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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

My user name is “Triangle-Woman.”

Every once in a while when I click on my user name in a message board post to go back to my Spark Page, I get sent to a person whose user name was “Triangle.”


Weird how electrons and bits and bytes work.

Just happened again a few minutes ago and it gave me pause.

Triangle started his Spark membership on March 3, 2007.

Triangle’s page title says: “Stephens Page” (bad punctuation and all)

The introductory text says: “Insert Witty Comment.” This kind of makes me smile.

Stephen belonged to the “10 lbs and under team” which tells me that perhaps he did not have very far to go on his journey and just chose to either live with the extra 10, or do it on his own.

His spark people “class team” had over 11,000 members, but is considered “inactive” due to no one posting in over three months.

I’m gonna guess it has been longer than that.

He left one blog on the same day he started titled “Hello”

When you click on it, it says:

“Just getting started.”

The last comment on his page is dated March 11, 2007. Another person, also now a Spark Ghost, stopping by to say Hi.

Whenever I get sent to Triangle’s page, I kind of get a melancholy, sad feeling, like someone has died.

I often wonder about who you were and where you are now. Did you find some other support? Did you make the changes you dreamed of? Or did you give up on yourself? Did that 10 lbs you had to lose become 20 or 30? Are you still struggling?

RIP Triangle. I just added you as a friend.

I want to let you know that your memory fuels me to making the changes I need to make, to use all the wonderful tools here and to keep reaching out to other Spark People so that maybe there will be a few less Spark Ghosts hanging around.

Least of all me....
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Oh, this is a cool (if sad) post.

    I'm noticing a little bit of drift in the folks I connected with when I first started here, just 6-7 weeks ago. I've decided to check in on ALL my blog subscriptions about once a month. Last night I found 3 (of 12 or so) that have gone inactive since the beginning of January. I sent "How're ya doin'" messages to them and heard back from 1 today.

    I expected there to be a flurry of new folks at the new year, and I expected some of them to fall away.

    I don't want to be one of them.
    2712 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13474520
    Wow. Really makes you wonder. I know once upon a time that was me. Now I am reborn!! emoticon
    3081 days ago
    Very interesting post. And a very unusual motivator -- but a great one, nonetheless.
    3277 days ago
    Its an interesting thing to watch... and kinda sad.
    3278 days ago
  • SUZYB53
    Hi Triangle Woman,

    I'm kind of trolling around Spark to see what kind of communities there are here. I'm one of those people who has finally learned that there's some kind of deep relationship between who I am and how I connect with food.

    I saw your logo on a couple posts while I was scouting around - so I figured I'd say hello.

    3278 days ago
    That's pretty strange you are directed to his page. Maybe spark doesn't want him forgotten. I too have a yo yo relationship with spark. I find I do much better when I log onto spark daily, but only once a day. I need the tracking and support, yet I don't want to spend all day on the computer when I really should be up and doing things.
    3278 days ago
    Our alumni group is diverse. I write to many who started with us and am amazed at the inactivity. The only time I ever heard from any of them was when I posted an intense blog on abuse and suddenly got 'hit' with responses. Weird. Anyway..I'm still sparkin' and know that folks like us are still better off than those who don't. Glad you've stuck with it!
    3278 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/28/2012 6:18:58 AM
  • no profile photo CD9308136
    I think I'm a Spark Zombie, I keep going away and coming back...
    3278 days ago
    The ghosts of sparkers past
    3279 days ago
  • UNICORN212
    Most of the "class teams" dwindle after a year - I remember mine did. The leaders went go on to mentor another group. I know a lot of people who have started Spark and have quit within a few months. They are probably looking for instant weight loss....
    3279 days ago
    I've been on here since March 2008, and there are people I've had to de-Spark-friend over the years because they had disappeared.

    But there were also times in my life where I would get away and then come back later.

    And - I'm actually heavier than I was in 2008, so I guess it's not saying too much that I'm still here! Ha!
    3279 days ago
    How sad! That is why I like to reach out to people so they just do not quit & fade away! How awfully nice to you to care!
    3279 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3692258
    Great job reaching out. That what Spark people is for. I love the reminder of those that have started and not seen things through. Healthy habits make healthy people.
    3279 days ago
    Wow... this mad me sad tooo... it is also inspiring as I do not want to be among the spark ghosts.... I don't want it to be a thing of the past... WE WANT IT NOW. and we are working towards that moment!!!
    3279 days ago
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