You have completely missed the point. Sorry, but you can be blunt and honest without shaming someone for being fat.
Do you have ANY idea how long it took for me to start leaving the house again? The stares I used to get, the judgmental comments?
So because someone's fat it's okay to make fun of them? Absolutely not. Being comfortable in your own skin is heads and tails above being okay with being fat. Do you think if any of us were okay with it, we would be here?
I'm sorry, but I find the attitude of shaming fat people for being fat to be completely unacceptable. 3304 days ago
my problem with this, is that we are teaching our children that being fat is ok.. it isnt ok.. it is unhealthy, and unacceptable.. look at children today, there is a problem with obesity among the youth of america. Children need to know and understand that is not acceptable. Sometimes it takes someone being very blunt and honest with them for them to wake up and to start changing their lives around. 3304 days ago
Thank you! I love this, it is amazing how people think they can say anything to you if they think they can identify with you, even if it is only a little bit. Very good points, thanks for posting this! 3307 days ago
I must admit that I have laughed at some of the jokes on televison but when the joke is aimed at real people like the clip on Americas Got Talent, I get angry and feel uncomfortable. 3317 days ago
I agree Rayani, teaching your children that people come in all shapes and sizes for whatever reasons is what this world's about. I have a 6 year old daughter that during the past year came to the realization that her mom was "fat". She also compared me to her father and his "thinner" family. I had a very long heart to heart with her to explain that one, she comes from my genetics and I used to be just the same as her, and two, all people are made differently and that I am trying to become healthy and that I may never ever be a skinny mommy but would she not love me or her aunts (heavier than normal ladies) because we weren't "skinny". She had to think a moment and she said, "NO Momma, I love you SO much!". I also explained to her that some of those comments hurt feelings and that we don't hate or disrespect people because they're different. I am glad I had that talk with her because she has been enlightened that we are all different in many ways. I appreciate your blog and like most comments left here, thank you for saying what most of us are thinking. Keep up the great work. 3328 days ago
Thanks for posting this--it's easy to get lost in the "bad" things about being fat and difficult to realize that there is still a lot of good in YOU.
Where is the balance between fighting the fat, hating the fat, loving yourself, and accepting who you are? It's a struggle for many of us. I admire your courage and love your sarcasm and sense of humor. Don't let the b*stards get you down.
Your examples were eye-opening. It seems like being fat is the only thing you joke about and not be called insensitive. I've avoided so many public situations because I couldn't bear to think about what others would be thinking about me being overweight...sometimes I want to wear a sign that says "Under Construction...I am losing weight!" I will tell you that da maniacs (guys on your America's Got Talent example) are like celebrities in Dallas! 3330 days ago
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for this vlog post. WOW, you said so many things I've always thought. I DO NOT understand people today! Especially those that HIDE behind the internet. What happened to manners??? I was originally going to start a vlog on Youtube but decided here would be better, with like minded non-judgmental people. Plus I wouldn't have the time to sift through all the cowardly haters comment posts. SO GLAD I made that decision! I can't understand how people can honestly walk around thinking they are perfect. Sadly, bad parenting and media have caused people to behave like ADULT BRATS. But you're right, it's THEIR problem.
This video is AWESOME! I had a lot of dropped-jaw moments, I am so sorry that people have treated you so badly. I think there needs to be a lot more teaching of manners in our society, but I am finding out, as a teacher, that it is somewhat of a lost art. Very sad. People are very self-centered. I used to be a little judgmental, too (though I would never have insulted anyone over weight) but when I got really sick before my hysterectomy and gained 14 pounds without doing ANYTHING I realized that a lot of weight problems are medical issues. Anyway, congrats on losing 50 pounds that is so cool! And this is a very courageous and insightful vlog--and you are right it IS the last acceptable thing to make fun of, I think someone else wrote a blog last week about the "last acceptable prejudice" which was also very good. Keep up the good work and I hope to see your vlog again soon!
YOU ROCK!!!!! I wish I was as strong as you are! I can't look at myself and see anything good yet. I hope one day to be able to look at myself and say that I'm worth it but so far I'm going on my family and friends who say I'm worth it and I have to try for them! Hopefully one day I'll be as strong and as awesome as you are! Thanks for the inspirational rant! 3332 days ago
Bravo I loved your blog- some people are "hit me with a brick" suffers.. I can so relate to this, with insults.. People would give me evil steers and think I was starving my kids.. 3332 days ago
I really liked your video blog..I can relate you to so much!! I am a teacher and my students are really rude sometimes. I try to not let them bother me so i block them out. I just do my job everyday like nothing. If you ever want to talk .. I am here.. I am Steve and I live in Indianapolis Indiana.. I belong to Spark people thru my work. take care..and have a great day. 3332 days ago
All I can say is U GO GIRL!!!!!! Love ur vlog!!!!I'm sure we have all had these situations happen to us. I had a little kid in the store ask me why I was so fat. I looked at their parent then back at the child, and said " god makes us in all colors and sizes". The parent didn't bat an eye!!! 3332 days ago
I love your blog and you inspire me with each entry. I think we all know when the world gets done complaining about the smokers the so called overweight people are next in their sights. Just this year my insurance from my employer gave everyone a choice either pay 600 dollars more for ins or become smoke free and no extra cost so how long till they say if you are overweight we are going to charge you more for insurance? With the coworker comment I think you are overly sensitive and she was trying to give you a complement. Maybe she sees herself as being ashamed of her weight and this is her way of finding common ground to be friends with you. With children if we like it or not they do tell the truth. When this happens I just agree with them and reply hope you never get to be my size. People comments only hurt if you let them. The important part I heard was you lost 50 pounds Wahoo! Congratulation us overweight people we understand how hard every pound is to lose. 3332 days ago
Kudos to you! I love this vlog. I have been in your situation too many times before. I told my mom the next time a little kids says I'm fat (don't you hate that the parents do nothing about it) I was going to tell that kid that the only reason why I'm so fat is because I love to eat little kids. I dare the parent to say something to me.
I also can't believe the conversation that your co-worker had with you, that is totally inappropriate. One day I was at work and a co-worker guy was telling me about how he took his mom shopping to buy a winter coat. He was telling me how good of a deal he got and how it was such a wonderful coat and then he says "You know my mom is a fairly large lady too". I mean geez, what was I supposed to say to that? Some things are just better left unsaid but I think unless you have walked a mile in our shoes smaller people don't really know what is appropriate and whats not.
As far as Mike and Molly, I mean I don't know what to say. When I first heard about the show I was outraged. I mean its great to see more big people on television but why can't they just have normal lives, why is it always drawn attention to that they are fat or have something to do with food, or losing weight? 3332 days ago
You know what? I am so moved by your bravery and conviction to record this blog. I've been in this struggle, officially, for over twenty years now. I've felt every way possible about this subject. I'm not going to hijack your rant for my own, but the overwhelming message (and the most important one) that I heard was this...
YOU LOST FIFTY POUNDS!!!!
I hope and pray that I will soon be able to say this about myself...
You are amazing and ... amazing!
In order to even get to a decent place in my head about this, I had to start watching decidedly more positive stuff and get my head out of the generally negative attitude that is so prominent in mainstream media. It sounds Pollyanna, but it really does make a difference. I wish I had gotten that when I was younger, like you!
Hi sweetie, just want you to know that if I see some big girl a the gym or out jogging, and I look at them, I'm thinking, "You go, girl!" I'm real proud of you for taking care of yourself & working out. If you feel like someone is looking at you, just imagine they are thinking like me, and smile. 3332 days ago