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court date today

Tuesday, February 02, 2010

Well....... I was told by someone who didnt know, I guess, that the money I had been getting in Jan would be mine until the court date changes it. This was NOT true. My x was asked today about what he wanted to do with the over payment of $450 and he said I had to pay it back! He could have let it go, he was given the option. Also, child support has gone from $212 a week to $83. and he wants to start seeing the kids again after a year and a half now. They both have busy schedules and my daughter doesnt even want to see him again. She will have no choice in this matter. I will find it hard to pay for gas to get to his house to pick up the kids since he lives 40 minutes away. It has been a very disturbing day for me.
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    My ex is the type that would say, Yeah, I'll get them and take them to the events but if you want them back, YOU come get them or they will miss church or school and it will be YOUR fault.
    I like the child advocate idea too. I dont have proof he is a bad influence though.
    3646 days ago
  • no profile photo BEANYGIRL
    Yes yes yes...you DO NOT have to drive kids there and back...and if he does not have the proper seatbelts then he will have to buy them if he really wants to see the kids...as for your daughter not wanting to see him...get a hold of a child advocate through the courts for her and if he wants to see her then he needs to schedule it when the advocate is there...that way you are not put in the middle...as for the money...make arrangements to pay it back in installments...do not leave yourself short...there is a reason he is your ex...make him do the work...you do not need to cater to his whims...you have rights and so do your kids...find out why the support $$ went down...can he provide a safe environment for the kids?...ask ask ask questions...you don't have to jump through all the hoops on his timetable...your kids have the right to get used to the idea...you have support here on this site and people, like me, who actually care about what happens to you...Sparkmail me if you need to...Peace&Hugs, Beany
    3647 days ago
    Above all, don't penalize the kids. Cowboy's ideas are good!
    3647 days ago
    Yes Amen this is true very good advice cowboy ! emoticon emoticon
    3647 days ago
  • COWBOY49
    Integrity Blue, Keep working toward your goal and if the ex wants to see the kids tell him he can but if his time happens to be during one of the kids activities then he will have to attend the function. Let Him take the kids to there activities and drive the 40 min burning his gas. Make the availabilty there but with how do you say it ( financial stings attached ) Have the Ex drop off the kids at your home and save you the driving. But most of all dont give up spark people.
    You are doing this for yourself and your kids.
    Lets Spark. emoticon
    3647 days ago
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