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Sunday, October 16, 2011

I find it hard to navigate between my own needs and caring about others. Mostly I end up somehow sabotaging for myself.

Today is a good example. It is my brothers birthday and tomorrow is the birthday of a friend that lives where my daughter lives = 100 kilometres from my home.

My sister has said that she would like if we could go together to my brother - she is not hundred percent okay with him for the moment but still wants to "behave" and celebrate him. She lives hundred kilometres from my home (in the other direction that my daughter lives) She said that she wanted to go rather early in the day.

So this as my plan for today: A walk in the woods with the dog, maybe picking some mushrooms, then going to my brother with daughter and meet sister there. Back in the house for lunch, then to indoor swimming pool (which my daughter wants), swimming and then driving south to her home town - the indoor swimming pool is 20 km down that road.

When I phone my sister she plans to leave in an hour - that means that she wont be here before half past eleven which means that our lunch will be kind of messed up... I feel down because my plan has to be adjusted if I will answer to her need to meet...and as usually I think "I am flexible" and think what I can do instead. Go biking with dog for an hour, have a late lunch, go swimming...etc. when I write this I realise that it will work ok, but from the start I thought that it would be messed up and I would probably end up with the fast solution of lunch at McDonalds...

I need to be much better in deciding things that get me the best chance to stay healthy and make healthy choices. I find that it will work today - but I can also feel that my balance is a bit rocked and I feel vulnerable to fall....

But it won´t happen. Not today. Today I will stay focused and make the choices that put me first...
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  • SILLYHP1953
    Yes, you can do it and have a great time. I'm rereading Co-Dependent No More by Melanie Beatty and realizing I haven't come quite as far as I thought I had.
    2953 days ago
    Have you ever read Just for Today used by 12 step programs. It says: Just for today I will have a plan I may not follow it exactly but will have a plan. Change is plans will happen, it just give us a chance to be creative in getting our needs met. Looks like that's just what you have done. Enjoy your day.
    2954 days ago
  • NANT406
    Way to keep sparking through the challenges life throws at us. emoticon
    2954 days ago
    Planning and staying flexible is challenging. Good for you for doing it!
    2954 days ago
    Well done, planning and thinking it through. emoticon
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