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NOT Putting on the Emotional Eating Slippers!

Sunday, May 08, 2011

Hope all my mommy friends had a great Mother's Day! I celebrated Mother's Day with my kids yesterday...so that DS would be free to accompany his wife to her mother's and grandmother's celebrations today. I figured it would be easier on him. And I'm all about that. So, today, it was just DH and I. We got the grass cut, I got most of the laundry done, we did the grocery shopping, and I have a nice, clean kitchen, too. Woo hoo!

I took yesterday "off" from Sparking. Well, I didn't track my food. I did go to the gym in the morning and did my full workout. I had plans to take the kids to Chili's for our Mother's Day celebration. Then, I found out that I made a mistake with our checking account and didn't have the funds available to take them out. So, on to Plan B, I had them over to the house for a dinner together. DH and I fixed a nice spread. We had Manwich, broccoli, corn, carrots, fruit salad, and fries. I think everyone enjoyed it. I was having a terrible guilt reaction inside, though, to the mistake. I felt embarrassed and guilty for messing up the checking account. I know they did not mind not going out...that wasn't the problem. I just really hated that I had messed up.

While DH was at the grocery getting stuff for our gathering and as I was cleaning house and getting ready for our get-together, I started munching chocolates. I haven't done the "emotional eating" thing since starting SP. I really thought it was "gone" and I was "over" it. Apparently not. It's right there...just as easy to fall into as ever. Ugh. So, I didn't track yesterday. I know I was over on my calories. And I learned that I can still be an emotional eater.

Today, I went back to tracking. Everything is recorded. I was in range on my calories. And I got some good exercise cutting the grass. I was thinking about the problem I had yesterday...and how easily I could slip back into the emotional eating problem. I think I understand it a little bit more. Emotional eating is like an old pair of slippers. They're broke in and comfortable and will ALWAYS "fit" just like an old pair of slippers. But, the thing is, these slippers will NOT take me where I want to go. I cannot wear them and get to 120 lbs. I can wear them and get back up to 243 lbs...that's where they take me. So, I do not have to check and see if my old slippers still fit anymore. They do. They are ready and willing and standing by...to be put on and take me back to 243 lbs whenever I would like to go back there. They'll always fit...but I'm locking them in the closet!

I don't want to go back to 243 lbs. I want to go to 120 lbs. So, I just have to NOT put them on. I have to continue to be in control, not beat myself up over mistakes that I make, and find a way to stay positive and moving in the right direction...no matter what's going on. It's not such a bad thing. If I could do yesterday over again, I would be extra nice to myself...understanding that I am very conscientious...and that I need to be kind to myself when I've made a mistake. I would not beat up a child that has made a mistake and is sorry. I would comfort them and try to point out all the good things about the child so that their self-esteem would return. That's what I need to do with myself. Hmmm. This is a good lesson for me.

So, for Mother's Day, I have learned a great lesson, and have a clean house and kitchen (due to having the kids over)! And we have a lot of great, healthy left-overs in the fridge! So, yay! It was a great Mother's Day! Hope yours was, too. Spark on! emoticon
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    Great insight! I have come to accept that I may always have a tendency to be an emotional eater--just not most of the time. Keep on assessing and reflecting! That is what has given me the most progress. HUGS, Sarah
    3734 days ago
    Wow! Great analogy!!!
    3737 days ago
    Aww why didn't the kids buy you your mothers day dinner?

    I think maybe the EE might have crept up on you this time because it's not such a huge thing, it was only a little mistake so you probably weren't thinking about it and working your way through it like you usually do with your emotional eating triggers. It's ok though, now you have one more that you know to watch out for!

    Happy Mothers Day!
    3737 days ago
  • CHEVY63
    What a great post! Thanks for sharing your insights - it's a great way to picture emotional eating!
    3737 days ago
    Glad you had fun, despite all the guilty feelings, and are back on track! At least you caught your mistake before you were overdrawn, that's important!
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    3737 days ago
    Love the analogy! I know those slippers well, and slippery is what they are!

    So, here's to those brief breaks and back on track. We can do this, and we're worth the effort!
    3737 days ago
    I absolutely love the slipper analogy, and I love your attitude of getting right back to tracking and Sparking away! I'm trying to do the same thing with the alcohol...get right back on track with mindful consumption and knowing that consuming food OR drink emotionally isn't going to take me where I want to go. I hope you're having a wonderful week, and thank you so much for all of the support! Your words really meant a lot to me in a low place this morning! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3738 days ago
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    Oh, man, money is such an emotional eating trigger for me, along with a certain family relationship. Good for you to think of EE as slippers you are refusing to put on. That' is a great metaphor and I am going to try thinking of it that way myself.

