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He was lying about rehab!

Wednesday, August 03, 2011

I feel so stupid and gullible. The hospital unexpectedly released him so I had to go pick him up. Not sure why they did that since he obviously has congestive heart failure and very likely has a clot in his leg. As soon as we got home and started talking about rehab he said he wasn't going and said he only told me yes so i would shut up. The master manipulator wins again! I'm at the end of my rope.

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CAALAN23
I agree with Crystal that you are a special woman and deserve better. It's one thing to fight for your family but this battle is not yours alone, he has to decide. Whatever you do don't make it easy for him. Be strong!!

I know there is nothing I can say that takes away the hurt. Just remember that you have choices too.

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TKAYSMILES
Oh Kathy, so sorry you are having to go through all of this. My stepfather was an alcoholic too. Hard to live with. My suggestion to you is Alanon for you and the kids. Hugs to you!! Be kind to yourself though!!!
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WISHICOULDFLY
Oh my. I have not been on SP for quite a while and I am just catching up with a few of my Spark Buddies (specifically the bunny peeps!)

I am so sorry that you are going through such a tough time. I have no advice to offer as I have never had to deal with anything like this firsthand. I can and will offer you my support and prayers.
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HMEGLI
My wish for you is that you handle this in a way that's best and healthiest for you. Whatever that is, and however hard. This feels so painful for you, and my guess is no matter what course you take, it will be hard. Wish there was something better I could say.
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JANLEH

I wish I could think of something to say that would help you. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Please try to find someone to talk to who can help you carry this emotional burden. You have the right to live without this kind of stress.
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DIXIED88
Oh my...I'm a bit torn with this. Some people don't do well with rehab (think Amy Winehouse). Hubby wouldn't have stayed even if he started. He's done well with just not drinking up to this point.

Do you think he'll start again? Does he plan to keep drinking? Are you willing to deal with that?

I hate to say it but some people have to hit all the way bottom before they are willing to change. You will have to make a hard decision soon. I had to tell Hubby (in letter form-no arguing) that this was his last chance. Last warning type thing (just like I do with LO with unacceptable behavior). If you want this family (me and LO), you will stop the drinking. Choose drinking and lose us...end of story. Ever heard that Kenny Chesney song "that's why I'm here"? He needs to hear it & think hard.

I'm here for you. I'm so sorry he's putting you thru this. Alcohol hurts the ones closest to the drinker. You are a very special woman and deserve better.
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MACKANDME
Sounds like an intervention is in order if ever there was one.
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