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Having a bad day? Come sit next to me...

Wednesday, August 07, 2013

I am off to a very bad start today and needed to share.

1. I use a few swears in this video - but that's who I am in real life. Just a warning that I'm not my usual "perky" self.

2. Re: my daughter - she is not "worthless". I meant she has not been helpful or sympathetic to my situation since moving back home in May. I love my daughter dearly and wanted to clarify my meaning there.
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    I'm playing catch up.... sounds like a lot going on in your world.... darlin', keep doing those little things you can to take care of you. We are worthless to them if we can't take care of us. I have to stop and remember that one day I will be so thankful that I had this time and was able to be a caregiver to someone I love..... as tough as it is, I'm guessing you're like me.... if this is how it has to be, I'd rather be nowhere but here... doing what I'm doing now. =) Wouldn't trade it for all the gold in the world... cause it's where our heart is, ya know? At the same time... I know the moments like the one in this video... be gentle with you... if there is anywhere to get help... be sure to get it. =) Every little bit helps. (((hugs))) hang in there!!! =)
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  • BRADMILL2922
    Im sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Things can be hard but hang in there and keep your chin up.

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    You are under such stress it is not surprising you are having "very bad days"!!! This happens to all caregivers, and especially those who CARE. And you are an incredible caring person. Strong too - you passed on the candy, this is so great. Give yourself a huge pat on the back. And do your best to find some "me" time for you during the day. emoticon emoticon
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  • CHERYLA2012

    Because some days are good, some are great, and some are less than, but nonetheless they are the days we have and we just need to motor through them without getting stuck in an endless loop because we will get a brand new day with all the possibilities tomorrow!

    PS - You are a good daughter for moving in and taking care of your Dad. You are also a good Mom for allowing your daughter to move back home.

    I don't know the whole story there but I did want to say: I hope that you shared your expectations with her about her role in the household now that she is part of it, and I hope that she shared hers with you.

    My mother lives with my husband and I and has done so since my stepdad died in 2000. Previous to that, we moved in next door to help care for him for 3 years so I do have somewhat of an idea of the extra responsibility and planning that you go through to manage a combined household and how you have to keep in mind that his needs have to be met even if they are contrary to your plans.

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    You are such an amazing care giver. Pat on the back for passing by the candy. Sending you big emoticon .
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  • PICKIE98
    Do you know how to get the handicap hanger? Get his doc to write an order,,he can fax it to you o r you can pick it up.. Walk in the DMV, do not have to stand in line.. walk up to counter and ask where to get it filled. They will take care of you immediately.

    As far as post op for dad.. if you are unable physically(you do not need to tell them emotionally), he can get in home care or stay in rehab a wee bit longer.. check it out, discuss it with doc and/or call rehab place. If he has medicare and blue cross or other outside insurance, they should cover it. Do not ASK them for permission, TELL them there is nobody available to do those things. The social worker has the hookups to get him taken care of, push comes to shove.

    I want to tell you that I was grinning from ear to ear when you said you did NOT take the candy bars!! You DID do something for yourself!! What a great feeling!! I am so proud of you!!
    ALso, do something for yourself while dad is in PT.. bring a book, go to a local park or take a short walk outdoors,,
    just some suggestions.. sit in your car and take a snooze!!
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  • _BABE_
    You are such a good person to take care of the people in your life. Of course you should get a placard for parking, anything to make your life easier.

    Your daughter is not worthless but perhaps useless. You need to have a talk with her so she gets with the program. If she is not part of the solution then to me she is part of the problem.

    Good for you for passing up the candy cause I know the compulsion to grab it for some sort of goodness in your day. You are doing this but you need help for you....someone needs to give you a hand. emoticon
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