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Day 20 Examine phase 2 victories

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

I have been very busy and a year ago--even 6 months ago--I would have used the pressure at work as a "justifiable" excuse to go home, crawl into bed, and eat various sorts of bon bons. I would have perceived empty calories as my just reward for working hard.

Today I want to leave work and get out there walking or get to the gym. This attitude adjustment has not been simply in the past ten days: The past ten days have shown me that I can be brutally honest with myself--too brutal.

I had a revelation when I got a Spark Mail from another member asking for money to support a good cause. When I saw that it was sent only to me, I got into a big panic and thought that she would hate me forever if I did not send her money. So I sent the money and did not even get a thank you. Instead of making myself miserable for not giving enough, or not somehow magically creating a bond, I simply decided that she was wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong for using Spark People to raise funds, no matter how meritorious the cause. In the past I would have endlessly questioned myself about how I disappointed her.

But I had a revelation: I find it extremely difficult, almost impossible, to say no. I've rarely said no to anyone about anything. I've written letters of recommendation for students who really rather sucked. I've donated money to every Tom, Dick, Harry who comes my way and instead of thinking that these people are obnoxious, I've always feared that they would feel contempt for me.

Well, guess what? The Spark Person mendicant disappointed ME!! So that's a victory: I am no longer the fall-guy in every situation. I attribute these insights to my blogging and responding to the daily prompts.

I have been able to accomplish all of the requirements in the challenge over the past 20 days. And saying "no" more often is tops of my agenda. I can say no to food now; I can say "no" to people who want some of my money (well, I'm determined to in the future) and I can and will say "no" to students who want unreasonable things.

When I have time this weekend, I plan to be in touch with all those who have said encouraging and supportive words to me. I really am touched and I have taken them all to heart. Thank you!


And on to Phase Three: Values!

Values: Why are you doing this challenge? Is it just about health? Is it because you want to look better? Be honest. No judgment here. Whatever your reasons, you are here to support others and be supported by them.

Day 21 Weigh in/Decide what you can improve from Phase 2
Day 22 Share the things that are most important to you in regards to health and fitness
Day 23 Identify and eliminate a low self-esteem belief
Day 24 Go to bed early
Day 25 Post something inspirational (Quote, photo, song lyrics)
Day 26 Drink an extra 8 ounces of water
Day 27 Try a new healthy food
Day 28 Identify something you like about your body
Day 29 Review food and fitness logs to be sure you're logging accurately
Day 30 Examine phase 3 victories
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Love it!!

    JUST SAY NO........ I sometimes help myself out by saying

    ...I'd like to think about it first.. (then I figure out how to say no after a bit)

    I am trying to live more purposefully - so I try to NOT respond quickly..... my time, my money, my energy.... should go where I CHOOSE to put it.... and that takes reflection. You are right on track! Thank you for sharing your thoughts :-)

    3536 days ago
    Your insight is fantastic! I, too, has a very similar experience to yours with donating to a Spark member's cause. I just try to tell myself the cause was a good one and that I didn't do it for the thanks. It is difficult to see past it and realize that we need to learn to say no more often. You are inspiring and I will try to be with you on saying no at the right times. Thank you for the insight.
    3536 days ago
  • no profile photo CD7651842
    Sounds like you are really learning a lot about yourself.
    3537 days ago
  • CANDOK1260
    I think you re really learnng aBOUT YOURSELF IN THIS 100 DAYS CHALLENGE AND THAT IS GOOD. emoticon emoticon
    3537 days ago
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