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So...who REALLY looks great naked?

Sunday, January 29, 2012

My latest query... First going to begin with a rating of D....Don't read if you are not open minded... not looking to offend anyone.... consider yourself warned!

So why am I focusing on this? Well.... I met a guy (yay for me!).... he seems very nice and is polite and the perfect gentleman (hope that lasts.lol) but I got to thinking.... what if the situation presents itself where I have to be naked? Yes, I've lost a lot of weight...yes I feel and look good..with clothes on... yes I'm toned but I don't, and never will again, have the body of a 20 something girl. I know he probably won't even look at it this way but I have to feel comfortable in my own skin.... and I'm struggling with this one.
So WHO really looks great naked? Well celebrities should..they make enough money to pay for personal trainers, personal chefs, spa vacations whenever they want.....and I'm not begrudging them this...hell! they should strive to look fantastic...it's what we PAY for with our obsession with the "pretty" people (personally, I never watch tv anymore.... I only go to movies if I can read the book before, and fashion magazines? airbrushing comes to mind)... for most their livelihood is based on their looks..
and..if I looked like some of the celebs....the really sexy ones... would I still be with someone who was not super hot and gorgeous? YES I would if they were gorgeous on the inside.. that is what is most important to me. (movie reference.. Shallow Hal). Would they be with me? Who knows.... if the outer beauty is more important than the inner beauty to them then probably not!
But the thought of being totally naked in front of someone is very frightening to me! And I don't want it to hold be back from exploring an intimate relationship with someone. Guess I still have many self esteem issues I need to work on.
But I'm posting this because I know my Spark friends understand.. and will be honest in offering their insight and experiences. I just don't want my insecurities in this department to make me put up that all too familiar wall.. pushing someone away because I'm afraid to get naked in front of them!
I really would appreciate some input on this one and anyone who takes the time I want o thank you in advance for your help. He really seems to be a super, sweet man and I'm probably over thinking this.. as I over think EVERYTHING!

Keep Sparting....when you stick to it it does work!
Hugs... Cathy
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  • MLINN6
    I think you are overthinking the situation (just like I do)....just go with it and let nature take it's course....oh and by the way....I'm back.....been gone awhile but plan on catching up later.

    I love your pic of the ocean....3 more years and I'm moving there!!!
    3216 days ago
    Relax...in low light at first. emoticon
    3222 days ago
    Dating definitely does make us think more about the 'getting naked' look. There are parts of me that will never change no matter how much I lose or tone - and I consider those my living testaments... and something I've worked hard on accepting about who I am.

    Take your time, don't overthink and if he is the sweet man you say he is - he will see the beauty within you and will make you feel beautiful in every way.

    Love comes from the self first... a hard lesson to learn but self-confidence is what will make you shine on!
    3222 days ago
  • MATHISC4464
    I understand what your going through! Sometimes I look in the mirror and think how could someone like looking at me without my clothes on. Now i'm not that big and I'm okay in a bathing suit but still I have some issues with how I look. I think its normal and if he really is a gentleman and he does really like you and wants to have a relationship with you he will think you look amazing without clothes on even when you don't think you do! Keep up the good work and good luck with the dating and don't over think it!
    3223 days ago
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