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FNF: Week 6 - "Giving Thanks" Con't...

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Whew. Sorry y'all. I'll do a round up blog of what's been going on, but let's just say it's been a fiasco when it comes to getting my teaching license, through no fault of my own (why is it always the innocent who gets nailed? Sheesh haha). Today is a DC Cal Alum Board Retreat (I'm secretary, so I must go...), but tonight or tomorrow... you'll hear allllll about it.

As last week was a complete fall off the map... we'll just continue the giving thanks theme...

Weekend Question: What do you do in times of upheaval? This can mean for any area of your life (or affect any of what I call the four strands)... simply what do you do? Who do you turn to? Are you "good" at handling such things? What can you do to get better at it?
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    Blargh I hate upheaval. I hate anything that f8cks with my normal schedule and I hate emotional BS. *hugs*

    I reach out to Mike. And I pick 2 things to focus on (from the list of: schoolwork, cardio, food, ST, sleep) and let the other things slip til I feel better. No need to make myself feel *worse* about everything.

    3029 days ago
    I suck at reaching out. In fact, I tend to push people away. I think at least some of that comes from not feeling like I get the help I need when I do ask. My experience has been that I don't ask unless I really need the help. And more often than not, I get kicked in the teeth. It gets frustrating, to be honest, to see people I feel I should be able to count on giving everything to everyone else, and when I'm in a bind, there's nothing left for me. Sound cynical? Yeah, it is.

    I've found that people tend to exist within their own little world and they can't deal with other people's upheaval. I'm really no different. When somebody comes to me for help, I often get aggravated at having to put off something of my own in order to give that help. And sometimes the putting off is not an option, and therefore I can't help. Or I can't give the exact kind of help they need at the time they need it. So I tend to think other people feel the same way I do, and I say, "never mind, she's busy" or "he won't understand" or "I'm not going to beg." (Just went through that one last night.) So I don't ask. Instead I withdraw and I tell myself to man up and be tough. And I am. So I just deal with my own sh*t and don't ask for help from anyone else. BUT.... if I can help, if it's in my power, I will. I'll give you the shirt off my back if it's in my power to do so. And it's frustrating to never be able to get a return favor. So... we're back to not asking.

    It's rather a vicious cycle, no?
    3032 days ago
    I sympathize with you about difficulties with getting the teaching license. I had to switch my license to another state and it was crazy.

    In upheaval I turn to my family..call all 4 kids, my mothers, sister, ..and talk it out with my husband. My weight issues I post online.. I am getting better and expressing my feelings in many different places.

    Have a great day.
    3034 days ago
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