Angry and Livid
Thursday, November 04, 2010
Angry and livid are just two words. I can't formulate the rest. As I blogged back in July, my BIL was killed by a distracted driver in PA. She looked down at her cell phone, which was ON HER LAP, for "one second" and bam, she killed my BIL. She took the life of another human being in that tiny little instance. Why? Because she had a text or message or SOMETHING that mattered more to her than DRIVING properly and following the effing laws!!! Well, my poor mother-in-law has been dealing with this crap, going back and forth with probate lawyers and the DA, etc, and now she has this news for me, after going to PA to sell her dead child's car and house:
*Note from Mother-in-Law:
"Where to begin. I guess with if you want to kill someone and get away with it, then move to Pennsylvania. So on Monday Dad and I and our personal injury attorney met with the ADA the DA and a police officer from (the city) where Rusty's accident occurred. It turned out to be more than we thought. But they had made their decision, which is not to charge Name Removed (the stupid effing driver, who is in her 50s and a NURSE and who should KNOW BETTER than to drive while distracted!) with a criminal negligence charge. They said that the case did not meet the standards for criminal charges. And further more, even if she had been drunk, they still would not have charged her. Apparently she would have had to been drunk and slamming into other cars and maybe hitting a telephone pole or something and then slammed into Rusty for there to be charges. So apparently you can kill someone in Philly and get away with it. And here's the best part, they are not going to give her a careless driving ticket unless we say for them to and let me tell you why. They advise against it because just like any other moving violation, she can go to court and challenge it. They said her lawyer will probably advise her to and that a judge ( and I know all about judges from Other Son, who's been through the ringer with legal crap thanks to his psychotic ex-wife) can actually say that she did not drive recklessly and find for her and declare her innocent. So how do you like that? I can't bear the thought of her being declared innocent. I just can't bear it. So we probably will tell them to just forget it. Let me tell you what I know from Other Son, judges can do whatever they want to do. And up there these judges are elected officials and not always even lawyers. So anything could happen. So Personal Injury Attorney is looking into how this is going to affect our civil law suits. The DA said there is plenty of evidence for the civil suit and not to worry that her not getting a ticket will affect that. But suppose her insurance company comes back and says "look, she didn't even get a ticket." And then again if she is found innocent, that would be even worse. So cheers to America, the land of the free."
*END OF NOTE
Now back to me:
I am so mad!!! She is basically getting away with killing someone because there are NO LAWS to protect the victims of this crap there. There are NO laws against texting/cell phone use while driving in the state of PA. NONE! People can just look away for a second to look at their stupid phone and kill someone and get away with it. Lovely!!! The civil suit will hit her personally, if they can win, which I guess is better than nothing but it pisses me off that the state doesn't see a reason to charge her with criminal negligence. MAYBE if you get drunk and smash up a couple of cars THEN they give a crap, but if you only kill ONE person, well, slap on the wrist! Go back to your job! You know, I'm sure this woman feels terrible and I hope she does. I hope she is in agony for the rest of her life for what she did. Yes, I want her to suffer because no amount of her suffering will EVER compare to what she's done to this family. None. So, screw sympathy for her, I have none anymore. I hope her life sucks. Yes, I'm taking it out on her that the state has crappy laws. I don't care. And well, if she won't pay with criminal charges I guess I want her to pay with her emotions and whatever else makes her wake up miserable over taking the life of another human being, when her job is to save lives and to help others.
Every time something comes up about this case, or we talk about the accident, the grief starts all over again for this family. Everyday, my MIL and FIL wake up knowing her middle child is dead and will never ever say hello to them or smile at them ever again. Every single day she lives with an indescribable pain. My ex will never get to see his little brother, the little shadow who trailed him through to their teenage years, again. Their youngest brother will never see his older brother, the one HE shadowed for years, ever again. He was like the perfect middle child - a best friend to his older brother for awhile, a best friend to his younger for their later years, and of course, a brother to both forever. Maybe if he weren't taken in such a horrific, tragic, shocking way, it would be easier to deal, if he'd been sick or something. But no, one person's poor judgement wiped him off the planet and there isn't even any justice for him over that.