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Making positive adjustments.........

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Sometimes life is hard. Things get rough, unexpected things surprise us, and we have to make adjustments. I had to make an unexpected adjustment this month by deciding to leave my abusive husband, packing my daughter, my pup, and as much important stuff as I could into my car and moving us all into my older daughter's home temporarily. I am blessed to have a daughter who is willing and able to take us in, and I'm thankful for that. I thought I'd learned all about abusive men and how to avoid them when I left my ex, went through serious depression and anxiety, counseling, the whole bit, including hospitalization for suicidal attempts.......I guess I didn't know enough, because I found myself right back in a very similar situation, but I didn't stick around to waste 15 years this time, at least. It only took me 7 years to grow a pair and walk out. It was not an easy decision, but it's getting easier every day and I"m surrounded by the love and support of my kids, as they all live right near here, so I am seeing them almost daily. The biggest thing, actually hearing my daughter say "I'm so proud of you." These are words I've wanted to hear from my kids all my life, words it took my mother till her dying days to say to me, and you know what? I'm proud of me too. It won't be easy starting over at 51, with a 12 year old while trying to finish a double bachelor degree program, and going back to work for the first time in many, many years, but I know we will be ok. There will be tough, tear filled, emotional days, and we'll have to give up lots of stuff as we adjust to one little income and start over, but my young daughter will see that it's not ok to let someone treat you like s*&t, and that it's ok to move on and start over, and mainly, that we'll be ok, together, and happy, just the two of us and our little puppy girl. From now on out, it'll be just us girls and I'm ok with that.
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  • 68ANNE
    I am so proud of you. It took a lot to leave and go out into the unknown but you did it!
    3080 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your situation but I think that you've made a smart decision. Even after all that you've been through, you sound like a strong, confident woman. Kudos to you!

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    3081 days ago
    I am so proud of you too! It's not easy to break those patterns that we've grown so accustomed to certain situations why I don't know? I say keep moving forward cause Spark friends got your back too!

    God bless & hugs!!

    3081 days ago
    Glad you found the strength to leave the abusive situation. Happy for you that you had a place to go. Praying for you that you can finish your degree and get a decent job to support you and your youngest.
    I'm proud of you too, for being courageous enough to get out of a bad situation.

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    3081 days ago
    Good Job....keep going girl. I can relate in so many ways although it has turned out differently. You are very blessed to have the support of your children. Hang in there even in the rough times...and I try to remember that my mess can turn into a message for someone else. Thanks for sharing. emoticon
    3081 days ago
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