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Still family crisis - but its seems to be running smother today

Sunday, April 03, 2011

I still feel out of control as there isn't much that I can do since I am so far away from Aunt Marie I've always have been there before when her daughter Faith and Scott were little any time she had to go to the hospital I was right there with the kids. Now I am feeling totally HELPLESS.

My cousin Ann made it to the hospital she lives about an hour and half away and has no vehicle but she was able to get someone ot drive her last night. Aunt Judy (the middle sister) has been there since Saturday when she found out thanks to her daughter Dawn. Was able to convince the brother who absolutely hates that hospital to go with his wife. Raymond hates that place with a passion his 1st wife died there many years ago she was in coma & hooked up to life support for 9 months before she lost her battle. (Drunk Driver killed her)

Was able to speak to my Uncle Gene here in Florida of what was happening this way he isn't in the dark Then I had to make that dreaded phone call to the OTHER Uncle that I'd rather not have anything to do with (we won't go there why I dislike him so much).

I'm waiting to get the phone number to my cousins who Marie helped raised as there mother died when they were very young. Family have been notified some by way of Facebook.

I do feel so useless as I can't be there to help out like I am use to doing when Donald & Stella needed help before they died I was there doing my small part. When Uncle Normie died a year ago this past christmas I felt helpless as well I couldn't get there or be there for him.

This really sucks being so far away and out of things. My cousin Dawn told her mother that if she will pay to get my mom back to New YOrk if need be as Dawn knows I don't have the funds for that right now I've got a good cousin and she has her own issues going on

So family is coming together as much as possible but I am worried for Scott as he has Autism and he tends to be violent from it Its hard to handle and deal with him Jerry who he tried to strangle last night has epilepsy's so he has issues Marie & her husband look after him So much that is uncertain.

Marie is still hooked up what I know for sure now is she stopped breathing for 7 minutes that got her back infection that traveled to the heart she is "septic" (don't even know if I go that spelled correct) on a ventilator its doing 70% of the work for her she is heavily sedated and very swollen

Sorry very long winded account
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  • JULIEANNCAN
    I'm so very sorry for all that you are going through. Just remember that you have done what you could do and what you have control over. You cannot stress about things that you don't have control over because you are right, it could kill you. I am sending you and yours lots of hugs and positive thoughts! emoticon emoticon
    3723 days ago
  • HIKETOHEIGHTS
    emoticon Thank goodness for the internet. It sure has made our lives easier. Take care of yourself too, Victoria
    3723 days ago
  • LILYGAL
    WOW!! You are dealing with a ton of stress. Be sure to take some time for yourself if it is only 15 mins. Go for a walk, read a book, hide in the bathroom!!! I'll be thinking of you.
    3723 days ago
  • ELISADENK
    Wow! I know the feeling of helplessness and useless. The BEST thing to do is pray!

    The only other thing you can do is keep track of what is going on.

    I know it isn't much....

    You and et al are in my prayers.
    3723 days ago
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