Am I insensitive?
Monday, October 25, 2010
I was talking to a friend of mine. She is in her late 30s. She is morbidly obese. She has been on high blood pressure medications for a long time. Last spring her blood pressure was extremely high. She had a new doctor due to a change in her insurance. This doctor was appalled. He gave her "the talk." I call it that because he/she says basically you are killing yourself. Her doctor put her on the Adkins Diet. At first she was reluctant but she did try it. She lost some weight and her blood pressure became stable.
Now she is back to her old ways. She is eating fast and processed food. She has no concern for her health. The kicker for me is that I have no sympathy. In fact it almost makes me angry. I really do not understand why I have this reaction. It just isn't the reaction to her plight but alos to others who aren't taking control of their health.
For example, I met a guy who seemed nice. But he has type 2 diabetes. He has had it for 5 years. He is not trying to diet or exercise. He said that his doctor has told him that he may have to go on insulin. I decided that I couldn't date him. I explained that I didn't think we had anything in common. He knew that I was trying to beat those demons once and for all. I just can't see myself with someone who cannot commit to themselves.
I now feel that maybe this negativity towards people that do not try to take control of their health is my bias. In my mind, I say I should be sensitive because I was once their shoes. But in the next thought I say but I am trying to do something to change that.
Anyone who reads this please give me your feedback. Am I being insenstive?