    I also love, love, LOVE your motivational poster! I'm going to do that too!
    3738 days ago
    I love the slippers analogy. You are so smart. Glad you had a fun day and there's nothing that beats a clean kitchen! It so seldom happens at my house. Glad you're enjoying the 5% challenge. I'm actually losing weight again Woo Hoo!
    3738 days ago
    I like your positive outlook on things. Even though we are not perfect and the situation is not perfect, we can do sooo much to improve every day. Starting with being a little more accountable. Great job!
    3738 days ago
    wow.. great reflections. I really like your relation of emotional eating to comfy slippers. it's really something to ponder on.
    3738 days ago
    Cathy,,, You are amazing emoticon ! I love the way you look at everything that comes up in your life and deal with it! You are one of my greatest motivators that I can do this! Thank you for being you! emoticon emoticon I am proud to call you my friend! Now let me touch on your guilt of not being able to take your family out to restaurant. To have your family complete, doesn't matter how your together,,, just that you are. After my son's death we as a family wouldn't care what the circumstances are or where we are to just have our family complete again. (Please don't take that wrong,,,we are moving on,,,it's just different! emoticon
    emoticon to you my friend and emoticon for all your help and inspiration! Your family loves you and I know it was awesome! Spark on and I'm here as many of us are, just waiting for your next blog to inspire us! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Oh yes, I forgot,,,,, I have old slippers too... They came out of closet yesterday...but I know why that happened... cemeteries and children shouldn't come into a parents life. I always thought it would be the other way around! That's life cycle! But today is a new day and you have helped me again! emoticon emoticon Cathy! emoticon
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    3738 days ago
    As you know, I'm an emotional eater as well. Thank you for this blog! I loved how you bring things right out in the open and deal with them. It is great and helps you but you'll never know how much you are helping others as well. Keep up the great job! We'll all get to our goals, some of us with your help!
    3738 days ago
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    I've always been an emotional eater also. There's a lot of us out there and it is easy to fall back into it. At least you really thought about what happened and you know where you want to go. You are on the right track. You can't change what already happened. But you learned from it and you are back on track today:-) emoticon emoticon
    3738 days ago
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    I understand feeling youcky over the account thing. It is great that plan B was there...and really if the roles were reversed we would never make someone else feel bad. Being kinder to our emotional self takes practice. For me, it can feel almost wrong...so putting myself in another person's shoes helps.

    You are doing awesome!
    3738 days ago
    LOVED your analogy of the child messing up and getting encouragement after 'fessing up. I also liked your emotional slippers. I'll never look at my slippers the same way!! My emotional slippers somehow found their way back on my feet the last couple of months. Took me back about half way to where I came from. But thanks to you and other SP friends, I know I have the tools, knowledge and support I need to get back on track. Thanks again, my friend. Have a great sparkling day! emoticon
    3738 days ago
    It happens. Throw those ratty slippers away. They don't fit the new Cathy! I think you did great and you set yourself up for a great week with all the healthy food you have in the fridge now.

    3738 days ago
    Wow! What insight! You're incredible Cathy! I hear ya about those comfy ol' raggedy slippers!
    I gotta pair of 'em too! emoticon
    But ya know what? I think maybe it's time to toss 'em...what do ya think? Can we do it?
    Oh yes, I think we CAN! emoticon

    I'm game, if you are! Let's do it!
    Tossing mine! emoticon

    And I'm so glad you're gonna be kind to that inner child! She's very deserving of your love, my friend! Hugs to you & her!

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    3738 days ago
  • JANIE724
    Great thing to remember! Once in awhile we will make a mistake, but it's really just normal, as long as we keep it to one time, or one day - and not let it string on to hours or other days. After all, we're all human, right???
    3738 days ago
    don't think about it anymore, just do better the next day. it's a new habit versus an old one , it's normal that the old one raise his head from time to time.
    emoticon (to replace your slippers) kori
    3738 days ago
    Yes, Cathy, it was terrific! Heard from 3 out of my 4 kids. Out to eat with daughter, DSIL and his folks. Played 'baseball' with my 23 mo old GS...

    Honey, when I am tempted to emotionally over eat I tell myself, "Oh, no...people who eat when they're upset have tummy trouble...." etc. It works, usually.

    One or two pieces of chocolate would have been fine...you can make it up though, as you say, by cutting back slightly and increasing exercise a bit over the next few days.

    I'm looking forward to Onederland myself. emoticon
    3738 days ago
    good post

    3738 days ago
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