A big thank you all!
Sunday, October 31, 2010
For sending good thought in my times of despair!
Yesterday I went to an AA meeting after crying for hours. Before I went in I spoke on the phone with my daughters teacher and it dawned to me that she thinks that my daughter might have ADHD. Which I have a very hard time to believe and after reading all I can find about it on the net I believe it even less.
Against ADHD is that my daughter is not "moody" with tantrums or depressed behaviour. She does not have a bad self image or confidence (so far) She does not put herself in danger by doing stupid things and she has never impulsively done something that was stupid. Her language is very advanced and she is "normal" in school subjects. Her coordination is okay – but I have engaged her in gymnastics, circus and dancing since she was little since I believe that you need to train coordination and muscles to develop your brain.
But my research on the net says that most research are done on boys, they do not know how adhd girls behave...
For adhd is that she speaks to much and without thinking in class, has a hard time to work when things happen around her and have a hard time to be still – I call her the "antsypantsy"...
The teacher will engage a "specialpedagog" to come in the class and observe what happens.
And me – I ordered magnesia oil and gel from internet (93 euros!)
Because her behaviour with speaking and interfering is also a need for attention and I know that she does not get that much of it at her fathers.
Autumn break is coming up...she is coming monday and staying all week. I will have to work half days but the rest I will really try to find ways to be with her, give her massage and maybe find some dancing or other activities for her!
For me? Well attending an AA meeting helps. The first guy to share is normally very boring, he tells pointless stories and talks to long... and this time he suddenly revealed (after five years of sobriety and the man is about 60 years) that both his parent were alcoholics and his fathers friends used to abuse him when he was very young.
He can be as boring as he wants in the future. I was humbly reminded that I never know what burdens other people carry and I am privileged to get to hear their shares.
I felt a lot better after that meeting. I am not alone. And again – thank you all who took the time to write encouraging words to me!