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Meg Ryan and me

Saturday, September 03, 2011

Saw a film on teve yesterday - "The women" and got startled by Meg Ryans look. I suddenly thought "what´s up with her lips?" and wondered if she had done a lip surgery getting "duck lips..." In the end scene - where Debra Messing is having a baby and all the women supports her - I suddenly saw Meg Ryan looking like all those "hollywood Wives" I see in trailers - weird cheek bones, duck lips, not a wrinkle anywhere..." so I had to google "Meg Ryans + plastic surgery" afterwards, and found I was right - she has done a lot of "correction" to herself.

I do have a problem with my aging face, for the first time in my life. I am 58 and I do think I look worse than some years ago - I can beat myself up because I did not like my appearance before, when it was more pleasant and soft. Nowadays I look fierce, which I kind of like, but at the same time I miss being more pretty...
I don´t have that much wrinkles, a blessing for the fat lady - that is why I realize that even if I did some facelifts, "duck operation"(my upper lip is disappearing) and cheek bone-something - I would still have an old skin and experienced eyes.

In a weird perspective it is a blessing that I never considered myself as pretty or beautiful - looks was not my thing, brain and wittiness was - and is. If I was Meg Ryan I would probably value my looks to the extent that I would take precautions to keep it. But the result is tragic... and it angers me as I compare it to two good-lookers as Paul Newman and Robert Redford who has kept every wrinkle and still gets the good parts... as does the british ladies Maggie Smith and Judi Dench. It´s not fair how Hollywood gives mixed messages to female actors!

I could discuss that a lot but it was not the purpose of this blog. The purpose was that I was reminded on that my work is to accept and love myself whether I look old, young, wrinkled or botoxed... A beautiful soul is what I am going for!
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    It's the "experienced eyes" that reveal your beauty!
    3005 days ago
  • SILLYHP1953
    I am 58, too, and having the same feelings as you, AND have finally almost accepted getting older. Sometimes I think it's a little harder because my husband is 50. I hadn't realized that about Meg Ryan, that's too bad. I read a quote by Marilyn Monroe that said "I want to grow old without facelifts... I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I've made. Sometimes I think it would be easier to avoid old age, to die young, but then you'd never complete your life, would you? You'd never wholly know you".
    3006 days ago
    I was told a few years ago (by someone who called herself my friend - NOT) that I was aging really fast. But, now she looks WAY older than me.

    I have come to accept my age. I am still a beautiful woman (in the face), and in fact this week a person simply could not believe I am 60 years old (so I guess how old someone looks is in the eye of the beholder).

    I even (kind of) accept my body, but if I was healthy and had money I would definately have a tummy tuck. And, maybe some of that heated lipo to remove the major dimpling in my thighs that I have aquired with age. But, basically, if someone doesn't like the way I look that is there problem. And, if I don't like the way I look I can do a lot about it. Can't stop the aging process, but losing weight DOES make one look much younger, so if I want to look younger I know how to go about it. LOL


    I got a nice chuckle out of your comment "duck lips". LOL
    3014 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/5/2011 8:07:10 PM
    First of all, I don't think you look fierce. You are very pretty, your face looks soft and feminine. My DH's ex has had several facelifts, is about 5 years younger than me and looks like a grinning ring wraith. I prefer my wrinkles. thank you very much. Never did have thick lips, but I have a great smile so who cares.

    Wonderful post. Wonderful YOU!
    3016 days ago
  • SPMOM2
    you are beautiful just being you. If we all look the same, there will be no beauty in the world
    3016 days ago
    Love yourself, you are awesome just the way you you are. As far as Meg, it sad, I loved the way she used to look.
    3016 days ago
    emoticon Great one
    Yes you re right it is amazing what people will do for appearance.
    Beauty is only skin deep, the most beautiful person i ever met was a very wrinkly, skinny and old lady in the village I grew up in in sweden,she used to deliver the
    newspapers on bicycle year, snow, rain or sunshine.
    She probably weighed about 40 kilos all stamina and muscles close to 80 years old then , but boy she was the sweetest thing.
    Goes to show as long as we keep our hearts young ,we are dood to go.
    3017 days ago
    When you have a beautiful Soul, people don't even notice the Wrinkles.
    emoticon I'd rather have a Beautiful Soul than a "Beautiful"Body any day!!
    3017 days ago
    Hiya!!! I saw Meg Ryan and HAD to check this out. I totally agree - duck lips!!! I was a big follower of hers for many many years until she started to cave into Hollywood society and smoosh her face into unnatural shapes and poses. The duck lips comment made me laugh outloud! - my husband was staring at me like I was a freak!

    Yes, love yourself. Wholly and completely. Easier said than done though..... : )))
    3017 days ago
  • KMIRANDA2000
    I completely understand what you're saying. Not feeling confident in my looks got me into a lot of trouble with food and alcohol. Acceptance is something I work on daily.
    3017 days ago
    OMG---I think you are so smart!!! And I like the way you look--You are YOU!!! Beauty is the whole package--and you are beautiful girl!!!--Don't ever go for all that stuff the movie people do--- We are REAL people!!!! --And you ""jog"" and do races---and send out great blogs!--I luv ya!-Lynda
    3017 days ago
    Perfectly said!!

    The most beautiful people in the world are those that are kind, thoughtful, and filled with love for the simple things in life.

    3017 days ago
    Here's to acceptance and nurturing of the bodies we are given! If they function well, that is a huge blessing, and home for that beautiful soul. Wrinkles aren't the worst things in the world.
    3017 days ago
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