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Wednesday, September 28, 2011

So this is coming from the grousing dept, after another old friend declines to say anything about my weight loss this past weekend (and 'forgets' I quit drinking and urges Jell-O shots on me - GAH!).

I've been majorly stewing in my own juice - HEY! maybe that's why my skin is several sizes too big now. Nothing like a dressing room and a critical attitude.

OK, I feel the need to post some REAL pictures of the REAL me - before I started with Sparkpeople in 2008 and now, at goal. I am only three months into maintenance mode, guess my self-esteem is still pretty wobbly if I let these things get to me.

August 2007 - Four months before joining Sparkpeople, followed by last Saturday: "Flowers"

August 2007 followed by late last month: "Body Shot"

Yes, it's taken me a while to figure this out. I guess I need to be patient with myself and stay the course, no matter what, as my brain catches up. I will continue to work with my friends here. This will be my source for giving and getting encouragement, as it always has been. THIS will be the place where (hopefully) it's ok to talk about these feelings. I will share with those who have a common goal and will work along side you. I promise not to intentionally let you down and I will ALWAYS listen, notice and acknowledge successes and heartaches. I will NOT go silent in the face of your success - ever.

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  • EDWARDS1411
    Great comparison shots - you look MAAAAVELLOUS darlink!! You've worked hard to reach your goals and indeed it is nice to be recognized for such, but others often are jealous and are threatened by the changes you've made, but remember it's their problem, not yours. You are our inspiration and we're here to cheer you on - you've done GREAT!!!
    2937 days ago
    Wow! You've made some major life changes haven't you? A HUGE weight loss and quitting drinking?!?!?! Congratulations!!!!! emoticon

    People that generally "pick" on you for things that aren't their business (ie.wearing certain clothes, etc.) aren't happy with themselves. They pick on others to feel better about themselves. You've come too far to allow these dimwits to get you down! I've learned, the best way to respond to ignoramuses is to ask them, "why do you ask?" or "I wonder why it bothers you?". Watch them stammer and stutter the fools.

    I also quit drinking and am amazed at how many people urge me to "just have one". Then there's those that want to see me get drunk. Nice? no.... friends? no... It's like the people who know you're trying to lose weight or maintain and keep trying to get you to "at least have a bite" or "go ahead, you deserve it". What's wrong with these people?

    I really enjoyed your Vlog. And, I really enjoyed you!

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    2938 days ago
    I enjoyed seeing your vlog and I think your achievement is awesome and very inspiring :) I think maybe your old friend was jealous ? Please don't let her upset you and keep on doing what you're doing !!! The difference is your before and after pics is amazing!! emoticon
    2938 days ago
    Just to clarify though, when I said I was struggling with the old I deseve this , it was the old I worked all day and I want chips and cake thinking that was getting to me. You def deserve what you worked hard for. No one waved a magic wand, you had to learn by trial and error what was needed and you did, giving things up along the way. I am glad you found some new clothes, hope you are happy with them and I hope you did try some hip huggers, lol.
    I am your age and I will buy one size up in the juniors section if it is cute and the fit is okay,( some of those clothes are made for girls with no hips )
    2938 days ago
    Peolpe are strange, but we have each other and that is a blessing.
    It does take a while to wrap our heads around our new us and there is lots of self awareness happening, and going over old territory and recognizing it and correcting it and dont let the smallness of others take away from your accomplishments because you are in the minority here, at your goal and going strong.
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    2938 days ago
    hat SHINES right through is your energy! I LOVE it!
    You're looking terrific!
    I'm glad you say that about getting to goal and feel the same struggles inside...

    You are not having a funky week, people don't like positive change in others it points out that they have the ability and are in fact able to control the change. Sparkers are at a place where most of us have accepted that it is our responsibility so we can get past our egos and reach out in support. Keep SPARKLIN'!! You need to be healthy - look at how you radiate!

    49? No! Really? You're doin' AWESOME!!!!

    2938 days ago
    I think sometimes people won't comment because they themselves are a little jealous of your success. Or they don't want to offend the person they're complimenting. Or they're just being a little bit jerky. Hopefully your friend is just jealous, because I can totally see the difference between the before and after pics! emoticon
    2938 days ago
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