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Going in the wrong direction and Need Help!!!

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

I need tons of support. I know where I want to go I just don't have the road map to get there and seem to be riding in the wrong direction. Trying to find the map so I can get going again. I have gained 25 pounds since November and I am not happy about it whats so ever. I had been sick on and off between November and Feb. When I started working out again I am so mad I gained weight when it took me a year to lose 40. Now it is like starting all over again. Watched the biggest loser last night and I was so inspired by Hannah. She said that if you need help with losing weight all you have to do is ASK!!! So I am asking. But who? I am on here, I have seen the doctors and I have people on facebook that I talk to. But I have not a clue what I am doing. I am having a hard time getting started with working out and eating right. Usually I am on the ban wagon with no holds bar. But this time I am hesitant to start because last year I worked out so hard and ate right and lost nothing. Afraid that will happen again. Afraid to fail at weight lose. I was so inspired last night that I just need to do something NOW. I bought a bathing suit for motivation and feel like it is way too late now to fit into it. I am lost in a world I want to enjoy. I want to feel like they did last night. Free!!! Excited and have different goals than I do being Fat!!! I can not say enough about last night I love Hannah and Olivia they are the weight that I am and was when I started. I feel a connection with them and I want to lose 110 pounds just like they did. But I don't ever see that happening. I guess I am not in the right mind set.

So my question is where to I start and how do I ask for help? reaching out to ALL my sparkies!!!!!

Thanks in advance for your greatness!!!!

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    The same thing happened to me... It can be so disheartening to lose weight just to gain it right back. The most important thing is that you caught yourself and your getting back on track now. If you have a bad day just dust yourself and get back on track. Mistakes are going to happen, we're human. You will do this!!! emoticon
    3571 days ago
    Acknowledge that it has happened. Select a meal plan. Go strictly by the grocery list for a while. My nutritionists say it takes an average of 2 months to get used to this and not be very tempted to overindulge. I've been very fortunate to work on a college campus and be in contact with people I couldn't have afforded to go to.
    3573 days ago
    When I began, I just started with getting my nutrition in order. That took several weeks, jsut trying to keep it within the ranges and trying new recipes etc. THEN I added excercise. I have 110 pounds to lose too and looking at the big picture is very overwhelming. SMALL steps are the key. Try to drink at least 6 cups of water a day and work towards more. Track your food, (all of it!) then gradually add excercise. Going for a walk is excercise. It doesnt have to be a big deal. I walk most nights with my dog and hubby and I dont look at it like "having to go excercise". I just go for a walk which keeps my head straight. You can do it, you just sound overwhelmed. Just begin. Today. Jan
    3573 days ago
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    Looks like you just DID ask for help! :-)

    You're here, on Spark, in the teams and posting to your blog. That's a great way to go. I have found my Spark friends to be very supportive and as I am the 20th person to reply to your blog I think you are getting the support that you need.

    I hit a plateau from December-March myself. I know how hard that can be. Hang in there. Track, track, track, and keep coming back!
    3573 days ago
    I'm glad you posted that you are in need of support don't give up hang in there Are you tracking your foods and weighing & measuring them? That's the 1st place ot start to see what you really are eating What about cardio & strength training are you doing both? If you are then are you eating enough calories a day for your body? If you eat to little you will not lose weight. Remember its okay when we stumble as long as we pick ourselves back up and continue on this journey Change up your routine for some fun Maybe Zumba (zumba helped me get out of a rut) emoticon
    3574 days ago
    I'm glad you posted saying you needed support. There are so many people here to talk to and help you. I agree, small steps...don't try to do it all at once. emoticon emoticon
    3574 days ago
    I was also inspired by Hannah and Olivia. I'm also stuck at a stand still, but I think the best way to get back on track is to take baby steps. I'm starting with one thing and then working my way back up to where I've been before. You can do it!!!


    3574 days ago
    One step at a time Jenn. That's all you can do. Start upping your water. Get a few walks in during the day maybe take an extra Zumba class. Cut your portions and try to cut out one bad thing a week. You know what to do, now go out there and practice all the wonderful things you've learned. You can do this Jenn and we're here to help you! emoticon emoticon
    3574 days ago
    I can totally relate to the roller coaster ride you are on, and I didn't like it either! BL is extremely motivational, but the reality is that there are far more of us out there than the show could ever literally help. They have all been pushed to the breaking point to achieve their successes.

