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Where oh where has my happiness gone?

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

I am a mother of two fabulous kids. I couldn't ask for better kids. I do what I can to give them the world. But their schedules are wearing me down fast. I feel like all my time is dedicated to their needs. 5 nights a week and weekends my daughter has dance and I'm her competition company "go to" mom. My son has baseball 2 nights a week, practice on Saturday, and 2 games every Sunday. I am the team manager.

My husband and I had a heart to heart last night that neither one of us are happy with how things are going with our communication, schedules, financials, etc.

I had to remind him that's just the way it is when you have kids. Or is it? Is that just the way we've chosen our lives?

I keep thinking things will get easier with schedules and bills and everything else. But as I age, it's not getting easier.

My goal: if I'm happy with me, everything else will be easier (or so I will tell myself).


I want me time back. I want my life to be happy. I want to be happy. I know physically there are things that prevent that. I live with Hashimoto's induced hypothyroid with TSH levels that have never evened out for more than 3 months in the last 12 years. I know the sluggiest metabolism and the aches and pains will be in my way. But I need to do something to find my happiness.

The question remains: what will make me deep down, truly happy?????
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  • GLC2009
    wow, your daughter has dance everyday! uggh! one thing, when your kids are so busy with their activities you don't have any family time. there should be family time shouldn't there?
    hope you can back off a bit and get some time for you.
    2794 days ago
    Yikes! I think you are over extended. Will hubby pitch in and help? Maybe alternate schedules. One of the greatest gifts I have ever given to me was to learn to say no and not feel guilty about it.
    2794 days ago
  • no profile photo CD657781
    Schedule some time for you. Not busy time but time to sit in the park and listen to the birds or walk by a lake or drive up a mountain and see the clouds. And breathe and sing... whatever it is that would make you happy and take some of the stress off without adding more. Put it on your schedule as a commitment just like any of the others and don't let it get pushed aside.
    2794 days ago
    great advice Woubbie. They haven't been helping around the house because they're gone, too. My husband helps out a little, but he's not home either. he works and runs a business and that puts even more on me.
    2794 days ago
    Well, it sounds like your daughter at least is over-scheduled, as are you.

    Yes, a certain amount of time donated to their hobbies and interests is required by virtue of being a parent (mine were in karate, swimming, band and Boy Scouts, just not all at the same time. and my DH didn't lift a finger to help most of the time). But when Momma ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy. You don't want to set them the example of the martyred parent - they need to see you happy as well. And make sure they help around the house. They'll gripe now, but be grateful when they know how to take care of their own someday!
    2794 days ago
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