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What I have . . . and what I have not!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Today I got to thinking about my weight loss journey. I have been feeling a little down on myself because of what I have not done. Then, I started thinking about what I have done . . . and that took me back to thinking about what I have not done in a more positive light. I know that probably doesn’t make sense, so let me explain.

1. I have lost 50 pounds . . . I have not reached my goal— but I only have 20 pounds more to go.

2. I have maintained this weight loss for 2 years . . . I have not become one of the 95% of people that gain the weight back.

3. I have joined a gym . . . I have not become one of the people who pays for their membership but never goes.

4. I have been going to the gym 4-5 times a week for almost one year . . . I have not been inconsistent in my workouts.

5. I have gained muscle mass and firmed up . . . I have not been repulsed by the muscles I have built up-- in fact, I love them!

6. I am accustomed to hydrating my body with lots of water . . . I have not given up caffeine, but I have cut back.

7. I have learned to eat 4-6 servings of fruits and vegetables everyday . . . I have not complained about washing them, cutting them, cooking them or eating them.

8. I have lowered my blood pressure . . . I have not raised my LDL “bad” cholesterol.

9. I have raised my HDL “good” cholesterol . . . I have not missed the fried and fatty foods I used to eat.

10. I have been enjoying shopping in the regular-sized women’s section . . . I have not missed the plus-sized section at all.

11. I have been able to wear the high heels I love . . . I have not missed wearing the practical shoes I had to wear when I weighed 220 lbs.

12. I have slipped up and had bad days . . . I have not let myself fall back into that old “all or nothing” mentality.

13. I have gotten right back on track after over indulging . . . I have not gotten mad at myself for being human.

14. I have learned to think positively . . . I have not allowed myself to harbor the negative thinking patterns I once had— no more violin playing for me!

15. I have come to like the person I see in the mirror . . . I have not set unreasonable expectations for myself— like looking like a supermodel.

16. I have come to accept a bulge here and a stretch mark there . . . I have not returned to self-defeating notions of perfection that set me up to fail.

17. I have come to learn that there is beauty in imperfection . . . I have not compared myself to others like I used to.

18. I have become accustomed to the fact that my husband can wrap his arms all the way around me . . . I have not missed the size 44 DD bras I used to wear— my 36 C’s are just fine with me and with him.

19. I have accepted that my husband thinks I am a sexy Goddess . . . I have not argued with him over this fact like I used to when I was heavier.


Be kind to yourself; remember success is a journey not a destination; and don’t forget we are all on this road together. Together, fellow Sparkers, we can triumph against all odds!

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    It's been a while since I checked out your page but your Vegas comment caught my eye. (My 2 daughters just returned from there- not richer but happy with having felt the sun's warmth!). I thought what're the chances they walked past each other out on those busy sidewalks... it IS a small world, you know!
    What a great way to encourage oneself- by thinking positively and rejoicing in one's accomplishments instead of dwelling on the negatives. We all need to learn to do it this way, don't we?

    What is it that makes us want to focus on the "I didn'ts"? No wonder we have such a hard time! Thanks for the reinforcement on the power of positive thinking!
    3730 days ago
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    3917 days ago
    Hi Friend

    I love your positive attitude and great guns. But after all that ? What could be negative? I find negatives too and sometimes they lead me to think or my mind since it is positive leads me AWAY from negative. Yesterday I felt so good I wanted to make myself feel a little awful. Ironic HUH?
    I acutally typed this comment without an error. good for me. Sometimes the simple things lead us to greater acheivements.

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    3976 days ago
    You have no idea how much I need to read this today! Thank you for sharing it with us.

    4085 days ago
    thank you for reminding me that what we have accomplished should not be forgotten, and what we have yet to accomplish is what makes life worth living!
    4122 days ago
    What is all of our hard work for if we don't reward ourselves with positive affirmations and a pat on the back? Good going. You've made terrific progress. keep up the good effort. -- Lou
    4133 days ago
    I don't know why, but it seems easier to look at the negative and I loved your post because when you do look at the positive accomplishments they are usually much greater than you remember.

    Way to go on the weight loss and positive attitude. Keep up the good work!! emoticon
    4133 days ago
    Congratulations on losing 50 pounds and keeping it off for 2 years!!! That is an incredible accomplishment.
    I am working at even trying to visual successfully losing 40 pounds and can't really believe that I can do it but people like you help me to continue trying.
    It sounds like you have a fabulous attitude and a supportive husband. I'm sure the remaining 20 will go away eventually but even if they don't you are a success and an inspiration.
    4135 days ago
    What a great post! You are doing so fabulously! You're an inspiration, and I know you can finish your journey!!
    4135 days ago
    This is one of the best posts I have ever read. I have been so down lately about my weight loss but I really enjoyed your post. I too started at 220 and now 2 years later have kept it off. As I read through your "I have's" I can relate to almost all of them. I would LOVE to say I eat the fruit and veggies, but that is my weak area..I do NOT like them. Anyway, heres to our last 20 pds.
    4135 days ago
    Thank you so much for sharing your accomplishments. It has made me look differently at my journey and it has just started. You have been an inspiration.

    4135 days ago
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