    I just read your blog and then your Main page. Have you read your own "MY PROGRAM" section lately? Are you meeting all those goals each day? We don't have personal chefs and trainers at our beck and call.

    I too have been overweight all my life. I just was diagnosed with arthritis in my low back, hip and knee, all related to carrying around exess weight for the past 60 years. Essentially my only hope for any relief from the constant pain is to lose weight and exercise more. You are much younger and can start reversing the side effects of being overweight before it is too late! Don't wait!

    You have a lot of support available to you on SP, but ultimately, you are the one who will make it happen. Identify your reasons and stick with your program, and you won't find yourself looking back 30 years from now in pain and regretting that you hadn't heeded the warnings sooner!

    3574 days ago
    Hey Jenn. No more Starting over. I know that sounds strange but You have been through so much over the past year, YOU Need a FRESH START! So today is your Brand New Fresh start, yes there is going to be so bumps but we have to learn to take breaks along our journey. It's much easier to take a well deserved break than it is to have to start over. Maybe you can refresh everything. Day 1...What did you do to get this journey started?? Start drinking water! No you are NOT going to start drinking 8 -10 cups to begin with but if you can focus on getting 5 or 6 that's a GREAT START! Move your body!! YOu love Zumba so go atleast ONCE a week(more awesome)but atleast once. You have a Wii, pick a day do a hour on Wii, once you get going a hr. is really nothing you know that, time seems to Fly when you're having a ball. How about taking those Beautiful kids on a walk, even if it's around the neighborhood a couple of nights, maybe right after dinner.(hey it might even make them sleep better emoticon )As for the Junk food or not so good for you foods, allow yourself once a week if you need it. I have not cut anything OUT of my diet, just portion control.
    YOU can do this JENN & I will be checking in on you. So NEW Beginning!! New Jenn!! New attitude!! I BELIEVE IN YOU!! emoticon
    3574 days ago
    You are well on your way asking for support. There is lots of support here. Track all of your food, stay within your ranges, drink at least 8 glasses of water daily, and exercise. With the exercise, start off slowly........you can do this.......one day at a time...If you have a bad day, don't fret about it, START FRESH the next day. There is always tomorrow, but if you do the best you can each day, you will win. It won't be fast or easy, but you can and WILL do it.
    3574 days ago
    I lost pretty significant amounts of weight twice...and regained both times...so I do understand what it's like to face your mistakes full on and work up the courage to try again. If it's important to you, and it sounds like it is or you wouldn't be here, you can do it.

    First of all, if you can learn from your mistakes, do so, but then flush away the rest of the past. All of the failures, the fears that, if you try again, the same thing will happen again. Just forget it, and start anew.

    The BL sisters are truly inspirational for all they've been able to achieve. They did it by believing in themselves, in each other, seeking support, giving 100%, and celebrating their victories. (I got cold chills listening to Olivia sing when she reached the 100-pounds lost mark!) Since we're not all on the ranch, and this is real life, and your results might not be a BIG, but you can still start making steps towards your goals.

    You know what to do. You've lost before. You just need to forgive yourself for gaining lbs back, pick yourself up, and start again. Believe in yourself and believe you are worth the effort it will take, and you'll be able to do this!
    3574 days ago
    I relate so much to how you feel. I have recently gained almost 20 pounds while doing everything right!
    I think taking one step at a time is the way to go. Start by making sure you drink 8 - 10 glasses of water every day. WHen you get that mastered, make sure you eat a fruit or veggie with every meal and snack. Track you food on the nutrition tracker so you can see how your eating is measuring up.
    Keep on adding one more step until you are doing everything you want to to get to your goals.
    I am here and I understand, if you need me. emoticon
    3574 days ago
    And what if you fail, does it mean you can't try again and keep trying. It took me 5 tries at Weight Watchers to finally get to goal and one of times I did reach goal but gained it all back. What is different this time. My support from Spark friends, my attitude that this time I can and will stay slim. If you don't try you will never succeed.
    3574 days ago
    You are here--you have started! Keep coming back--every day--many times a day if necessary--for support and motivation and LOVE. We can help you.

