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My February Goals: A & I

Thursday, February 02, 2012

1. To get back down to 205
2. To think of ways to fit in exercise throughout my day, most especially when I cannot get to the gym
3. To be bright and perky when I teach
4. To spend sometime each day on Spark People remembering the purpose I am here.
5. To track my food daily.
6. To try to stay calm and tranquil

My goals are modest but I think that they must be. My husband is very ill and not getting better as quickly as he would like. I've been up in the middle of the night with him every day for about 9 days now. I need to take things easy, to be a presence in this house that reduces tension and does not add to it.

I need to be less demanding of myself.

I know it sounds like a wimpy goal, but I need to remember: when I do too much, I fail at everything.

So in February, I will focus on being cheerful. Even more than fat and lassitude, my affliction is the kind of depression that does not allow me to do anything. I will try to avoid it.

By the end of February, Feb. 29th, my husband should have some sort of firm diagnosis. Right now it's anything between the typical process of aging to much more serious possibilities. The array of possibilities is a bit daunting but at least we know that we are at the beginning of a place where many paths converge. And we do not have "permission to proceed" for a few weeks. Playing the waiting game is not easy, but I hope to do it with grace and as little agitation as possible. I owe it to him. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    Just reading your February 2 blog. I hope your husband is feeling better and you are able to get some needed rest. Waiting for a diagnosis is stressful. I wish you and yours all the best.
    3414 days ago
    Sounds like you have looked at the real conditions you are facing right now and made a very reasonable plan for how to "fit in" what you need. I think that's not only great - it's very wise as well. And Good for You!!! emoticon
    3418 days ago
  • no profile photo CD11085628
    Staying cheerful and positive in such a stressful situation is definitely NOT wimpy! Just take February one day at a time and do the best you can on that day - and move on to the next! That's all any of us can do. If you are anything like me, as soon as you demand too much of yourself, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I'm gradually learning to be more realistic concerning reality versus want to's!
    Stay strong and determined.
    You and your husband are in my prayers.
    3419 days ago
  • LISA0517
    That is not a wimpy goal, it is the most important goal! If we don't take care of ourselves, and that includes saying no to being overwhelmed, we can't take care of anything or anyone else.

    You have great goals! I hope your husband's diagnosis is not too difficult of one.

    3419 days ago
    Your goals are definitely not wimpy! I think your goals are great! You are under a lot of stress right now with not knowing what is going on with your husband. I know it's hard to play the waiting game. I think your goals of trying to stay calm and tranquil are just right. Also your goal of being less demanding on yourself is perfect. There are lots of SP videos on here that are just 10 minutes. !0 minutes is better than none if you can't get to the gym. Just take it one day and one moment at a time. emoticon
    3422 days ago
    Those goals are not wimpy at all!
    I have to be careful not to do too much all at once too.
    3422 days ago
    Your goals are great! I love that you put that whole being less demanding to yourself in there. Do you know the Fly Lady? There's Fly Lady groups on SP or you can do her name with no space dot net. She says if you are mean to yourself you are detremental in your ability to function.
    3423 days ago
    I like your goals . . .they are realistic considering your current situation. Sending emoticon and emoticon your way. Hoping to make your day better.
    3423 days ago
  • LE7_1234
    Oops. First it didn't post, then it came through twice. :-)
    3423 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/3/2012 12:21:07 AM
  • LE7_1234
    I prefer your first description of your goals--modest. You are aiming for balance and consistency. You have set yourself goals that will not stress you out--that may in fact help you feel better.

    Just one point from my own experience--I don't know if I could go straight to being cheerful if my mood wasn't already close. But I can go for calm--and add a goal of finding something to smile about every time I get up from my desk. (I seem to need this more at work!) The combination of feeling calm and smiling more leads to something close to cheerful, or at least, I'm not walking around with a dark cloud hanging over me.

    Hang in there!
    3423 days ago
  • BARBIE176
    Your goals are definitely not wimpy. I think they are great goals and I wish you much success. Speaking from experience it is really difficult to focus on yourself when you are working plus dealing with a loved one who is sick. I pray that your husband's diagnosis is a good one. emoticon emoticon staying focused on your goals is the very best way to take care of yourself and achieve your goals. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3423 days ago
    I don't think your goals are wimpy or modest at all! I think picking goals about your mood and attitude is so smart! After all, they affect everything else in our life. When things aren't going well but we have no control over them, it's our choice to be either depressed and miserable or to work hard to overcome the negative emotions and show calm and maybe even make ourselves smile and be cheerful. I wish you all the best this month in handling the stressors you have in your life and reaching the goals you set for yourself. You can do it, one day at a time! emoticon
    3423 days ago
    You have set yourself some good goals. You are also working under the stress of havin the one you love being ill. This can be a very rocky road for you. Try to find somet time for yourself each day even if it is only 5 or 10 minutes that you can take a break and clear your head and take a deep breath. Your friends here on SP are good sounding boards when you need someone to talk to.

    3423 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4501477
    Great goals. You can do it. I'm wishing you and your husband the best.
    3423 days ago
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