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I will love you until you learn to love yourself!

Saturday, December 01, 2012


Please click the above link and enjoy Ne-Yo's "Let Me Love You!"

The other day as I was driving to work, this song came on the radio. I know I've heard it many times before but never listened to it.

Ne-Yo sings:

"Much as you blame yourself, you can't be blamed for the way that you feel
Had no example of a love, that was even remotely real
How can you understand something that you never had
Ooh baby if you let me, I can help you out with all of that"

This made me think of how I treat myself. Hating the way I look, feeling totally defeated and letting Martha 1 (see previous Talking Cupcakes and the 3 Martha's blog) sit around and eat and feel sorry for herself. I grew up thinking I was fat and my weight was always an issue. I may not ever understand why I let myself gain all this weight back. The memories of being fit and slim are good. I do have an example of what it is like to be loved by yourself!

In the next verse he sings:

"I can see the pain behind your eyes
It's been there for quite a while
I just wanna be the one to remind you what it is to smile
I would like to show you what true love can really do"

The weeks leading up to my return to Spark were not good. I knew I had to do something about my weight and lack of physical activity. But I couldn't seem to get started and felt it was pointless. One day I saw my reflection in a full length mirror and was shocked. At that moment my heart ached tremendously and I hung my head in shame and disappointment. I knew I had to stop putting junk in my body and get off my a$$ and move.

Here I am, just 4 weeks into MAKING THIS HAPPEN and SURPRISE... I am smiling again. Laughing again. Feeling excellent and determined.

Most importantly, LOVING MYSELF!

This journey is about learning to love myself. No one else can loss the weight for me. Its Martha 2 and Martha 3 showing Martha 1 that she is loved and worth taking care of herself. No reason to be afraid!

Let me love you! We can do this! We know each other's troubles and can support each other through it all!

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    You make a very good point. Thank you for reminding me that I need to do this too.
    3055 days ago
    Beautiful blog! Definitely a lesson we all have to be reminded time and time again. I've heard this song many times, but I also have not listened to the lyrics enough. It's a nice reminder when the song comes up each time :) emoticon
    3060 days ago

    I agree.
    I listen to all lyrics, especially if I hear the song more than once.. I heard this one the other night, too. ;)

    Sing it, sister, and spread the word!
    3060 days ago
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    Not my style of music, I was completely unfamiliar with the song... but completely familiar with the feelings. My primary goal in this whole thing is to be happy with the woman I see in my mirror - it'll definitely help when she's thinner, but there are deeper things than that going on here. The person I'm walking further away from every day isn't always someone that I respect or particularly like.

    Thank you for the reminder. I do love myself, that's why I'm trying to take care of me. Sometimes I just let other stuff get in the way. I am so glad to hear that you're happy, that you're smiling and laughing. Keep taking care of you and Martha 1 will become a distant memory.

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    3063 days ago
    I heard this song for the first time this week too and had to look up the lyrics, it is so good.

    I'm glad you have found a way to love yourself - I understand the hate/love body thing very well (as do most people here, I'm sure). It is hard to love our bodies when they don't look or feel good, but we need to love ourselves enough to HEAL our bodies!

    And how the heck did I miss a blog entry called "Talking Cupcakes and the 3 Martha's"???? What a great title, I have to go there next. :)
    3064 days ago
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    I don't know that I've ever REALLY LISTENED to the lyrics of that song either, though it's on my workout playlist so I hear it quite often. We all need to reminded to love ourselves. It's probably the hardest part of this whole journey. I know it is for me.
    emoticon SO GLAD I FOUND YOU!!
    3064 days ago
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