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One rude person....

Sunday, January 29, 2012

.... can sure ruin my day. I hate this about myself. I let things bother me that really shouldn't. I encountered a grumpy, rude person this morning at church and even though I KNOW that the issue is not with me.... probably her.... I let stuff like this sit and fester. So instead of eating my hurt feelings/embarrassment away here I am blogging about it.

To make a long story short, after my hour of teaching Kindergarteners this morning, I was "attacked" by parents coming to pick up their kids---- think small hallway with lots of rushed parents picking up from the 1st hour and dropping off the 2nd hour. I was trying to facilitate that, while keeping the kids in line. Very hectic. A lady came up to me in the midst of the chaos and asked where her child was supposed to go (I could tell there already was an attitude and I could hardly hear her) and I sent her upstairs---- yikes! a few minutes later she shows up at my door and chews me out for sending her to the wrong place. I sincerely apologized and told her the correct place her child needed to go. I guess I mis-heard her or in the midst of being bombarded I got confused.....

I hate that I let this stuff bother me this bad. What's the worst that happened???? She had to walk up and down the stairs???? Logically, I sit here and tell myself that she probably has other issues going on in her life and because I made a mistake I was an easy target to yell at. I mean.... what kind of person would "bitch" (sorry, can't think of a more appropriate word, lol) at somebody for something so trivial???? Obviously someone with a lot of problems.

OK, just typing this out and re-reading it makes me feel better. It is stupid for me to let this get me down. I guess with it being that TOM and feeling like even though I am doing everything right food-wise I am feeling bloated and like my clothes are getting tighter and not looser..... well, it doesn't help matters.

On the plus side, I met a super, nice kind lady this afternoon. My son invited a friend over and the Mom wanted to meet me before just dropping him off and we had a very pleasant conversation and discovered we have a lot in common. I should focus on that instead of the mean people!!!! I am pushing 40 yrs old.... too old to let the "mean girls" get the best of me. :)
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    OMG..I just felt like I was reading my own story....I work in a social service agency and people are ALWAYS SO RUDE...partly because of their circumstances, but I always feel like damn...DONT TAKE IT OUT ON ME....but they do....I just have to take time to reflect and remember why they are here and know in my heart that I am doing the best job I can do....people make mistakes and people are going to be rude...we just have to learn not to carry it with us....it is sooooo hard, and I struggle with this everyday....just keep doing what your doing and dont let the bad guys get to ya!! Chin, up and kill'em with kindness!!! emoticon
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    Don't quit.
    2985 days ago
    I know this sounds Lame , but I am a customer service rep for a huge medical facility and I get yelled at all day long.And this is what I do, I pray for people. even while they are yelling at me, I say a prayer " Lord, help me to help this person, give me your strength to love them through this. It almost always works. and most of the time without me saying a word I will get an apoligy from that person. If someone is being abusive towards me, I ask them to give me a minute and I walk away go find a quite place and pray for the situation and ask God to clear my head. He always puts compassion into my heart for them. NOTE TO SELF: this does not work for dating.....Do not I repeat DO NOT go out with anyone who treats you like that ! LOL
    2985 days ago
    I am a teacher, so I understand.
    2985 days ago
    I also understand what you mean! I work retail and some people are just so mean and rude. I've actually cried and wanted to quit work it was so bad one day.
    2985 days ago
    The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, failthfulness, gentleness, self control. Sometimes the fruit of patience grows when fertilized by people who don't happen to be exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit at the moment.
    2985 days ago
    More than likely she is a very unhappy person and takes it out on other people. You know what they say, "misery loves company"! She needs to seek the Lord in what might be deep down issues going on with her.
    Don't let it get you down!
    2986 days ago
    I have a tendency to do the same thing! My head tells me not to and to let it go but I always seem to hold on to situations like that. Glad I'm not alone and your blog will make me think about what I would say to you next time I'm faced with it and maybe I'll take my own advice. ;)
    2986 days ago
    The saddest part of this is that it happened in Church! :)
    2986 days ago
    Hugs my sweet friend! I totally understand what you mean by letting people get to you. I know that I'm VERY outgoing sometimes too much and people often think I'm so strong and don't let stuff bug me. I am complete opposite really. I'm very sensitive and I always let those little things bother me.

    Please know that I"m keeping you in pray and also I'm praying for that lady! You are SOOOOOOOOOOOO right, what is the worst she had to do ............ walk up and down a flight of steps? Boy!

    Love you girl!
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    2986 days ago
    I am lots older than you, and I still react emotionally to rudeness and unkindness. I am so impressed that you did not use food to avoid processing these feelings. I still struggle with this, though God is helping me choose other avenues to deal with hurts.

    This is real growth you're showing....especially with your extra stresses recently. You are showing strength and resilience. Three cheers!
    2986 days ago
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    I am the same way- have a hard time shrugging off hurtful people! Hopefully as we continue on this journey, we will learn to "let go"...blogging definitely helps!!!

    2986 days ago
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