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Monday, April 19, 2010

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    While it is true that God does not like divorce, He tells us in His own Word that if a spouse is unfaithful, you may end the marriage. I got a tone of confidence from reading this. You are confident your marriage is over, and I am confident God will give you the strength and guidance you need to move on. All you need to do is ask Him and allow Him to work in your life. I pray God's Blessing upon you and your children and your soon to be ex-husband. I know you will get through this. Take care and God Bless. Rick emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4034 days ago
    I truly admire your courage and strength. Just put it into God's hands, and he will carry you through this tough time. I am proud of you for taking care of yourself and doing what is best for YOU. I am happy that you are able to realize that eating will not solve anything. I am sending you hugs.
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    I think it is great that you have a plan. I also think it is great that you are letting yourself feel the pain, so many of us stuff it down and then it comes up at completely inappropriate times. Remember YOU are important and children are resilient more than people think. I am talking from experience been on both sides. Good luck on your fork in the road. May it lead you to health and happiness you deserve. Congrats on weight loss.
    4035 days ago
    Take care of yourself my friend. It's clear from your blog that God has given you the strength and confidence to handle this with a level head, and your children are the angels that will carry you through this tough time. We're here if you need support. God bless. emoticon emoticon ~Mish~
    4035 days ago
    Your confidence and calmness come through so much in this post - congrats on that! I love your line at the end about cheating and not eating :) *hugs* to you and know that your sparkfamily is supporting you and anything that makes you happy!

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    Oh my friend..This is all a lot to take in.
    The fact that you didn't BLOW up!! Is a sure sign you knew already..Also you feeling STRONG..And CONFIDENT is a gift from GOD.

    Look I know divorce is frowned upon..And in God's eyes its "Death til you part"..
    BUT clearly you are not happy..Not only that..Your husband does NOT deserve you!!

    Yes the kids will be upset..BUT later will realize how strong their Mother is,and that YOU would do anything for them.
    YOU deserve to be happy.And in the future a good Man will come along.

    Don't let what others think or say get to you..YOU must do what is right for YOU,and your Children.
    In your heart you know what is right..That is another gift from God.
    I wish you nothing but the best.
    God Bless my friend~Christina

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    4036 days ago
    I'm sending you a hug.. you are so strong... what you wrote at the end shows the power you have. I don't have much to say in words, but I hope I join the voices of many who will support you. I have a good friend whose divorce was not supported by people in her church, and it saddened me greatly. Remember that others judgment is not about you.. its usually about them. Take care of yourself, and love those kids.. they will be okay..I'm hoping they also surprise you with their strength.
    4036 days ago
    Coming to a realization like this one is never easy--and the text message that served as the last straw, even if it wasn't a complete surprise, can't have been much fun to discover.

    I'm so glad that you're feeling calm and confident, and that you're taking the time you need to make a plan that will work to get you out of this situation.

    Sorry that your Bible Study group was less than supportive. Be aware, though, that sometimes people are threatened by seeing someone else make a positive move because they themselves are putting up with an awful situation, but haven't (yet) had the courage to remove themselves from it. Please don't let *their* issues dilute *your* resolve.

    I myself am a "child of divorce"--and given that my father was an alcoholic, a womanizer, a compulsive gambler, and a pathological liar, I have always felt that my mother did both herself and me a *huge* favour in getting us away from him. She did her best to make sure that I had positive male figures in my life (uncles, family friends, and so on), and as a result, I grew up with I suspect is a much healthier attitude toward men and relationships than I would have had if she'd stayed with my dad.

    My own divorce was, while mutually decided upon and extremely amicable (we're still friends, 10 years later--we just make better friends than we did husband and wife), still sad and painful.

    You're bound to feel quite a rollercoaster of emotions as you go through this process. May you continue to know in your heart of hearts that this experience represents only one door closing--and it'll almost certainly result in others opening onto spectacular vistas for you.

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    4037 days ago
    Wow Girl...you really have it together! Stay with your plan cause it is a perfect one! Good for you! You know when you've made the right decision by how it makes you feel, and it sounds like you are feeling that way now!
    You and the kids will be fine with a new beginning.
    And hey, Congrats on the weight loss! You are already on your way down the road to a happier you!
    4038 days ago

    It's amazing how when the end really comes you can be so calm.
    I remember when my first marriage ended. I was standing looking out my kitchen window when I noticed the horse behind us was not moving. My only thought, horse is dead. Well that's it, the marriage is over. All the while standing calmly drinking my coffee.

    My kids still joke about how I decided it was finally over. Like you it the marriage is over for a long time. I think it's like this for many people and it isn't a spur of the moment decision. We finally get to the point where you feel good about moving on and are ready to accept. Ending a marriage takes a long time, we talk about it, throw temper tantrums, decide to try again, hear from our friends and family thoughts on why is it taking us to long to move on. But at the end of the day we are the ones that have to live with our decision and we need to be at that place in our minds that we can handle it.

    I think you handled everything great. Your kids will understand that this is the best for everyone. Maybe not right away, but very soon.

    I wish I could give you a hug for being so amazing and strong.
    4038 days ago

    That was a LOT to swallow! Your email really gives me the sense that you are indeed calm!! Kudos to you!!!!

    I honestly can't imagine my reaction...but I know it wouldn't be as civil as yours!

    You should really be proud of yourself and self-control!!!

    Congrats on the weight loss!

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