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Something no parent should have to go through

Saturday, September 11, 2010

I feel like if I don't write this down, I will explode!! My only son passed away on the 2nd of this month. Our hearts are broken, and wonder if we will ever be ok again. I didn't give birth to this child, I have been his mom for 34 years. His name is Gary and he was only 43 years old. They think it was a heart attack, but won't know for sure until all the reports come in. How does a family get over something like this? I know they say life goes on, but how do you put everything back together and be normal again? No matter what kind of relationship you have with your child,good, bad or ugly, there will always be that missing link.

This Sunday our family will have a private memorial at the house. He loved the lake and always said he wanted his ashes over the lake if he ever passed. We are going out on the boat and give him his wishes. After that we can begin the healing process.

I have no idea why I am writing all this to almost complete strangers, but I feel like I have gotten to know some of you. Give your kids a hug today and tell them you love them!
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  • JIBBIE49
    emoticon How sad. I read about a couple who lost their son at about this age, and they used his life insurance money to go to Russia and adopt two orphans who were 8 and 10, and were raising them in their nice home, planning to help them through school and college. Maybe you can help some local child through "Big Sisters" program, etc. There are many children who need a mentor to help them to a better life.
    3159 days ago
    I lost my husband just over 6 months ago. He was also 43, and died of a massive heart attack. Someone recently gave me this link that I found helpful. I hope it can help you, too: http://www.griefshare.org/

    hey list local support groups, which I haven't looked into much, but the daily emails have been good for me.

    3159 days ago
    Words can not express my sympathy for the loss of your son. You are right, no parent should have to go through something like that.

    These words will probably not help, but time does help heal the wound that is created by the missing person in your family. And it helps to celebrate all of the good memories and joy that he brought to you.

    My deepest sympathy, Joann
    3159 days ago
  • TERRI289
    I am sorry that I missed this blog. I am so sorry for your loss.... emoticon
    3536 days ago
    Oh, Carol. I am SO sorry to hear this sad news. My heart, prayers, and thoughts go out to you and your family. There are no words, other than I am so sorry.

    3549 days ago
    Sorry about your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
    3556 days ago
  • AMYJEAN911
    I'm so very sorry for your loss.
    3556 days ago
  • BJMM_7
    I deal with death on a regular basis because of the job I have and have also dealt with it on a personal level too... I do not think you ever get over it, you learn from it and learn to live with it. It will always be a part of you know, something that you will carry with you in every aspect of your life. My prayers are with you as you begin this journey of healing.
    3557 days ago
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