Motivation and helping others...
Thursday, July 19, 2012
With the help of a spark friend I started to analyze motivation for the umptieth time and then it dawned on me - motivation is what makes me start doing something but it is a bummer when it comes to keep me doing it...
To demand motivation to succeed is like demanding good weather to do cardio... when you want to start getting out for a walk in the morning it is very good if the weather is nice as you do it the first time - but as the habit grows on me I don´t really care if it rains or snow because it is a habit that I am used to and my experience tells me that the effect is good and after a while I start enjoying it even in bad weather.
I don´t need motivation to brush my teeth in the mornings, I just do it. I don´t need motivation to make my bed in the morning either, I started that habit some years ago and it´s automatic nowadays.
There is something that motivated you to join spark people and use it for getting into better habits, but in the long run you need habits to keep it up because the motivation will not be there constantly, motivation is somehow like the weather - it changes...I don´t need motivation to log into spark every morning - I have done it for three years and it is a habit. I am not that interested all days but I habitually log in, do the things I have decided I need to do - track, huddle, comment on blogs and (this year) write my own blog - and then leave again. Other days I am motivated to search new teams, read articles and learn stuff.
Conclusion: Motivation is my tool to start changing, habit is my tool for accomplishing.
I got another insight for today too... a friend wrote on her blog that she had not achieved her goal of being supportive to fellow sparkers. It reminded me of one time at an AA meeting when the question was raised about service - there is seldom enough service willing people and ther is always people nagging about how everybody ought to do more... and this man who has big problems with his nerves and goes into depressions now and then but have been sober for more than ten years said:"My service is that I stay sober and attend meetings!" and it dawned on me that that is the "heaviest" contribution that is made. Of course we need service but even more we need people who do the things they need to do.
To me, blogging about what´s going on in your life is more important than giving me a goodie or writing "well done" it´s when you share your successes and failures I get the power and energy to keep trying.
The best support you can give me is to tell me how you are doing.