    When I started my journey in Dec. 09, I started slowly. I was unwilling to make drastic changes in my lifestyle, opting to eat just ONE helping of the regular food that I always cooked, and no between meal snacking. Oh...I also gave up my beloved Pepsi! When I saw the pounds come off, it motivated me to do more. I started cooking healthier food, like chicken, fish, lean beef and lots and lots of veggies, fruits and SALADS! In March 2010, I started walking. I went a little further every day, and now I can easily walk a 5K or further if I want. What a feeling of freedom to be able to move again, without being winded. I used to walk across the room and be out of breath.

    Biggest Loser last night WAS VERY MOTIVATING. Sometimes I wish that show was on TV every day! But you know what IS available every day? The help at Spark. The blogs are so inspirational. Not only at Spark, but other places as well: dietgirl.org and pastaqueen.com have great weight loss blogs. I read every entry they posted going back several years, their whole weight loss journey is there, and then they both wrote books, which I also bought and read. Hannah & Olivia got help from Biggest Loser. That kind of help is not available to most of us, but there is HELP out there. Sometimes it costs $$, like Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig. But sometimes it's completely FREE, like Spark.

    You Can Do This! And the day you start will be the BEST day of your life. You will never regret going on this journey!
    3574 days ago
    Been there, done that. It isn't easy but together we CAN do it.
    3574 days ago
    You are here and asking for help, that is your first big hurdle. Take it day by day, change one bad habit for one good habit.

    You have a lot of great advise here. I too am working to get back on track, lost 65 lbs and gained back 55 of it. So I know where you are.

    3574 days ago
    I totally agree with Bonji's post.

    I am praying for you and I'm here if you need support!
    3574 days ago
    You've just got to get back on track. One step at a time. One foot in front of the other. You can do this. Pick one or two small goals to reach this week. Water? Freggies? tracking? Working out at least 10 minutes a day at least 5 days this week? Pick two. Work on them this week. In a week, check if you did it. If not, why? What do you need to reach this goal? More time to keep trying? More support? What.

    Once you have these two down, add two more. Slowly allow these successes to build on eachother. You will find in no time you'll be setting the bar higher. Staying within calorie ranges. Getting in full high calorie burning workouts every week. Eating well. Drinking more than enough water.

    It really does work. You can do it. You are worth it.
    3574 days ago
    emoticon and you have many here to help support you my friend
    3574 days ago
  • SUSIEQ432
    step 1- keep track of EVERYTHING YOU EAT...stay within the calories allowed daily.
    step 2-exercise daily.....just keep moving...walking, stretching, weights...start slow and pretty soon your body will crave movement....
    Good luck
    susie emoticon
    3574 days ago
  • BONJI40
    Hey Jenn---
    You ARE taking that right step! Just asking for help here on SP is great--keep doing that! Post "I need support" in all your teams, send out notes, etc! We are here for you!

    My advice is just to keep taking a step forward in the positive direction every day. Just one step! We all know weight loss doesn't happen over night, so patience is key. Don't be discouraged with what happened over the last several months. You are stopping it now, right?!

    You've had stressors in your life, and it's time to take charge of your health! You're doing it girl!!

    BIG HUG!!
    3574 days ago
  • A39_C8
    Hey Spark sister!
    I am back on after almost the exact same stint as you. Lost 45 lbs last year, got sick early November and stayed sick off and on until March. Gained 20lbs back and just got diagnosed with Celiac's and leaky gut (autotoxicity). I have lost major amounts of weight (30 - 68lbs)in my life several times with very strict exercise and eating right, but feel burned out. I watch others excitement with weight loss but feel like the almost 100lbs I have to lose now has broken something in me that I don't know if I believe in my ability to do this again. I have four tall slender sisters that all got my dad's 6'4" genetics and I am here at 5' loving my family but hating knowing I am the only obese member of my 10 person family. Just went to a wedding and realized I was the fattest person in the room - do you know how awful that feels! My incredible husband commented that he would have me any day over any of the skinny woman in the room who he labeled as too fragile and unhealthy. I have six sons ranging in ages 4-19 with no sounding board as a homemaker. I love them dearly but in their support they don't understand how discouraged I am and how badly my heart aches. I found myself lying in bed this morning for an hour after I should have been up because it is so miserable lugging this body around all day and I couldn't face starting another day in this body. Would love to feel a connection with someone like you! I don't have incoming TV, so don't watch Biggest Losers, sorry I can't connect there.

    I feel with someone else to share desires and discouragements without the generic responses would be a great boost to what I know I need to do.
    3574 days ago
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