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You Look Good For Your Age! Excuse Me??? What The Heck Does That Mean?!?

Saturday, January 07, 2012

Lately I have been getting a lot of comments about how "good" I look for my age. I am pretty sure most people mean that as a compliment. Or, maybe not. But, I started thinking about it today and I feel like that statement implies there is an expectation of how most women my age look or should look. I have no problem telling anyone I will be 60 in April. It is just a number and not a reflection of how I feel. But, why do I get the feeling I am expected to look like a train wreck at that age? Thank God I look "good" for my age! emoticon

Personally, the most beautiful women I know wear their age with dignity and grace. The lines in their faces show a lifetime of smiles and frowns and tears. The skin on their hands is soft and fine with pronounced blue veins. Those hands have prepared meals to nourish others, held their husband and children and prayed to their God. I think of my mother (I miss her still) who was beautiful until the day she passed. My mother-in-law is 85 years old and just as beautiful as she has always been in the 32 years I have known her. I guess you could say they look "good" for their age. But, why would you?

OK, this is turning into quite a rambling blog. So, if you are going to pay a compliment to anyone simply say, "You look good (or great, or mah-velous)". Period. Skip the "for your age" bit. Or, any other modifier for that matter. Looking good is good enough. After all, we all want to look good, don't we? That's why we are here. We are developing healthier lifestyles because we want to "look" and "feel" good for a very long time!
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    I like what you said and it's very true. you look good. Period. it should stop there. btw you look great!
    3393 days ago
    Truer words would not be spoken! And I do think you look great!
    3400 days ago
  • KATHRYN1955
    Even with "gosh, you are looking good these days", I wonder what on earth did I look like before?! But then, if no one said anything, I would wonder if any of this made a difference!
    I guess we just need to learn the art of smiling sweetly and saying thank-you.
    Take care,
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    We do look good!!! Period.
    3400 days ago
    I've heard this a few times myself. Obviously they don't get it!
    3401 days ago
    Yup, I gotcha... That's right up there with...

    You have a pretty face.
    You are pretty for a big gal.
    You are not thaaaaaaat big, etc, etc, etc.

    How are these compliments to anyone with half a brain?

    I think some people are dumb, some have no idea how to give a compliment, some don't think what they are saying is wrong, and some need their mouth duct taped shut.

    Great blog, hot stuff :)
    3401 days ago
    We are beautiful !! WooHoo ! Roc
    3402 days ago
    Yup . . . definitely YOU LOOK GOOD . . . then STOP!

    You DO look good Linda!!
    3405 days ago
    I'd say that beats being "well-preserved"! LOL

    Like any of us want to be told we look like we've been pickled! LOL

    You're right, beauty doesn't require qualifiers. Beauty doesn't have an age, either. You feel good--and you feel good about yourself-- so you look good. That should be enough!

    Kathy emoticon emoticon
    3406 days ago
  • BHOLMAN1005
    I second the feelings
    3407 days ago
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    When someone tells me I look pretty good for my age, I always say, yeah, not bad for 73 which makes their eyes bug out cause I'm 52. They deserve it.
    3407 days ago
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    Great blog! Take it as a compliment all round because we do look good period!

    3407 days ago
    You look great! Period.

    Some people have no tact or upbringing. emoticon
    3407 days ago
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    Linda -- you look great....Enough said!!!! I'll be 64 in a couple of weeks and I think if I ever get that 'compliment', I'll say, well, thank you, how old do you think I am? Think that will shut them up when they are totally off and I'll get another compliment!

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    3408 days ago
    This is so funny because I got this a couple of times this past week. Also...I will be 60 April 7! I look at myself in the mirror and think...you've got to be kidding! How has all that time passed so quickly? Except for a few twinges here and there, I don't feel any older. Especially inside. My brain seems stuck on 20-something. I have matured (I hope), have had many experiences, lived in quite a few states, travelled, raised my "brood" to adulthood. I see all these celebrities doing plastic surgery to keep young-looking. But who the heck are they fooling? The clock keeps ticking.

    Linda...you are awesome...inside and out!

    3408 days ago
  • SANDRA2021
    Thanks. Good blog, Linda. Says it all. Is that what they call a "back-handed compliment"? Some people always have to add something so that you don't get too big-headed, i.e. Be careful! Don't feel TOO good about yourself!
    Of course, that's usually not people on this site.
    You - look - good and I hope you feel as good as you look.
    All the Best,
    3408 days ago
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    You look amazing
    3408 days ago
    GREAT BLOG!!!!! I get that all of the time. I teach a whole bunch of fitness classes every week, AND I have been teaching classes for almost 38 years. I love it when people say, "You look good," but nine times out of ten, they will add that "for your age" thing to it which in my opinion totally erases the "You look good" part. I am 62 years old, and Yeah! I am proud of the way I look, and I never give the 'age thing' a thought until someone reminds me that "I look good FOR MY AGE!" LOL. Once a girl in her 20's brought her friend to my class. The girl introduced me to her friend, and said, "I hope I look as good as her when I get to be HER AGE!" The friend, also 20 something said, "I wish I looked as good as her NOW!" LOL. Anyway, 60 is no longer OLD, and we seniors are 'holding our own' in today's world. Keep up the GREAT work! YOU LOOK GREAT!

    3408 days ago
    Thank you for the beautiful blog, Linda. I'm proud of my lines and wrinkles... I worked hard to earn every one of them. My hair is mostly grey. I coloured it until I retired, but now I like it the way it is. DH likes it this way, and if anyone else doesn't like it; that's just too bad. I know that some people choose to have plastic surgery, and if that's what's right for them, fine... I'll keep my wrinkles, thank you. My mother died 20 years ago this April, and I miss her often. There are so many things i wish I could ask her, or tell her about. I'm glad that you still have your mother-in-law; I never knew Peter's mother.

    And as for the "compliment", I'm sure they really meant to say, "you look great!"


    3408 days ago
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    AMEN!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3408 days ago
    This is a great blog! I totally agree with you. I have always felt that I have earned every wrinkle and am proud of them! Still feel like at kid at heart.
    3408 days ago
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    Just rememberthe lines on the outside reveal the beauty on the inside.
    3408 days ago
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    Right on. emoticon
    3408 days ago
    The title of your blog post made me laugh, and i have to say I agree with you! I would never say to someone they "look good for their age"!
    Thanks for the laugh, and have a great day!
    3408 days ago
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