharing.
    2827 days ago
    I grieve with you.
    2828 days ago
  • POPSY190
    A terrible, terrible account of a tragedy for your sister and you. The photographs make it all so much more poignant for readers like us who have it brought home to us what might have been had it not been for ignorance, intolerance and misplaced respect.
    2828 days ago
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    Thank you for sharing the story of your sister. My heart hurts for you. For the injustice. For the unanswered Whys?? For the precious little baby girl who was hurt and scared and then hurt and scared again by those who were meant to love and protect her the most. 38 years and I can only imagine that it feels just as fresh to you. Sharing her story, keeping her memory alive; that is what you can continue to do. I have only just become acquainted with you but I will tell you that I lost my only brother 7 1/2 years ago (a story for another time) and the only thing I can say is that I am forever changed. I am longer the person I was 8 years ago. And I am still trying to wrap my head around how the world is still spinning. How can "life go on"? I can only imagine how you feel today. I am praying for you. God Bless!
    2828 days ago
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    Natalie, I am so sorry for your loss. This was beautifully written in your sister's memory. Thank you for sharing this story that must be so painful to tell. I hope by sharing you continue to heal.
    2828 days ago
    Oh my goodness...words cannot express the sadness and the heartbreak and the incredulity. How callous of your parents, and how evil of that professor. I send you all the love and peace I can over this piddly little internet connection. I wish I could hug you in person. I wish you comfort, and comfort for your dear sister's memory.

    2828 days ago
    Natalie, I hate that I did not see this earlier today. There are just no words for what you must feel, especially on this day. I am aching for you and for your sister. I am so very sorry, so many years later, that your sister suffered such a horrible, horrible thing. There's just not enough I can say. emoticon
    2828 days ago
    A sad, sad story that weighs heavy on my heart.
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    2828 days ago
    Thank you for your comment, Sparkchantal!. My parents clearly cared more about what outsiders might think than about their own daughter. They decided that an older professor was a better judge of what was right or wrong than a 13 year old. The mocked her and beat her and accused her of trying to wreck a marriage. Their own self-loathing was projected onto their 6 children. emoticon
    2828 days ago
    we all realize the perpetrator is a monster, but... what's with your parents??????
    2828 days ago
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