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Wednesday, May 09, 2012

I don't usually share my dirty laundry in such a public place, but I am really annoyed right now and overall I think that it is affecting me in a very negative way with my eating..

First let me lay a little background information out there, I am married to a VERY co-dependent man and this is something that drives me absolutely crazy.. he is 51 and will be 52 in July.. last night we were at a concert, with friends who drove, and he started getting sick, turns out it is probably food poisoning, well instead of going to the car himself, he decided and wanted me to go.. needless to say I missed the last band and I WAS ANNOYED.. and it was late when we got home and the alarm goes off at 5:30, well needless to say, he didn't sleep so I didn't sleep.. everytime he got back in bed he was whining "I don't feel good" "I am freezing" over and over..I know that this sounds mean, but I am so tired of putting everyone else before me.. I have a son who is a junior in HS and his grades keep going down instead of up.. we have taken things away.. I am just so tired.. I am tired of not being first in anyone's life..
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    I agree with Less......the son is likely testing to see how far he can push.
    My husband is just the opposite of yours, he has to have it dragged out
    of him if he is sick....never complains, but I have learned by observing
    him, when he needs a little help..........

    Just don't forget you need to take care of you, whether the family thinks
    about it or not.
    Make yourself a priority.....and your husband is a big boy, he should be
    able to care for himself without expecting the entire household to be sick
    with him.

    I also agree maybe when he is having spells like this, moving to the spare
    room or the sofa would at leasst let you sleep.

    Not trying to be unsympathetic, just realistic...women always get pushed
    to the bottom of the totem pole...

    3257 days ago
  • VALYNN26
    I think that we've all be in that boat before at least I know I have. It's annoying & frustrating at times & sometimes you feel like screaming just to see if anyone would listen then.. I wonder alot of times about my relationship, because nobody but my daughter ever shows me. But I know my teenage son does, & I know the my boyfriend loves me & my kids more than anything, he just has a bad way of showing it.
    Hang in there. Don't give up on yourself just because your aggravated with others( I know it's sometimes easier said than done). But you are important! And you have to think about you and make wise choices for what's best for you

    Hopefully you hubby is feeling better soon. And then you will feel better also.
    Good luck.
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    3267 days ago
    No, you don't sound mean by what you typed. You sound frustrated and rightfully so. As a wife and mother, I feel the same way at times. We are often viewed as "caregivers" and only a caregiver. Our families sometime lose site of the fact that we are human and have needs too.

    Perhaps you should plan a weekend and spend some "alone" time with just yourself. Read a book, go shopping, do the things you enjoy doing or don't do anything at all. Let your husband look after the children and the responsibilities of running your home. I know this is easier said than done, however, it can be done.

    Do this for YOU because YOU are worth it.

    3267 days ago
    Sorry to hear you are in such a funk! It does happen to all of us at times. Trick is to not forget about yourself - what you need to be healthy etc.

    As to your hubby - all men seem to be like that - when they are sick they want everyone to know they are and everyone to be as miserable as they are. When my hubby is sick I sleep in the spare room - that way we both sleep better.

    Teenage boy - not much I can say there other than that he will outgrow it - some day! Just testing his limits - and obviously yours as well.

    You do have control over yourself and your reactions to this - make yourself important to yourself. Eat well, exercise - this will make it easier for you to cope with the things you may not have control over.

    Good luck and hopefully you will start to feel better soon!
    3268 days ago
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