I had a very hard April 2011. My daughter broke up with her boyfriend of three years and began immediately dating a guy three years older then she. I don't really know why that upset me so much, but it really did. It cast a very dark shadow on my Spring. I also went from seeing my daughter, frankly too much, to rarely. There was no transition and I found myself really alone for the first time since my fall. (In 2007 I fell 100 feet and sheered my spine and broke my back in several places.) By this time I had made so many amazing accomplishments. I could drive about town, get myself up in the morning by myself. Do light errands. I had re-learned to cook, do daily chores...
But here I was suddenly alone for most of the day. Not really, I have a terrific service dog - Helm's A'Lee, my husband comes home for lunch when he is "in town" and my mother comes to stay when he is '''out of town". A serious funk. What to do with myself now that I had mastered what I had mastered. My mother and sister-in-law kept asking me,"What are you going to do next?" Yikes! Boy that would make me cry! I was so petrified to go any further. I did not want to take one step forward. So I didn't.
Suggestions swirled around me. Try volunteering. How about at the library? Hospital? Local school? I always answered back -"Not with a DOG!" And we don't go anywhere with out each other. April, May, June went by. My husband started working on our Chris-Craft run about like crazy. When he was home he was working on the boat. He is pretty amazing. He came up with a system to get me in so that I wouldn't miss out on any of the fun. : )
We had fun both on the Wilamette River in Oregon & Budd Bay in Washington State.
Still in the doldrums and saying no to "a book club?" September came. Time for our big vacation. nope. Helm's A'lee was diagnosed with cancer. It took all of our vacation money we had saved up to get the medical attention he needed. My wonderful news is that he is doing EXCELLENT! Still it was an extremely hard Sept. and Oct.
In early November my daughter moved in with her boyfriend. He turned out to be a cutie pie and we really love him. They have dinner with us a couple times a month and stop by more often. He works hard, is very responsible, and LOVES our girl.
I started noticing that I was getting my cal. intake down without planning or really thinking about it. Comments started coming about how I look like I had lost some weight. Lots of comments!
For Christmas My husband surprised me with a road trip to Bryce Canyon, Zion National Park, Grand Canon, Las Vegas, Death Valley, AND Yosemite National Park! We had so much fun and such great weather!
When I got home the 2nd week in January I got a bee in my bonet! I drove my mother from my house, in Oregon to her house in Washington State. Did I get tired on the 3 hour drive? No way!
I started trying spending the night by myself. I didn't take a shower like I usually do. I afraid? Yep. Did I fall on the floor? No way!
I started spending the night by myself every trip my honey took. Then the first night & the last night, that way my mom came Tues and left Thurs. Pretty Cool!
After FOUR YEARS of wearing black Yoga pants! Do I care that I am in size 20 instead of 16? Yep. But, I am so happy! I feel like a NORMAL person!!!! It is amazing what a pair of jeans can do!
If jeans could make me feel so good what about shoes? That is right! I am in a pair of exquisit tennis shoes! Good bye crocks!
And finally.....I just learned how to get into my shower chair, take a shower, and put myself to bed! That is crazy amazing!!! Now I am totally independent! I can do EVERYTHING for myself! Drive, cook, shop, chores, dress, errands, WHAT EVER I WANT!
How amazing is that!
I CAN DO ANYTHING I WANT! As I write this I am in the middle of 5 days on my own. My husband is out of town, my mother is way too busy to come, and I feel fine! LOL!