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Mouth Open...In Shock

Thursday, August 25, 2011

A good friend of mine just called and asked how I was doing, yada, yada, yada...then she said she was concerned about me getting back with Lindsey (the bf - 4 yr relationship that just ended a few weeks ago)...ummmm, I'm not with him and where did that come from??? This is the mouth open, in shock part...my "good friend" Janet, who I have been close to in the past and she did some underhanded things to me at work and we were not friends for a while but I forgave her and we have gotten close again, yeah, that "good friend"....told our Director here at work (the top dog)...that I had been "layed up" with Lindsey all weekend and how she was so hurt because she had befriended me and tried to help me through this time and that she had been so worried about me all weekend, trying to call me, yada, yada, and then come to find out I had been with him....UMMMMMMM....freakin' what???? I was with JANET all weekend...from Saturday at lunchtime until Sunday around 6:30pm...literally at her house the whole weekend...spent the night at HER house Saturday night...we cooked, watched movies, talked....at HER house Saturday and Sunday....with HER....what the what???? I am in such shock that I can't even think right now....

Does she have such a strong desire to "get in good" with the "top dog" that she would tell lies at my expense to try to do that...because "top dog" and I are very close??? Like I said, I just learned this within the last 15 minutes and my mouth is still open...I am so disheartened at this point by the less than genuine people that keep intruding on my life...I am one of the sweetest, concerned, most genuine, most honest people you would ever meet...I have cared for this girl as my good friend...she lives in this state away from all of her family and just yesterday I asked if she wanted to stay with me and my family during the hurricane that is expected to rip through Saturday....??????????????????
?????????? I don't know what to think....
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  • DHARRIS10
    I totally agree with all of the comments. This blog made my mouth drop open! She could really use some EAP and your boss should suggest it. A person like that could be really dangerous to you and I would stay far away. You know that old say'n...with friends like that, who needs enemies!
    3506 days ago
  • NEELIXNKES
    Wow, sounds like she is a bit delusional. I would just tell the director the truth if it comes up.
    So strange. Hope that the rest of your week goes well!
    3514 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Well I guess for me it would teach me that some friends really are not friends! Doesn't mean you're mean to them, but I sure wouldn't be on "friend terms" with someone who is like that. Took me many episodes of the same type of treatment to get that lesson through my head.

    I am guessing you'll be reading this sometimes AFTER you get back from staying with your parents. I hope you and they are safe!
    3520 days ago
  • NAYPOOIE
    Just curious. How do you know she told your director this? Did the director mention it? And why would the director care?
    3521 days ago
  • VICKLET31
    Wow! So sorry to hear that happened! Some people just don't know how to relate to others in a healthy way. Stay strong girl! Good luck with the hurricane!!!
    3521 days ago
  • AMANDA-CA
    Some people are so ruthless when it comes to work. It's hard to be the honest person who actually cares about people when others are stabbing each other in the back or cutting some serious corners just to get in good with the brass. So sorry this happened to you.
    3521 days ago
  • BE-THE-CHANGE
    Obviously she has some mental issues. Hopefully the director doesn't care to get involved in people's personal lives...or better yet, can see her for what she is. Certainly not a "friend". Put as much distance as you can between the two of you without causing her to spread more lies.
    3521 days ago
  • LITTLEKIM4
    Wow! Unbelievable! With friends like that, who needs enemies? It sounds like you've already given this Janet person more chances than she deserves. Cut her from your life. Be done with it. You'll be happy you did, I bet!
    3521 days ago
  • GGMOM06
    I agree with SMARTGAL, then confront her and let "top dog" know the truth. Guess you don't need "friends" like that or she has some real fear issues to lie like that. emoticon
    3521 days ago
  • TJHIERS
    lose that *so call friend * she is drama and bad news, who only knows what else she has said...
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    GOD BLESS, HOPE ALL WORKS OUT FOR YA, HUGS... emoticon
    3521 days ago
  • GREYASH
    Wow, it truly amazes me the levels that people will stoop to. First of all I would confront her and ask her point blank why she made up such a false lie, and why would she think that is news to your boss. Secondly, I would tell her that you no longer wish to remain friends and she can find shelter elsewhere for the upcoming hurricane. And lastly, I would clear things up with your boss. Explain the situation and that she is spreading lies and then be done with the whole thing. Just my two cents. You deserve so much better than that, my mouth is gaping just reading that.
    3521 days ago
  • GREYASH
    Wow, it truly amazes me the levels that people will stoop to. First of all I would confront her and ask her point blank why she made up such a false lie, and why would she think that is news to your boss. Secondly, I would tell her that you no longer wish to remain friends and she can find shelter elsewhere for the upcoming hurricane. And lastly, I would clear things up with your boss. Explain the situation and that she is spreading lies and then be done with the whole thing. Just my two cents. You deserve so much better than that, my mouth is gaping just reading that.
    3521 days ago
  • BBORDEN86
    I'm sorry to hear that this "friend" would turn her back on you like that. I don't understand why people lie, it gets you no where. Eventually all involved find out the truth. Honestly at this point, you should cut your losses. I just sincerely hope your boss isn't one to believe all that "drama" and ignore it. Hopefully this doesn't affect your job. Definitely shoouldn't let her stay at your house during the hurricane either!!! I know she doesn't have friends or family in the state, but TRUE FRIENDS don't backstab each other to get ahead. She should have thought about that before she ran her mouth. You need to stand your ground on this one, and get out of this "friendship". You deserve better than this!!!

    Good luck

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    3521 days ago
  • AWESOMECAROL55
    I would think..Friends don't do this to each other!! Dump her..you deserve better!!!
    3521 days ago
  • SEAGIRLRUN
    This isn't a stupid movie. You have a choice to be a grown up and be around mature people instead of teenager games. wow, I'm floored. How old is she now? And is this boss person a gossip hound too?

    I'd look for another friend or maybe another job unless it's all that and a bag of chips.

    Seriously, stay away from the Baggage Girl. (you can call her that now)

    Rebecca
    3521 days ago
  • HRENEE40
    Wow! That stinks! I've my share of underhanded 'friends' like that too and in my humble opinion, anyone who would go behind your back like that tell lies about you is certainly no friend. Sometimes it's best to get out while the gettins good...lol.

    Good luck!

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    3521 days ago
  • SMARTGAL91
    firstly calm down....
    3521 days ago
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