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The current perspective

Monday, September 16, 2013

Another blog was adressing the subject of weight loss as a perspective when you dislike your body and it would never be a good premiss.

For the moment I don´t see my body as something I like or dilike – I have pros and cons with it, the overweight mostly being not a good thing as it is threatening to my health and makes it uncomfortable to do stuff.

But my perspective for the moment is tha it is the environment that is making me fat. I live in a time with milk and honey floating all over the place and the mind set of society is also that it is a good thing and should be celebrated.

There is food everywhere and I get offered things to eat several times a day. It takes awareness and an active decision to stay away.

I don´t think I had the "genes" to become an alcoholic - I can´t recognise myself in the experiences from others that say that the moment they took their first drink, they knew that it was the solutions to all their problems. To me it was comfortable lifestyle - everybody else was drinking and as I do have issues with obsession and as I do have pains and experiences I think I can not handle, I was alcoholic enough to get problems with staying away when it was too available.

After eight years of sobriety I can expose myself to alcohol situations without having to make a big effort to stay away. But I do get exposed to alcohol one - two times a week in everyday situations. Today I am going to Stockholm where I will give a lecture tomorrow. I will stay at the hotel where the conference is and am invited to dinner tonight. There will be wine – and it is monday, the conference is work for everybody and not for celebration. It is just what you do today.

Food is the same thing - hardly a day gets by when I don´t get offered coffee with something to eat - danish, cookies, chocolate. It takes a concious effort to stay away.

200 years ago this would not have been a problem – I would have been working hard all day and happy to get any food at all.

Of course I have the nature of being very vulnerable to things to obsess with, I use it as a tool to distract myself from anxiety and restlessness. That is what I am working on to change.

But I also think that to me it is important to recognise that I live in a hostile environment – to succeed with food I have to remember that there are storng powers out there who wants me to give in... well, not precisely me, I am not paranoid about this, "they" want me – and everybody else – to buy their food.
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    I hadn't thought of it in terms of a hostile environment, but now that I do, it makes sense. I used to attend a women's meeting where there was a strong expectation that everyone would go out to dinner afterwards. I would walk home immediately following the meeting and I later found that I was the subject of a great deal of criticism. The woman in charge labeled me unsocial and told people I was unlikely to succeed. It bothered me a LOT at the time.
    2280 days ago
    I agree, our environment is a challenge; but the choices are still mine. Having a social life is a real challenge for me because, especially at my age, most social activity seems to rotate around food; especially any kind of celebration. If it's a big celebration it's easier for me as I can move around focus on people and be a "helper" and no one knows or cares what I am eating or drinking. Small more intimate get togethers, which are what I prefer, are more difficult. Meetings are for: coffee, lunch, dinner, a movie etc. I can't find many "active" friends close to my age; most of my friends are already younger and it's still a challenge. It seems to bother them if I'm not eating what they are eating. They don't want to make healthy choices and/or eat like I eat. So, there are only a few I go out with anymore. I can control what I eat at home; actually I can control what I eat elsewhere too. I do continue to enjoy the "birthday cake and ice cream" but if it's at my house; any remaining goes home with the guests. A celebration, never ruined anyone's health. It's the day to day that we have to focus on, one day at a time. Hugs.
    2280 days ago
    Interesting points, thank you for sharing.
    I don't get offered a lot of food / treats, but of course ads for food are all over, in my society too.
    For me I think it's several factors combined. A tendency to eat for emotional reasons and being a VERY 'emotional person'. Indeed the abundance of food these days and all the cues to eat. Habit.
    The answer to me right now seems to be to indeed learn to say no to urges to eat, if they come from my own psyche / emotions or from outside, and to make sure I eat good nutrient rich foods at regular times. (You know my 'simple rules').
    2281 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/16/2013 3:55:40 AM
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