Help Wanted For Abandonment Issues
Monday, July 11, 2011
All of what I'm going to say is tied in with food. My abandonment issues started before I was in school. I found food to be my only source of comfort. Yes, I'm currently at my goal weight but as I mentioned in another blog, I've lost and re-gained weight over and over throughout my life. Hopefully, being a fairly new member of SP, I'll be able to maintain my weight this time.
It was pointed out in therapy today that when I feel someone is going to reject/abandon me I put up a wall and shut down. The bad thing about this (as pointed out to me) my feelings aren't always correct. I do this with everyone! I have this information now. What do I do with it? I want others to like me and I want to have friends.
I know I can tell myself not to shut down and also tell myself feelings aren't facts. I don't know how to get rid of the feelings of thinking I'm going to be abandoned.
If anyone reads this and has suggestions for what I might do, I would appreciate anything you might share.