24 Sep 2012 - Unexpected Support, Motivation and Encouragement
Monday, September 24, 2012
Today's Spark Coach suggested activity was about goals and I started to do that here, but I think I need to record something else today. Things have happened today to make me look at my weight loss/health journey differently and I want to record this to read again later for a reminder.
I went by our local funeral home today on my lunch break. Recently a close friend lost her mother and she didn't have any insurance, savings, or leave any way to pay for her final expenses. So, I was going by to make a payment/donation to help with the costs. I didn't realize until I got there that they were having a funeral today, but it had just ended and people were coming out.
In the parking lot I saw a family friend, Barbara, and stopped to talk to her. She is someone I had been close to during certain times in my life, but haven't seen her much recently. We started out with the usual "How's your family" small talk, but it lead to a nice talk about vacationing with and without our spouses.
Then I went inside and saw another family friend and went to talk to him. He was close friends with my grandparents so I have know him my whole life. I have a lot of respect for him because of how he helped them in many ways over the years. He was telling me about his granddaughter and her struggle with drug addiction. She is currently in treatment. He made the comment that he had never wanted anything in his life that would dominate him. This really hit home or struck a nerve with me. He was using alcohol and cigarettes for example and I mentioned my weight and wanting to lose it. He had lost quite a bit of weight years ago and shared with me that drinking water was his biggest change. He scolded me for saying I couldn't lose it (I really meant I hadn't been able to so far, but still appreciated the push). I can't remember everything he said but I left there very thankful for that talk with him.
When I left I headed to Wendy's to pick up some lunch and head back to work. As I was pulling in the drive-thru I started realizing how much motivation and support he gave me. I can't say I made the best choice on the menu, but it did cause me to think about my choices and did better than I would have otherwise.
After I got back to work I logged into SparkPeople and I could feel that support and motivation again. I was posting in one of the groups and once I started talking about this conversation I found it hard to stop. I finally cut that post short and said I would blog about it.
Maybe one day in the not so distant future, I'll be able to talk with him again with a new healthier weight and life and let him know how much his words helped make that happen.