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Date Dilemma...

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

I just found out TODAY..about an hour ago in fact that my mother wants to plan to have a suprise birthday dinner for my grandma's birthday THIS saturday night. Well, I am supposed to go on the first "official" date with Mike this saturday night. I know that I have no choice but to go with my family because I would never hear the end of it and it would be the END of the world in their book eventhough id rather go with Mike. But heres my issue..this means I have to unfortunately cancel on him. I really dont want to because I dont want him to think that this is really just me not wanting to see him again or me being uninterested..ya know?!?! I REALLY like him so much already and I want more than anything to see him but I dont know how to communicate this with him. I dont want to sound too clingy and girlfriend like ALREADY but I also dont want him to think that im canceling because I found "someone better" or I want to go out and party instead..ANY ADVICE?! Help me my spark mamas and family!
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    I'll bet you told him and he totally understood, right?
    3626 days ago
    /agrees with everyone else...he sounds like a good guy and he should understand that family obligations come up even if you'd rather be hanging out with him ;-)
    3626 days ago
    See if you can move it forward to Friday night or early Saturday. That shows enthusiasm! He must be special.
    3626 days ago
    I think we all agree, tell him what's going on and offer alternative times to get together so he will know you aren't trying to blow him off. If he's a decent guy, he'd never ask you to put him over your family at this point in your friendship.
    3627 days ago
    i agree to just tell him the truth. he will more than likely be just as bummed as you and will try and reschedule - probably on sunday :) good luck! emoticon
    3627 days ago
    The truth is the best way to go, then offer up another time you are available so he sees you are still interested. If he's as good of a guy as he sounds, he will understand family comes first.
    3627 days ago
    Okay, tell him the honest truth. Your mother is planning on having a surprise party for your grandma. Explain - that you would rather be with him - but family is family....he might just like you more, because of your dedication to family. Get him to commit to another date for your "first" one....
    3627 days ago
    Just tell the truth. :)
    3627 days ago
    How about you let him know what's up and offer to meet him either before or after the party. And then he can decide what works best for him and you're completely open and honest about your desire to meet up with him. I'm positive that if he's a decent guy, then surely you can work out a compromise. Because that's what relationships are all about! :0)
    3627 days ago
    Try setting the date time early in the day or after the party or the day before or the next day. Just be up and coming about everything.
    Best of luck.
    3627 days ago
    I agree with Liz. Explain what your mom is planning and ask if you can meet up before or after the party or even reschedule for Friday night or Sunday. He should understand as things come up. Just be honest with him. I'm sure he'll appreciate you letting him know.
    3627 days ago
    Tell Mike the situation, and say "I can't do this night, but do you want to go Sunday (or whatever) night?" Also, do you have to go at night? Can't you go before the party? If he really likes you, he'll happily & willingly wait to go on a date with you!

    Hope everything works out :)
    3627 days ago
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